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PostPosted: Thu Jul 23, 2009 5:04 am 
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Hey Adam.

I have been trying to get this girl, but thing is, game seems useless.
When I "gamed her" I ended up pushing her away.

Now, lately I've been a lot more AFC on purpose. Weird thing is, she seems to like it.
The other day I ended CRYING on the phone when she told it was better if I got away from her, because I'd get tired of her, blah blah.

I then admitted that I've been in love with her for 3 years, a thing I always lied about. I proved it my mentioning a song she was listening to in a totally useless and remote moment, it touched her, and she told me:

"You realize I now love you more than I ever did, right?"

She has been "cheating" on her boyfriend with me (not actually cheating because when we did something she had asked her boyfriend for a time, because of me, although he doesn't know i'm the cause)

What is going on? I'm always afraid I'm saying I love her too many times, that I'm giving up my power, blah blah. But the opposite of what I've learned is working! What the f**

Well, it's not that linear. I'm still act cocky a lot of times, she loves it when I say things like: "You do know I'm the best that will ever happen to you", especially because I'm serious while saying it.

She loves it when I write her romantic poems, lame texts, etcera. Now, I am a pretty good writer in my native language (portuguese), so I know that's part of the reason. But still.

I haven't forgotten what I've learned about the Game, but I've been way TOO MUCH afc, and I don't understand why it is working.

Sorry about the long post, but this is really a different case.

EDIT: Btw, her boyfriend and her breaking up is just a matter of time. She's way insecure, and afraid of breaking up with him because when she tried he started crying and saying he'd die if she ever left him and stuff like that. I know I'm part of the reason, but now whole.


Hey WillDream,

The only thing that this really means is that she genuinely likes you for you. “Gaming” someone will not work 100% of the time on every single girl. You will have to play with different styles of game and see how to adapt it with different people

I am also a firm believer in staying away from girls with boyfriends, so I don't advise you to take any action until they break up.


And there's nothing wrong with being AFC. ;)

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PostPosted: Thu Jul 23, 2009 5:06 am 
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Hey Adam, I need your advice on a situation w/ a girl in my class. I met this girl at a party at the end of spring, talked to her friends and they all liked me. Turns out she's in my summer class, and she started flirting w/ me. Problem is, I didn't do anything about it. Just to let you know where I stand, I've never kissed a girl, or had a gf, and basically i'm starting at ground 0. I was a little worried of what other ppl in class would think. I asked her out, she said yes, but she flaked @ last minute, and now she's gone for the rest of summer. It's kind of frustrating, but I want to know how to fix this. She's really cute, 2 years older, and a model. Thanks for all your help.

Hey Strid3r,

It's OK to be starting from ground zero. We all started somewhere so now it's your turn! Now this situation is a bit difficult to answer because there isn't much information to work with. Her flaking last minute could be because of a thousand different reasons. One thing I would suggest is to make your close more solid.

Since she is gone for summer there isn't much you can do immediately, but what you can do is continue to passively game. Add her on Facebook and send messages through there. If you have her number then do it through text. Then when classes start up in the fall you can start from fresh building up on your interactions throughout the summer.

The number one thing to remember is: If you hesitate you masturbate. Don't let the opportunity pass anymore.


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hey man! how u doing? i need to ask u for a favour...ive recently been picked to be in the issue to dubai's top bachelors magazine and been asked to answer some interesting questions...now the audience mainly being women, i wanted to answer these questions so tht the reader actually enjoys reading it and I show a higher value instead of a boring interview that answers the questions for the sake they were asked. If you can help that would be great!

here are the questions:

1. Your pet peeve:

2. Your quirkiest habit:

3. What is the first thing you notice in a girl/guy?

4. Turn-ons:

5. Turn-offs:

6. You like to read books/newspapers/etc about:

7. When you’re down or feeling low, you turn to…

8. Your style icon:

9. An item of clothing you can't stand seeing on the opposite sex:

10. Your ideal holiday spot:

11. If you were an animal you’d be a…

12. If you went from riches to rags overnight, name three things you would do or buy:

13. An ideal night-out for you:

14. Your biggest dating disaster:

15. Your dream job:

16. The weirdest thing you've seen in Dubai…

17. The motto you live by…

18. Overnight camping trip or Burjuman Shopping Spree?

19. A day with your computer or a day at the pool?

20. One person (dead or alive) you would love to have dinner with...


thanks

Sunny D


Hey Sunnyd_123,

Thank you soooo much for trusting my insight to answer this but honestly mate, this is one that I cannot answer. The reason why you were picked as a top bachelor for Dubai is because there is obviously something great about you. If I were to answer these questions for you then the people aren't finding out anything about you so then what is even the point of being interviewed?

