I took someone's advice in another thread and decided to make a topic on it...

I'm seriously about ready to give up on gaming of any sort. Every fucking damn time I come across a girl thats interested in me and that I'm interested in, SOMETHING BAD HAPPENS. I'm sick of it, I just want to find one girl that I can love and vice versa but that ain't happenin.

How do you guys go about it?

ummm

where do you meet girls ? it depends on the location.
dude don't give up ..... something bad happens because you let it happen, try to handle bad situations try to prevent - learn from it.

your mindset should be like : fuck i don't need this girl she sucks but im going to play her.

your expecting too much from yourself and your expecting bad events.
NR1 RULE : NEVER EXPECT ANYTHING

just go with the flow dude

This

And what's your alternative? Be chronically single?

Don't focus on getting the girl when you go out. That'll just project neediness. Instead, focus on developing the skill so that when you DO finally meet the girl of your dreams, you'll be ready. Chances are, the girls you're talking to in the club aren't your dream girl. So don't imagine that they are just because they're in front of you.

"Don't wait til you're thirsty to dig a well." --Chinese proverb

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I absolutely love proverbs!

Well, obviously if you're not with someone then you're single...

However, the rest of your post makes sense. Oh and I dont really bother with clubs...and when I do go out I go to the bars but I mainly go to drink..

If something bad happens, then something bad happens. I dont believe in luck, I believe in bad luck and you dont have it since I got it all at birth.

It is an indication that you are doing something wrong man. Dont give up, just try to figure out if there is a pattern to your failures, see the pattern, see the problem, fix it. Every bad thing is an opportunity to learn.

Hang in there!

Ezo

If something bad happens, just go with it and try to spin it into something good. Can you give us some examples of bad things that have happened? Perhaps we could give you some more specific advise then.

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Dude, you are never going to get past these obstacles in your life if you're not willing to at least consider other perspectives and mindsets than the one you are currently using. It's obviously not benefiting you in ANY way, so what do you have to lose by trying to look at things a different way? As much as I hate to quote him, Mystery was pretty dead on when he said, "If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always got."

One big problem I see implied in the way you wrote your post is that you view yourself as a passive observer of your life rather than an active agent of change. You seem to believe things simply "happen" without rhyme, reason or regard to any actions on your part. "There's nothing I can do ... something bad just happens!"

The truth, of course, is that bad things don't just "happen." If a girl rejects you, it's not because the right breeze wasn't blowing or the stars weren't aligned properly. Even if it was because of those things, winners don't accept their circumstances, they play in spite of them. People who lose at life let their ego make up excuses--external factors they can blame for their failures. Which person do you want to be?

Getting past this is going to require 100% honesty with yourself, which means opening yourself up to failure AND accepting the blame for that failure completely. Once you start doing that, then you can start to look at what you did wrong, analyze it, formulate a solution, apply it, test the results, and repeat that process until you are a super-smooth mack daddy with a different girl for every night of the week

Hope this helps.

Your boy,
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Corey, U are right you should stop 'Gaming', you should stop going out and meeting girls, you should stop trying to be a fun interesting person who lives in abundance, You should stop all that and be limited to your circle of friends and hope and pray that the 'right' girl will come along your way and you would have a 'happily ever after'

No, I'm not going to try to rationalize your feelings or motivate you like the rest of the guys in here. I believe in being harsh to boys who refuse to act like men and take charge of their life.

You should give up to learn swimming only because you dont know how to swim or the first couple of times you drown. You should give up to learn how to play the guitar only because the first couple of times your music sounds crap. Right Bro give up.

Well, pretty much anytime I get in a relationship something or another goes wrong. Also in the past I've been shy (though I've gotten over it) so I've missed a few opps for numbers but thats no problem as thats the past. That and sometimes I feel girls aren't even interested in me to want a relationship....

@ 870: Not sure what to say to that other than that while I'm an aggressive person, when it comes to getting girls I'm not really an aggressive person.... thats just who I am.

@ Marc: Grow the fuck up

Hay dude!

Im going to go right ahead and say one thing that could be considered contraversial (is that spelling ok? Damn Dylexia)!

IGNORE ALL GAME AND PICK-UP

Remember too much of a good thing is bad whether it be excercise, alcohol, drugs or EVEN sex! Find a girl and say 'hi' or 'do you like magic?' whatever use an opener or dont, it doesnt matter the next step is the same!

Then say something interesting like I play drums or wow where did you get that bag I just saw one like it? it something to get her interested in you and you both talking. Then say stuff that you find interesting and that you think if she was suited to you and good for you she'd also enjoy. Music, hobbies, jumping into the sea off big cliffs........whatevers your thing really!

If shes cool and for you, she will enjoy this kind of stuff your energy levels and personality will fit nicely with hers!

Then getting a number will be no problem, however you do it! Then cos your cool and she thinks you are (I already know you are, heck what a easy, cool guy i am ) she will call you or you'll call her and she will most likely reply.

At this point id like to say although nothings garentueed so dont get disheartened by failiues just learn the good points from them!

My new favourate saying- 'Rome wasnt built in a day', nothing was really!

Hope that helps apologises if its a little rusty im just getting back on the gaming rota

Spark.

Actually you made really good points in that post. Thank you.
I dont need that "tough love" crap at the moment. Anyway I dont know what I want to do. I mean yeah sitting here and bitching is much easier but won't get much done but going out and facing shit head on is harder yet a better choice....

Thats your problem tough guy. And thats the reason you fail infield because you dont know what in the world to do in a set. I dont think you have to worry too much about gaming right right now because I dont think you are good at it in the first place.

Take a break, watch a movie or read a book just plain simply do something that you like and figure out what you want.

Then what are you doing on a dating and seduction forum? You obviously care about this facet of your life and want to improve it by virtue of the fact that you even signed up here, nevermind that you post every day.

"I just don't care. This is who I am," is just as much of an excuse as anything else, man. "Who you are" is a fluid concept that continuously changes as you are presented with new information about yourself and the world around you--at least, that's how life should go, and how it does go for people who don't hide behind their ego-driven comfort zone.

STOP MAKING EXCUSES. If you want to figure this stuff out, jump into the deep end and DO IT. If not, focus your energy on something else. The choice is yours and it doesn't affect any of us either way, but you better make damn sure that it's YOU making the decision, based on what YOU want in your heart-of-hearts. Anything else is as useless to you as a picture of oxygen is to a drowning man (thank you Dr. Manhattan).

Your boy,
870

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