Few questions, keep in mind my goal is kiss close, maybe then numner close afterwards.

1. When I get good vibes from a girl, how should I change my behaviour to escalate sexually?
2. How long before I should start escalating, say, if i'm talking to a girl in the smoking area.
3. How long should escalation take before I move in for the kiss? i know "when it feels right" but approx

Heya lamppost2009!

when sexually escalating you have to keep in mind that it should innocent. It is amazing how much you can get away with if you don't put a lot of focus on it.

What I usually do is always touch the girl in every opportunity that I have. Starting from either a handshake/hug/tap on the shoulders, then moving on by lightly punching her arm in a teasingly manner. After a little bit I'll go over to something called overt kino, and this is also a compliance test. I take her hand and keep it tight with mine, if she let me hold it then I usually isolate.

Now, what I see as a good escalating ladder is by starting around the waist in isolation and moving upwards towards her face. (ignore breasts obviously) If you in the end are able to touch her hair without resistance you should go for a kiss-close.

Most of this is taken from Vin DiCarlo's escalation ladder. Search it up on youtube and you should be able to see some examples on how he does it:)

- Exerio

So, after you have built some comfort you just take her hand out of nowhere?

I am familiar with the di carlo escsalation ladder. Is that a complete guide to a kiss close? As in, is it self-sufficient? What kind of stuff should I be saying as I use it? Playful and teasing I suppose?

Guides only get you so far, to complete it you have to do it yourself. But yes, Vin DiCarlos guide is up to f-close, but breaks down every bit of sexual escalation so it should help you on your way.

And yes, I'll pretty much take their hand out of nowhere. Works great if you are dancing, or if you are changing location or telling a story that you are fascinated about.
Usually I don't need to go into comfort in order to do it either. For example at the dance-floor everything is about attraction and you can usually grab their hand if you are dancing with them!

Over to what to say. If I were you I wouldn't even joke about it, I just do it if the girl denies my compliance test. If you don't make a deal out of it chances are that she won't either. And that is your goal:)

- Exerio

Try patting her head playfully whenever she does something you like. Get used to rewarding her for her compliance. By the time she is comfortable and actually expecting it, go for a casual back of the neck massage.