Trust yourself more and give yourself more credit. These are very simple questions and you can easily make it more fun by just showing a bit of your personality. Don't limit yourself and try to have fun with it.

Good luck with it mate, and congrats!


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Hey man,

This is a text game field report and I need your analysis on it, because I feel there's a huge shit tests going on here. So I was trying to be more playful than usual, so it might startle her a little bit. So I saw her status on Facebook, it was like "boredom, fear and laziness is our worst enemy, don't let them take our life. Who's the boss??". So I got something in my mind and texted her:

Me: "Hey boss, how've you been? Now because u're the boss, I want to apply a position as a manager. I can offer fun, courage and dilligence (like change all of the negative emotions on her status) plus crazy times. Which one do you pick? ;)

HB: Haha, so funny, well I don't open a job vacancy for a manager but I do have for an office boy, u want it? Haha.. XD

Me: No, I only want the manager position. Manager is a safer position, because if anything happens to me, people will still care. But if I'm an office boy, you can call me whenever you want and if you do something to me, people wouldn't care. ;) What were u doing for ur vacation? I'm doing cycling with my friends,etc, a lot of fun stuff, it was just crazy. :)

HB: Haha... U wish :P Well, I shop for my college needs, hanging out with friends, so far so good, haha. Where'd you cycling? Still in your hometown??
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Then I told her more about my vacation. Then she didn't respond. I don't care and leave her for 1 day.

The next day, I texted her again:

Me: Hey boss, I'm back to Bali now, so I can do my job again. Remember, I only offer 2 things: fun and crazy times. The other 2 were only for yesterday, and I didn't get any confirmation text, so it automatically self-destruct. Now u got 1 more chance before I offer it to somebody else!! ;) (credit to Savoy)

HB: Haha, ok I choose fun..

Me: OK, If u choose fun,go to X mall tomorrow around 3 A.M, be sure to wear something casual (short denim and tanktop would do), and cook ur own food. I'll surprise you, or are u a girl that don't like a surprise?;)

HB: Well, I do like surprise, but if it's from you, I must be careful.. :P I can't do it tomorrow, I got something else to do. What about the crazy times?

Me: well, for the crazy times, depends on what day you're free, I got different ideas.;) When are you free?

(2 hours later)

HB: Sorry for late reply, well Grace is still in her hometown, maybe I'll just meet you guys after she got home, haha (she confessed that she wants to go out with me, but not alone, she's an awkward girl with the boys, so I just understand that she's nervous and play social circle game just for her) Btw, did you called me with a private number?

Me: Who says that I'm going to go out with you alone? I don't go out with a girl who might want something from me, you're too dangerous, maybe more dangerous than me. :) No "HB", I'll bring my friends, u bring ur friends too. I just feel the more people we bring the better it would be. Don't u feel so? :) So, is Thursday okay for you? And more importantly, are you adventurous? :) (credit to you!!)

Me: Oh, I almost forgot 1 thing. No, I didn't call you with a private number. I got calls like that too often, and it's creepy. So why would I do that? Got it? ;)

HB: Ok2, I'm sorry, hehe ;). Yeah, it was really creepy, so I didn't pick it up. And what's more creepy is, after that 1 of my friend called and asked me if something happened to me. I was confused, and think that there's somebody who'll terrorize me. haha... quite creepy. Then I replied, what did u mean? and because he/she (IDK, she just mentioned a friend, not specific,) didn't reply and I was curious, I called and he told me that he got bad feelings about her and usually is right, n he just wanted to make sure that I'm OK. Whew.. Annoying. How'd you feel if u're on a situation like that? Sometimes I got creeped out, u know. *snivel* 0_o

