This is my first post, broke my cherry.

Anyways, here is the scneario, I'm in the Army ok. I met this girl back at home while on leave, didn't really say much or introduce myself at all, basically because at the time I was not interested. Also because I was going overseas. Now I'm in Afghanistan, she's back home.

Anyways, somehow down the road someone gave her my e-mail address, we started sending little texts here and there. At the beginning she was sending a lot more, and I wasn't sending that many. Maybe that increases her interest level? Keep in mind this girl is GORGEOUS. I mean she gets asked out at least 10 times a week, some times even by random people. It's so bad for her (because of her level of attractiveness) that she chooses not to go out in order to avoid AFC's cat calls.

So, we continued texting and further down the road (in the course of a few weeks), we start talking on the phone. One day we started talking about each other's feelings. She tells me that she thinks about me all the time and can't wait until I text her, or call her. I (which I think was a mistake), tell her I feel the same. A few days later, she tells me that it takes her a while to open up to men in an intimate way (she's only had 2 boyfriends and is a little young, but I don't really care). She further explains that the reason behind this is that she doesn't want to be hurt. I can attest this is most likely due to all the AFC's that she encounters who think they are major players. One particular chump, known as Jake, attempts to get into her panties via Myspace. I mean please... what a loser. Takes pictures of himself with his shirt off and expects that's going to do the trick. Anyhow...

So I asked her the next day about her feelings after she had told me and she said, "Just forget about what I said last night". As if she was either afraid of what she said, or she was angry about it, which I find funny. Then a few nights later, she talked again about wanting me to wrestle her down and make out with her (wtf). It wasn't out of nowhere, but that's where the conversation went. She's also promised me a welcome-home kiss and claimed she may not be able to take her hands off of me. I'm a bit confused...

The big concern about all this is simply that she keeps hinting that when I come home it, "May not work out." and if it, "Doesn't work out, I want to at least be good friends." Which isn't going to happen in my case because I may still interested. We haven't even gone out yet though, but I can tell she has interest in me.

Now fellas, regardless of her jibber jabber, I'm going to do what I'm going to do. She is letting affection from me (pyshical) regardless of if she truely wants it. It cannot backfire, because I can deal with the consequences, which I don't think there is going to be any at all anyways. The only I can do now is somehow keep her interest at this level. If it peaks too high I know it can possibly go down soon after.

A few things about this girl's personality; is that she has very low self-confidence (she's told me this), she's still a virgin (that's confirmed, so please beleive), she usually has a lot of male friends (this one is kind of a concern, but maybe it can be used to my advantage), she is religious (potentially could be used to further my agenda), takes care of her parents, etc. She was in only 2 relationships before, with one being a bit abusive and even putting his hands on her. The guy before that died of cancer.

My questions:

1. What should I do to keep her interest level like it is right now...
2. Should I try to guage her interest level (make her more interested)
3. Should I back off and attempt to let her contact me more
4. Should I just take the friend approach
5. Other options

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I would say yes to question number three. Act as if YOU are the prize, make HER call YOU. More often than not, anyway.

When she says things like it might not work out, tell her its no big deal and tell her you are also not sure if it would work out, but that you aren't going to rule anything out until you meet and hang out and get to know each other IN PERSON. The more aloof you seem the more interested she will be. Act as if its no big deal, but that you would like to see her.

Tell her you have a few other girls to visit when you come back, but you are most looking forward to seeing HER. Make her think she is not the only woman you are pursuing...

These are just some tips to get the wheels in your head turning, I am sure you know the best way to deal with the situation...

Ok....the best way to handle this situation is to stay on the course you are on. That will cover all potential avenues. The only real ways you could build "more interest" is to start blurting out everything about yourself. Then when you meet its going to be a lil tense. She's obviously attracted to you.

"Attraction never dies". If you stay on the current course the interactions may lessen a little, however you will be able to rekindle everything when you see her. As to your worry about her comments on doubts.

You said she was a very insecure person. Those comments about doubts are a defense mechanism. This allows her to not fully commit to something when she hasn't seen you yet. Girls with low self-confidence are going to do as much as they can to distance themselves from potential pain. Don't pay attention to these comments, brush them aside. The reality is they don't matter right now.

So....continue on your current course and if the interaction trails off, plan to spark it back up when are back home.

Ok, well there was some information I didn't include before. I must have forgotten or was blindsided.

One certain conversation with us was kind of bad, I was telling her that people normally use me and I don't want that to happen again, when she returned fire with, "You have low self-confidence".

I immediately told her I did not, very forcefully. I think that was wrong to do. I should have said something witty, but I was upset about work and should have not even talked to her that day.

Anyways, that's when she told me SHE had low self-confidence. Right after that conversation she re-iterated if "it did not work" that it would be fine. I agreed with her. The thing that bothers me is that she used to message me a lot more than I did her. I'm afraid if I let her go and don't message or call or anything for about 3 days, she wouldn't try to contact me. Then what would I think, but I know what I am supposed to do.

Currently I let her go for the whole day without a real message, execpt telling her that I was going to talk to her tomorrow because I busy. Should I stick by my word, or guage her interest and wait for her to message me first?

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