Hi guys, I've been lurking for a while but finally decided to join because I need some serious advice at this time. Sorry for the long post!

I started dating this girl a couple of months ago and things were amazing. She would call me all the time, talk for long periods of time and we'd hang out often. Then she got busier and she said she didn't have a whole lot of time for me and some family issues only complicated her situation further. It kind of just seemed like she was losing interest in me, though. Over the course of the last 2-3 weeks I made it clear I was unhappy with the amount of time we had together and how things were going and she ended up breaking up with me a few days ago because she didn't think it was a good time for her to be in a relationship.

Basically, I really don't want to lose this girl but I don't know how she feels about me anymore (maybe she just wasn't attracted anymore or something and the relationship thing was an excuse to make me feel better). I feel like my complaining ruined things and made me seem needy. She agreed to hang out tomorrow.

How do I make her want me back/feel attracted to me or at least establish that we will get back together when she's ready? Should I make it clear that I've missed her a lot or act like I've been fine since the break-up?

Thanks in advance guys, I would appreciate any insight a lot.

hey, I was in the same situation half a year ago, I was in a relationship for 6 months, the first 3 moths were perfect I could say, but than both of us started to lose interest gradually till we mutually agreed that it was best we would see eachother just as friends ... so that is what we did, at that point I started reasearching game and learnt alot of things .... so whenever we saw eachother, most of the time was accidentaly in the club I would start "gaming her" .. C&F / push-pull ... mostly attraction routines because the comfort was already there ... so after a few times bumping into eachother she started calling me more and more often to go out as friends .. she was a very subtle and intelligent person and always gave me hints that she wants to be toghether again ... but I didn't want to ... so till this day I still act like that with her .. and a few weeks ago she saw me talking to a girl in the club and immediately started acting flirty with me in front of the other girl altough her current boyfriend was in the same club at the time ...

with my story I just wanted to point out that gaming really works if done properly


so basically my pointers are these:

-her seeing you talking to some other girls wouldn't hurt
-cocky and funny attitude
-some push-pull ... show her that you are not interested than show her you are and so on ...
-show her you have options
-I think it would be best not the tell her you've missed her instead let her know you have been busy


PS: I am not in a position to give strong advice as I am a newbie ... but this is what worked for me and hopefully it will work for you to

Hopefully some experienced users will give you better advice. Good luck.

Abundance mindset bro, you don't need her or anything she has to offer. No needyness.

Also, don't change her mind, change her emotion.

She's ready 24/7 to get with a guy. "I'm not ready for" just means "I'm not sure YET" or "make me happy" or both. hurrrr

I have seen this happen many times. From a female perspective, I tend to get bored easily in relationships. I will think the guy is great and then one day, BAM, I'm over him. For the longest time I didn't realize why I lost interest in guys so easily until one day it dawned on me, he isn't the same guy that I dated in the first place. Guys (and girls too) have the tendency to relax once they get into a relationship. They figure the hard work of seducing is over and they let their guard down. The problem is, that relaxed guy is not the guy that seduced the girl in the first place. It was the fun, flirty guy who was hard to get at first. Many people have the tendency to get a clingy and needy in relationships too. When you are in a relationship, that behavior is accepted a little bit more, but it can still be a turn off. Make sure that your behavior in the relationship is congruent with your behavior during the courting. If it isn't the same, you need to figure out how to make the internal difference, so that you no longer act as two different persons.

bonita you raise a good point. but even though im not generally skeptical, ur expectations are bs.

relationships evolve, and yeah, the first parts are always going to be the most fun when the possibilities are endless.

metaphorically, its like if every week you come to a forked road where you can choose path A or path B. you choose path A. the next week comes around, and off of path A there is a new fork, with paths C and D. now 10 weeks have passed, and by the time you reach paths Y and Z, it really doesnt matter which path of the two you choose now because you are so far removed from the beginning where you could have chosen anything. (hmm, this made more sense in my head... i still think it helps make my point).

so yes, at the beginning, the pressure is sometimes the greatest, and this pressure leads ppl to go to great lengths sometimes to handle it. i had girls who wanted to celebrate month, 2 month anniversaries before with me, DAMN. i was like for real????!! find me a couple the is celebrating a 25th month, 26th month anniversary... you wont.

to the OP: listen to all the advice saying dont be needy. best thing u can do is get a new girl. absolute best is fuck the new girl.

the absolute worst thing u can do is tell her you have been missing her and wish you could get back together. this does nothing to change your situation. NEVER say shit like "ill be here waiting when ur ready" or "take all the time u need" . that is COMPLETE BETA MALE bs. u r letting her walk all over u.

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