Me: Don't cry. I got times like that too. If you really are paying atention to my stories, u'll remember, which I'm sure u will because u're a pretty good listener.;) I'll tell u later about it. I'm still at the church now, be good and wait, "HB" ;)

HB: Hey2, I didn't really cry. I'm just telling u a story. haha... Well, I'm also going to get my dinner. Well, u're at the church? Is Kevin still there? He told me that he'd go to Switzerland to study? Has he departed? (Kevin's her schoolmate)

I really meant it, so I ignored her and called her 3 hours later. She didn't pick up, I texted her (as usually I do to make her comply)

Me: Hey HB, have u finished eating? It's just a lot of exciting things happeed today. Call me back if you've finished, ok? ;)

HB: Sorry steve, I'm not really in the mood to talk to you right now, so sorry, maybe another time. Bye!

I just thought that she's not in the mood (she's moody, she's confessed to me), so I just decided to text her the next day.

so the next day:

Me: Hey Miss Moody, how's your mood? Don't worry about it, just stay positive and believe that it'll over soon. Like yesterday, I was so tired after the trip back to here (u know what happened if I'm tired) and I was so in bad mood. I just believe that it'll be over soon guess what?? A cute girl texted me while I was at the church and told me about how scared she was, because somebody called her with a private ID, and she cried in the text!! It was so funny and my bad mood were gone. I kinda like her because she's a little bit spoiled, but I was at the church so I told her to wait. I don't know if she's still scared and crying. :P Maybe I'll just call her later and give her amazing and fun times. :P LOL.. :D Ever experienced a day like that, "HB"?

This one shocked me

HB: Hahaha... You're such an overexaggetor guy, I'm not that scared. Sometimes I don't like telling stories to you, u just love to overexaggerate it, and IDK, I don't like it, ur mouth is too sweet, haha.. no offense, ok? :P And it's not because of my mood, my mood is normal, just what I think about you, and I hope you don't get offended, ok? :P And it's not because u're at the church and replied my text so long and I got bored, I understand. and I wasn't in bad mood either, just feel like I don't want to talk you. Hehe, ok, bye! ^^

(30 minutes later)
I thought it's a shit test, so I dared to stay cool and didn't take it too seriously

Me: I just got back from the shop, bought some mags, sorry for late reply.:) Hahaha... My mouth is too sweet? Maybe I can sell it like a candy. How much do you think I should sell it? 1$ per bite? :P That's the art of story telling, girl. I think that's one of the most important skills to have, besides it's also on of my passions to be an actor or a story teller. This is how I talk, not just to you, but to everybody. I say things what they deserve, I take away what they don't. So u better get used to it. OK? :) Well, if u can't take any jokes, I'll just be a serious, boring guy, who got a face like this ---> *angry face*. Haha.. for late texts, I know now u hate me so much, u won't get bothered by it. ;) So Nemesis, let me guess, u're online at home?

Then she didn't reply.....

So Adam, what I want to ask you are:
1) What did I do wrong?
2) Should I apologize and change my character?
3) What should I do now (how many days should I wait before contacting her again,etc)?

It's my sticking points for now, mate. Any advice?? Thanks a million!!

Best pal,
Steven ;)



Hey Desertfox565,

Phew, this is a long one. Text interactions are always difficult because there are an infinite amount of other factors that could also be happening. It is impossible to know what she is thinking, what she is doing when receiving and responding to the texts, if she understands the humour in them, etc.

What I can tell you is that every single text interaction began with you initiating the conversation. That in itself shows that she is not and interested or as invested as you are. Too much of that can be beating a dead horse. What I recommend is to leave it be for a while and she if she starts it up again. If she does then reward that and get her qualifying herself. If she doesn't then maybe try once more and see where it goes. If it dies again with her not answering the phone or responding to texts then leave it be and add her to your list of LJBFs. No point chasing a dead set!

Hope this helps, mate!


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PostPosted: Thu Jul 23, 2009 5:15 am 
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Adam,

thanks in advance....

