heres my deal, i'm good lookin and have very charasmatic personality. I can meet chicks left and right one the first nite, but where i screw up is everything past that. Most recently i talked to this one girl and i actually liked her, woulda hooked up w/ her that nite if it wasnt for her dumbass drunk cousin causin problems. but anyway, the next day i jsut get messed up, i dont know what to say, or when to call

i call then i end up tellin her to call me .. i dont know if i should do that. I'll be like .. so what are u doin tonite, shell say whatever .. and i'll be like "well call me when ur goin out" .. i always do that

then shit happens like shes not hangin out w/ me and i fuck up and get like anxious thinking she should be

i guess to sum it up id say its like this ... First nite when i meet, the ball is totally in my court, im confident as shit, and they want me. second and third days, i'm not seeing them in front of me and i don't try as hard, and i fuck up and come off looking like i have no idea what im doing

help is much appreciated

attraction is a fleeting emotion, so you need to work fast.
text game, i hate to say, is actually very good. no awkward silences, etc. use a good opener....usually if you know they like you, then "hey cutie : D" does it for me.

if you insist on calling, which shows her you got more balls, then follow these steps:
1. dont say "call me if you go out." it shows that she has the power over you and the upperhand. instead, tell her that youd like to hang sometime since your convo last night was good. "let's go for _____" gives you the upperhand.
2. keep it short, it reduces the risk of awkwardness.
3. if she says 'whatever,' it shows shes free. tell her to meet you for something.

that clears some stuff up ... i talked to her yesterday ... should i call her today too? i dont want to come off desperate

you should have said something about hanging out yesterday. but text her today and ask then, texting is more in a girls comfort zone and if youre nervous about it, she wont hear our voice cracking lol. but like negging online/in texts, dont come off too strong or demanding when saying "lets hang out today."