Hi guys this is Papo. I am new to the game. I have had girlfriends, fuck buddies and one night stands but have for the most part not played solid game and have relied on girls approaching me. Fools mate as Mystery calls it. Now after two years of live in girlfriends, I am ready to meet lots of women and enjoy them sexually and if one really stands out, then maybe I'll give the LTR thing another run, but with someone of my choosing won with solid game.

I have been going out regularly, normally solo to sarge. We're talking about two months now and I've gotten a few number closes. I am glad because I live in a small eccentric town, Asheville, and I wasted a lot of time at these hipster joints trying to do pick up but I have found that the best club in town is Magnolia's which is a raw bar I guess. This place is packed with girls and there is a dance floor with a live band and plenty of less noisy parts of the club. Now that I've gone there the past two days, I can tell that it is going to be the joint where I hone my pu skills.

My biggest problem is for sure approach anxiety. I am afraid that I will go to say my opener and they will have no clue what I'm talking about. That has happened sometimes too, and it's really no big deal so I don't know why I'm afraid of it. When I do do approaches, I fail to get the attention of the whole set. Maybe I'm not loud enough. Sometimes the canned material seems so out of context, but I know that that is just me getting in my own head making excuses.

I am a mild mellow person by nature and I need to find some way to amp up my energy and overcome aa. I am a fairly attractive guy, could use a few things fashion wise but for the most part I feel that I come across as a cool guy, so I don't know why I have such confidence issues.

Do you guys have any tricks on plowing through approach anxiety or better yet, if any of you are in the Asheville, NC area and want to wing, let me know for real.

I'm currently doing Neil Strauss' (Style) "The challenge" (it's a book with lots of excersizes to become more socially adept and get into the game) and I'd recommend it to anybody new to pickup. I'm not that new, it's just that I got a girl friend shortly after getting introduced to pick-up, so I kinda lost my motivation and things have been sliding the last few months... so when we broke up I thought I might as well start from scratch" Anyways, my situation is pretty similar to yours.. most girls seem to find me attractive. Maybe not head turningly (is that a word? ) so, but at least in a "hey, that guy is kinda cute" kind of way. And I've also had some girls (at least 2-3 different sexual partners a year), but most of them came to me, not the other way around My ex girl friend really was my first pick-up (where I had any kind of game going whatsoever) Anyways, I think this book is great for getting started, tightening your approaches and building confidence. I already know quite a lot of theory, but "The challenge" is all for practicality, which suits my way of learning I hope this doesn't come off as a shameless endorsement... but I really dig this book and think it would work wonders for you too