I'm in a relationship right now, so I can't really game girls anymore. But I was at work last week (I work at a softball field), and there were hundreds of girls there for the entire week. It was like the pony national championship or some shit. Anyways, the theme for the night was cowboy so all the girls had on cowboy boots, very tight short shorts, flannel shirts, and cowboy hats. In other words every single girl was a head turner.

So I had sort of a break and I was leaning against a rail watching one of the softball games and then this really cute pale girl was walking my way. She had black boots on, tight denim short shorts, an ass for days, and a blue flannel shirt. I had this intense urge to talk to her.

As she was walking by I casually said "I like your boots". She stopped, turned her body towards me, and beamed me the cutest smile I have ever seen. "Thanks!" she said very enthusiastically. I smiled back at her and our eyes met and we just stared at each other. She had these amazing blue eyes. I wanted to go into one of my favorite routines the Denmark game, but I knew if I did I would get her number and would be talking to her a lot more the next few days (not proclaiming I'm a MPUA here guys, I am far from it).

So instead I turned away and tried to pay attention to the game that was being played. But I could see the disappointment in her face out of the corner of my eye and she turned and walked away. I had this feeling of regret when she walked away, but later I was working at my station selling drinks and food and she came back and was eyeing me as if she was trying to sub communicate to me to open her, but I had to resist the temptation to. She was in proximity of me several times throughout the evening and yet I never brought myself to talk to her again.

So what I'm trying to get at is, does anybody else feel like a failure when they see a HB and don't sarge her? I feel like a total hypocrite if I don't open a girl I find very attractive. Its a horrible fucking feeling being disappointed in yourself.

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YES.

Relationship isn't the end, still keep looking for growth and be social. It's an ego based guilt

ego based: Damn I had move things forward with her, my identity feels hurt now.



Any guilt comes forth out of too much lingering in the past and not too much in the now. Just do your approaches and forget about them (do learn from them tho, but don't over analyze it). That's how I handle things and keep my happiness flowing, I barely experience guilt for my actions, also because I accept any situation as if I choose it myself and act accordingly.



Read some tolle

I'm sorry but this is ridiculous. Tolle does not encourage hedonism/ doing whatever you feel like regardless of any collateral damage. It amazes me some people believe "being conscious" is a permit to reset any sort of moral compass... Polluted...

Beddy, you got a girl. If you are not happy with her you should end it, or figure it out, its not fair to either one of you. Obviously there is some sort of missing piece in your relationship if you are wanting to hit on other girls. What is your commitment to her... Maybe take a seat under the thinking tree homie!

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I never said "do whatever pleases you"

Common sense still applies.


Besides anyone that read Eckhart Tolle's work would admit that any person is as much part of you as you are of yourself. You wouldn't consciously hurt yourself, you wouldn't consciously hurt someone else.

Its not that I'm not happy with her, I really like her. We have just about everything in common and I can honestly say that I would take a bullet for this girl. Its just that pickup has become such a large part of my life that and whenever I do get a girls phone number from an interaction I feel bad about it like I'm cheating and then I won't text or call her. Now I've quit approaching and gaming girls completely. I don't feel a void or anything, but I still feel like I have an urge or a need to approach women and sarge them. I've basically become addicted to women lol

But what I was getting at in the post was that I feel a sense of regret and failure for not approaching women, I was like this even before I was in a relationship. Its like if I don't at least open her I'm a hypocrite.

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"The society that separates scholars from its warriors will have its thinking done by cowards and its fighting done by fools." - Thucydides

Seize the day with love

Sometimes you succeed, and sometimes you learn.

Well the way I see it is that all games have an end, a point at which you've 'won'. When you found the right girl, that's when you know you've won this game. Sarging and closing, that's just adding points to the scoreboards. Once you've found the girl of your dreams though, that's it, the points have been tallied, and, congratulations, you're the winner! Why would you feel bad about not going back and trying to add more points to the scoreboards when the game's over and you've already won?

That mindset is ultimately getting you back to your chode days once you have that girl you love so dear. You'll stop going out, stop socializing and everything the girl loved about you just withers away. Game isn't a win/lose situation, it's progression throughout live, becoming a better person. Not about getting the girl you like back into your dungeon.

if you have the willpower to not cheat on your girl then there's nothing to worry about. you're just potentially expanding your social circle! no reason why ye can't approach in a friendlier manner

Hah well I certainly didn't mean it like that lol. Socializing and going out is great, but going around and trying to game more girls while you're already with a great girl just seems wrong to me. Being friendly and sociable is one thing but I guess I took his post to mean that he wanted to fclose more girls or something while he was already in an LTR.

Nope

Being in a relationship is the perfect time to expand your social circle! Don't "sarge" - just be friendly to everyone.

There is nothing wrong what so ever with just talking to girls. Even if they start to like you, you just create a boundry. You will gain more friends, and potential future girl friends.

Seems like you have just discovered a new sticking point... how to sarge a girl to become a friend! You just have to remember from your pre-PUA days when you were always put in 'the friend zone'... how ironic.

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Part of being a PUA is understanding it is always ok to get the number, it is always ok to make a new aquaintance, just don't cheat on your girl, and you may have some options around if things don't work out for ya

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