Hi guys!!
I came to these board about 9 months ago (about a month into college) and was extremely intrigued. From recommendations here I read The Game and continued to read more stuff. This was all during my freshman year of college. That initial discovery of the community really blew me away!! I was extremely fascinated to learn that there really was a way to understand the way girls acted and to rationalize their decisions.

Without trying to sound arrogant, I am a pretty cool kid, I was very popular in high school and that's continued into college. I had a really fun first year of school, I had alot of girls extremely interested in me and I even got to the point where I could create attraction whenever I met a girl. However, I never was able to really close girls during college. It was and still is a definite sticking point! I've had sex and made out with some really hot girls, but I feel like alot was from luck and not so much from game (which is ok!). But not ever really scoring chicks and closing started to eat away at my confidence!

This summer, a few of my friends from high school moved in with me ( I live at the beach for college). They were some of my best friends from high school and we all used to hook up with really hot girls back in the day (more them than me but I still did ok). Since they've been here, after some hard convincing and even demonstrating, I've introduced both of them to The Game (they were already VERY good with girls).

However, as I've lived with them over the summer, I've started to almost completely lose my confidence. I don't know why but I have like ZERO confidence in attracting girls! I can open just about any group of girls... but then I don't have any confidence in building attraction. I like completely rely on my friends to build their own attraction and usually don't help myself.

I feel like the initial fun and confidence that I got from the community has whittled away! I want to know if anyone can offer some help. At this point, I am pretty driven towards getting better and will pretty much do anything!! I just really think I need a confidence boost because I'm really down at myself. I know I'm a really cool person but living in the shadows of my two friends who consistently steal girls that I like, take advantage of me and my connections, and put me down for my failures has nearly destroyed my entire foundation of confidence!!!

I appreciate anyone who can offer ANY sort of help! My current weaknesses are getting back my confidence, developing attraction and closing. I know these are HARD things to master but I've been to the point where I had confidence and could develop attraction. I feel like a solid boost in confidence could really do wonders for me! Thanks to all

hey man this is definately the place to get better
i was basically the same as you
in high school i was real popular but couldnt close worth a shit
and then i got to college and basically was the man (not trying to sound arrogant either)
and so i was on a hott streak early freshman year and then the summer after i was even hotter, and then sophomore year came and everything changed
i totally dive bombed. so then my friend had The Game and my brother got it for me for christmas. and last winter break i couldnt put it down. and since then my friend had the mystery method and i read that. and then i found the community and this forum. and ever since i started reading the game i got everything back.
i figured out that i was a natural but never knew exactly what i was doing. so once i read the mystery method i found out that i was doing everything right but didnt focus on it. now i know what i did and should do and get good at those skills.

see confidence is something only you can really help yourself with. its all in YOUR head. you can do so many confidence building excercises, but you gotta believe that you are confident. really all you gotta do is say to urself, im the man. anyone is lucky to even be around me. yes it sounds arrogant, but it works. when you see a hott girl just be like damn..i bet shed love talkin to me. just stuff like that.

honestly, if u dont have any problem opening, then u really have no problem at all. approach anxiety is killer. once u approach, u gotta hook them, then make ur target work to get your attention. if the whole group is loving you and talking to you but u arent talking to her. she is going to wonder, "this guy must be some1 if he doesnt talk to my hott self." obviously this works for HB10s with big egos. lol.

so then when u feel shes "earned" your attention. u take her and build comfort with her. then basically its all smooth sailing from there.

i mean if u have more specific questions then its easier to give answer. everyones here to help or to get help. dont be shy in asking anything to help you

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just have fun and you will never be dissapointed

Honestly i dont know why your beating your self up so much. Everyone has down times. And i understand about your friends. My brother was the same way my whole life. Stealing girls away and even getting some of my girlfriends to cheat on me with him. It always was devestating to my self image. Then when i turned 18 i moved out and rented a house from my dad but sadly he said the one condition was letting my brother move in with me. He kept up his same old stuff and still got alot fo girls but pretty soon i realized that he was really feeding off of me. He was always a long haired rough around the edges kinda guy but he had charm and he could talk and had self confidence. But the girls were usually interested in me first or attarcted to me and i was also a little harder to get. (not really but i played it off that way). Pretty soon i got my confidence back and i was runing game around my brother and now he even trys to come to me for advice.
Your situation sounds similar. Your friends might have game but they came to hang out and feed off of you. They are staying in your pad picking off your girls. Honestly i think you should take it as a complement. So ever time it seems like they are getting all the girls and you feel like your going into a slump just remind yourself of that. They came to you and are staying at your pad. Once you get your confidence back dont worry about them. Play it cool and have fun and the main part about closing is knowing when to do it. Look for the IOIs and act if you get the chance. When closing girls timing is important.
Now for developing attraction go a look at your self in the mirror. Now smile. Not a creepy i wanna screw you smile but a genuine im a happy guy and im the best guy out there kinda smile but dont over due it. That is all you need to make a girl attracted to you. Just time it right and look at her and give her that smile. If she looks you right in the eyes for a second or two and you feel a connection then your golden. I also told someone earlier about something i really like that works most of the time. Give them a message. Even if you tell them you learned something new and want to try it out. After that go with your instinct.
It sounds like your doing alright. You got some advantage that alot of other people on the forums dont and thats you are a natural and your already popular which helps. Just my thoughts.

Skankin

Dude, contact me. I have something that will help get your mojo on.

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I think some of your problem is within and your being hard on yourself... I think you need to first fix your self, and build your problems before you can do anything else ... confidence is called confidence for a reason ... next I think you need to stop looking at others and look at yourself, if there doing better or taking your women ... try going out on your own or attacking different group of women ... and I think the main thing to help you close is going to be you practicing ... its kind of funny and weird because major of people problems here are opening ... and also delveloping attraction comes within just be u and act how you are when being around friends ... be a funny, fun type of guy ... that builds attraction ... who in life doesn't wanna have fun ...

i think a lot of ppl on here are clueless, but here is what i say

you are young, focus on things that make you a better you. i.e. if you are trying to become a doctor, focus on that. if you want to be a writer, focus on your writing.

get really really freaking good at something you like. this is what you need to do. i cant tell you how much easier it is to get girls when you come off like a champion. plus, when you are doing this other activity, you are naturally taking a step back from any stress in this other area of ur life.

this seems like contradictory advice, but i am not telling you to stop going out and talking to girls period. i am telling you how you can develop some sick confidence and like dominos things will fall into place. then you will pass your two friends by.

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swag

I agree, I think this goes along with my replies this is just a method to go about building your confidence ... being passion about something will help do that ... and then use that passion and get out there and apply it to getting women ...