Hey guys,
I met this girl through a friend a few days ago and we spoke for about 30mins and got on really well. We spoke for over 2 hours today on msn. The thing is she has a boyfriend. I'm not really sure how to approach this. Is it wrong for me to 'game' a girl who has a boyfriend ? Or if 'gaming' her is okay, how should I go about dealing with the boyfriend issue ? I feel I may be in danger of getting in to the friends zone if i dont make some sort of move soon.

Cheers

Think of it this way:
It's her dunk, you're just the lay-up.

If she wants you enough to cheat with her boyfriend, why should you stop her? It's her life, not her boyfriend´s.

Cheat, steal and lie - but remember; it's your conscience, so be careful.

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Do what you please. There is no-one telling you what to do, but as the above poster said it is your own conscience. If they had been together for a long time I would personally not have gone for it, but I would not have a problem trying to get a girl that isn't in a very serious commitment.

Do what your heart tells you, as it is often a good place to figure out your feelings:)
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Cheers guys.
I think following on from talking to this girl on msn for 2 hours yesterday, I'm going to leave it for a few days then poke her on facebook, just as a playful way of letting her know i'm thinking of her. Do you think that is a good idea ?

Also I can't really tell if i'm in the friends zone already with this girl or not. She called me 'dude' several times and said at one point 'awww my new friend' which suggests friends zone to me. What do you reckon people ?

Pre-emptively friendzone her, then ask her to introduce you to some cute available friends of hers. Not every PU has to end in sex or a romantic relationship; a good friendship can be every bit as valuable if not more so.

just remember... Just because there is a goalie doesn't mean you cant score

Here's the deal. Her boyfriend is def fucking up. Chicks with bfs they actually like dont just talk to dudes for two hours straight. Its inappropriate. Its your move... Part of me says leave it alone, the other part says why should the bfs lack of game prevent the two of you from hanging out??? Could turn into something real....

The fact that she called you dude is irrelevant... if anything, it means she is comfortable with you... It's a term of endearment more often than not.

Bottom line, play it by ear. Dont be to anxious to make a move, but feel out her situation, if you havent already. Sounds like she is on the verge of a break up, or at least should be.

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Calling you a "friend" is a form of slut-defense & she doesnt want to come off as a dishonest person. Shes prob just ready to move on. Its more than obvious to her that you want her. You wouldn't pay her so much attention otherwise. She wouldnt do that either unless the same was true for her. It does demonstrate a lot about her nature. She sounds like she is weak & needs a new man to leave the old one. I could be wrong. She may just like you and happened to meet you as she is floundering over leaving him. In any case it sounds like it will be you or another man at this point. Depends how you feel about being involved with something like this and if they have been serious.

These are usually learned behaviours. Shes prob done this b4. Your future could look a lot like her bfs

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you should definately try closing her, if she will go along it means she is not happy with her current boyfriend and you are doing her a favor. if she doesn't, you are again doing her a favor, she will realise that she wants to be with her boyfriend, not you wich will ultimately strenghten they're relationship.

When I met my last girlfriend she was in a relationship with another guy, but that didn't stop her to get together with me, our relationship lasted 6 months untill we both agreed on breaking up. and that was in my AFC days, think about it, if I was better that that guy as an AFC, how was that guy any good for her?

GOLD!

i would def hook up with her
i've been in this situation in the past and just had a casual thing with the girl, nothing serious.
you shouldn't get attached to the girl. if she's treating her boyfriend like this and flirting with you, what makes you think that she won't do the same to you?
so if you wanna practice game and have some fun, this is your girl. consider her friends with benefits. but if you want a relationship with her then she is NOT the right one. unless you want her to do the same to you when she gets bored or whatever

i would def hook up with her
i've been in this situation in the past and just had a casual thing with the girl, nothing serious.
you shouldn't get attached to the girl. if she's treating her boyfriend like this and flirting with you, what makes you think that she won't do the same to you?
so if you wanna practice game and have some fun, this is your girl. consider her friends with benefits. but if you want a relationship with her then she is NOT the right one. unless you want her to do the same to you when she gets bored or whatever

"Never lie, steal, cheat, or drink. But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love. If you must steal, steal away from bad company. If you must cheat, cheat death. And if you must drink, drink in the moments that take your breath away" - Hitch

Anyways OP, it's your choice, if she cheats, she can't feel responsible for it. It just "happened". Plausible deniability.

Good luck with whatever you do

Hey,
Cheers for the responses guys - keep them coming!

As an update for this story, this girl opened a conversation with me again on Thursday night on facebook chat. After a few minutes, I managed to move the conversation over to msn. She said there were people she didnt want to talk to on there so she appeared offline the whole time. Anyway we spoke for about an hour or so. She said at one point that I was like 'her long lost twin' as we have quite a lot of things in common. Is this a cast iron friends zone thing, or an IOI ?

From reading some of the responses above it made me think that maybe this girl does quite like me. She has got a boyfriend but, we have chatted on msn for 2 hours and 1 hour. Is this just a friendly thing to do, or does it show that she is interested in me ? I like this girl but I'm having a hard time sorting this out in my head. If she was single then I think I'd go ahead and ask her out for drinks or something. But the fact she has a boyfriend means I don't really know how to play this. Should I just take a chance and ask her out for a few drinks and see what happens ? Or should I just be aloof and make her chase me ?

Thanks guys,

All of you guys are wrongggg.

If she's talking to you it doesn't mean she feels her relationship isn't going well.

I've talked to/ flirted/ TALKED TO FOR HOURS UPON HOURS with girls in relationships and it rarely turned out the way I wanted it to.

Most girls like to flirt, it doesn't mean they'll surely want to be with you/ are in a bad/ shaky relationship.

She's being nice/ flirty.

One ioi that's critical is if SHE starts conversations with you, then there's an 80% chance she's interested in you.

If you're with her and she's texting on her phone the whole time, it's her boyfriend and she's just playing you.

If you ask her on a date/ meeting and she says "Ohhh I have plans" it's with her boyfriend.

Try these if you get the same responses she's playing you.

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