Went up to a HB7 the other night at a bar - she was all alone, I had a great opening line cause I knew she was young. I'm 38 but most people put me at around 30-32.

We got along great, I was charming, funny, etc...she turned out to be 21.

Anyway, I leave, give her my number and tell her "if you feel like I'm not one of the coolest guys you've met in quite a while, don't call."

She texted me that night, texted me all day long on the 4th and when I proposed I meet up with her (she said she got into a fight with her best friend and was "all alone at home - I thought it was an invite in disguise) she said, not tonight, but how about tomorrow? I said that sounded good, I'm a teacher and I'm off for the summer.

She texted the next night and said: "I can't hang tonight. I am sorry. maybe tues. I have an early class tomorrow and a test I forgot about. sorry."

I responded, "No worries - school is very important. :)"

It's tuesday night, she didn't contact me - what should I do next? I'm really not stressed at all, but would definitely like to get with this one - she's way cute and what can I say, her being 21 is extra-hot.



Hey Alisterio,

From the looks of it it seems as if she is interested in you. Since she texted you first after you gave her your number the attraction is definitely there. What you should do everytime you have a day 2 or meeting with a girl is send them a text the morning of to verify the meet. Something along the lines of “Hey, just want to let you know that I'll be coming from a meeting so I'm going to be 5 minutes late.” That way you find out early in the day if she will flake or not. If she's cool with it then it is solidified even more in her head that you will be meeting up.

Another way to help greatly reduce flakes is to qualify them when you're making plans. You can try something like “You're not one of those girls who says they'll meet up and then cancels last minute, are you? Time wasters, no one likes those!” No girl will admit to being a flake so she will qualify herself on not being one which makes the close even more solid.

I would say hang back and see if she contacts you and try a meet up again. Try doing what I mention above and see how it goes. Good luck!


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PostPosted: Thu Jul 23, 2009 5:16 am 
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Dear Adam,
I'm a newbie in desperate need of some help from a pro. I'll try to make my story brief and I'd really appreciate it if you can get me out of this devastating situation.

So I've been running my little novice game on this girl, HB9 (IMO), number closed and kiss closed after 3 dates. My game basically consists of some cocky funny plus lots of negs, trying to set up a frame that she needs me and I'm in control.

An example of what I do:
[After kiss-close, via text]
Girl: Why'd you wanna kiss me?
Me: Cuz you look like your sister. I've been into her for a long time.
Girl: Haha go for her if you don't want me.
Me: Ahh she's on vacation so I guess I'm gonna have to make do with you for the time being.
Girl: Haha (blah blah blah)

Things went fine until after the fourth date, when I texted her and the problem began. It seems she's using the neg thing to fire back at me.
[Via text]
Girl: Honestly I'm not missing you for even one second. Try harder
Me: I hate trying. Take it or leave it
Girl: It seems you didn't wanna leave me today
Me: I just thought it'd be cruel to
Girl: I told you I didn't need you, I don't mind you leaving me ok? It was you who hit on me first
Me: K girl you're starting to sound more interesting

I was a little startled by that sudden attack but figured it was a shit test so couple of days later I texted her again. This one went worse

Me: So any plans today?
Girl: Lots of them. Coffee, lunch, movies, games, piano lesson... But I'll be at {restaurant where she has lunch, damn long name} if you wanna see me for a while. Miss me huh?
Me: I was bored. Just thought a talk should be fun.
Girl: That's not enough. If you don't miss me I won't see you.
Me: Are you gonna be with your friends?
Girl: My group of friends yeah. we're hanging out the whole day. You still haven't answered my question.
Me: Cuz I don't wanna lie :))
Girl: It's ok you don't have to say something to please me.

(I thought this was the time to take one step back and build some comfort so I said:)

Me: Yeah I guess I miss you. A bit. Kind of. But I can't see you today, I'm really not comfortable with your friends around.
Girl: Haha that's exactly what I wanna hear. Listen there's no reason for me to see you if you say you miss me. It makes me feel guilty.
Me: Guess I'll see you later then
Girl: See ya. Can't really text you now anyway.

Ok now I'm really confused. Is this just another shit test or did she lose interest in me? Did I just get gamed by a girl?

AFC Adam I can't thank you enough if you can:
1) Break it down and tell me what I did wrong
2) Tell me what's gonna happen next (she'll dump me, she'll come back a few days later...)
3) Give me some guides of what to do next to get out of this shit.

You don't have to do all three but if you do it'd be much appreciated. Any further advices or general tips with this girl would be very nice.

Please note that she's already got a boyfriend and we're Asians so the ASD could be a little tough to take down.

Thank you,
Dicksaplenty




Hey Dicksaplentyy,

Honetely mate, you answered this one yourself in the first paragraph. You are too neggy and trying to set up this frame of her needing you, which doesn't seem to be working.

Negging and being cocky/funny are things that you should use as specific times, not throughout your entire interaction with a girl. You use these when you are trying to break rapport and build attraction. If the attraction is already there, which it obviously is if you've gone on dates and k-closed, then by negging you are actually punishing her compliance, which is the good behaviour that you like.

Drop the negging a bit and try to only use it when you need to. Build comfort and deep rapport and it should be golden.


Also, don't go for girls with boyfriend. It's immoral and just not cool.

Hope this helps.

Adam


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PostPosted: Thu Jul 23, 2009 5:18 am 
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Hi Adam

Ill try get thru this quick as poss

sooo...........
I been workin at ma office for about 4 years, and still havent plucked up the courage to ask out a girl/number close a girl who works in a different department for almost 3 yrs. Yes im a looser lol Ive been in the should i ? shouldnt i state for sooooo long!! arghhhhhhhh

Now she work on the same floor close to my desk so i see her everyday, shes just not in the same department so theres no real valid reason for me to go over....
I dont know if she single or not, we dont ever have same breaks ect and If i do say anything shell know am just tryin to hit on her.

I know this is a bit different to club or street game, and proberly not even a good idea esp as we work in the same building on the same floor....but how could i go about an approach? or to even break the ice, im sick of just blank glances when our eyes meet. She prob thinks am a weirdo lol
Should i just let it be (?
What can i say or do ?

Plzzzzz help me

Thanks Cal


Hey Calrox,

This is definitely different then club game or day game, but in honesty, you go about it the same way. It sounds to me like you just have a case of approach anxiety. There are ALWAYS going to be a dozen different reasons as to why you can't go up to someone. It's never the right time, you don't have anything to relate on, she will always be busy with work, you will always feel self conscious....

The best advice I can give you is the next time you walk near her desk or make eye contact just smile and say “Hey, we both work here but we haven't been introduced yet. I'm _________, and you are? Nice to meet you! So what is your job here in the office?” and then take it from there. You work together, you're colleagues, and you see each other every day. There is no reason for you to NOT introduce yourself and say hi.


Be careful with this one... like the saying goes, don't shit where you sleep. ;) But good luck!


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adam, I need tips on how to follow up after direct, Im in a mood that when Im in a party or anything like that I end up seeing one or two girls that really interest me, that I'd like to befriend, have some beers, hang out some other day.. and Im trying direct(if anything)
I don't have much trouble with AA, chatting, but its just that they go auto-bitch shield/barely answering/ignoring then its hard to make a conversation... how should I do it?

Hey Brenoporra,

I almost never recommend going direct for exactly that reason. It is either hit or miss and there is almost no way to follow up if you get blown out right away. So for that my advice is to try not going direct! Make conversation, build comfort with them and get a friendly and fun vibe going between you. When that is there then try switching to direct for the close. It should work so much easier and be a much smoother transition.

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Hey Adam, I just wanna say first that I love your material, I listen to you every day in my car. Thanks for all you've done man, seriously.

My problem isn't with approaching, opening, or comfort building. I have a SERIOUS issue with LMR. I can get girls into a room, and make out for as long as I want, but I'd say that 75% of the time I don't get further than that. I'll go for the button on her pants and she'll take my hand and put it somewhere else. This gets incredibly frustrating and most of the time i'll just leave. This happened to me last night. Happened to me two weeks ago, and at least 4 other times in recent memory. So, as I'm typing this I have 4 hickeys on the right side of my neck, but did not get laid last night. How can I break down this resistance? Thanks in advance.

-Jeremy


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Hey Adam, general questions:

1. I am playful and a funny guy, but to be "that person", I need to be in state, which not a state that I'm always in. If I'm not in state, my teasings become insulting and it becomes a little bit difficult. So how do I "pump her state" a.k.a being fun in moment like this?? Can I pump her state or add value by giving a lot of fun topics to talk about instead??

2. For social circle game, do I have to get close to each person in the circle? Or having them as hang out friends is enough?? Because getting close to each of the entourage member is too tiring and time consuming.

Thanks for this one, mate!!

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Ok, just copy/pasted from FB

Hey Adam,

first of all, congrats to you and Amanda for getting married, best wishes to both of you,

second, i have a question that would kinda suit your style of game (social proof, social circle, etc). I work as a bartender and "party guide" (like tour guide for big dance events like Sensation White and stuff) from time to time so i keep in touch with a lot of hostesses and other good looking girls, but its always a 1 on 1 interaction. I was planning to throw a house party when i'll have the house to myself (ye well, i'm 19, don't have my own place), to kinda create a new social circle (my old one is like 75% guys and they are terrible with women. And no, i dont want to make them wings.) So what should i be aware of when putting a bunch of hot girls who don't know each other in the same room for the first time? Is it even a good idea? And what should i do with my old social circle & how to keep them away from the party so they don't "leech" off my value? They know the party will be happening and all want to come, but cant really "contribute" anything to it...

Thanks in advance man, you are a real inspiration.

T.K.

p.s.:
Social proof rocks, especially when your date is late and when she comes you are already sitting down with a FHM girl (With who you arrange to go partying the next week) ;)


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Hey Adam, hope ur doing well.

I've got three questions I'm hoping you're able to answer.

1. How do I act positive/add value without being the guy thats too pushy or too dancing monkey like. Because it seems that when I try to be those things, I seem try hard or maybe too pushy.

2. what do I do when I ask compliance from someone and she refuses to comply?

.. and how do you deal with someone who takes advantage of your good intentions of helping out? maybe they constantly ask you ro do favours, or something like that. How do I prevent from becoming a pushover?


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AFCAdam

Thank you for the reply for my previos quesiton, it makes sense now. But I have a new one. Is it normal for a girl to flirt around with other guy despite the fact she is your girlfriend and have a really strong relationship with you. Also how do you handle her doing such things?

I know you said that a strong relationship is all about trust and confidence but this is such a senstivie matter can easily be mistaken if brought up in a relationship. I am jus asking to make sure.

Thank you
Angelz
Hey Angelz,

Glad I could help you on the previous question, that's why I'm here! OK, now this one can be tough and I definitely see how it is a sensitive matter. If you and your girl are in a completely exclusive relationship, then NO it is not normal for her to flirt with other guys. Not only does it make you look bad, but it weakens the trust in the relationship and leaves you questioning if there are other motives behind it.

If it bothers you, which it obviously does, you need to bring it up. It's going to be awkward and uncomfortable, but you need to tell her how you feel and that you don't like it. Decide if it is a deal breaker... if it is then tell her it needs to stop or you won't want to be in the relationship anymore.

That's the only way to handle it. Good luck with this one, mate.

Adam


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PostPosted: Wed Aug 12, 2009 5:17 am 
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hi Adam
i started gaming online wot do u think of this conversation and how could i improve the conversation and where should i go from here
cheers in advance mate

ME hey wts up dude

HB heyyy nothing much really you ? xoxo

ME im jus chillin, surfin around tryin to chat to some cool ppl

HB i think we are pretty cool (Y)

ME i hope so Razz, as long as ur not a sick pervert we're all good

HB nah im not a sick pervert lmao
hehe Smile
sooo... Smile
xxx

ME are you a bum or do you do something when your not on here Smile ???

HB huuuh ? am i a bum ? lmaoo
x

ME lol, ur not good at reading r ya Razz
wt i ment was do u do nethin cool when ur not on this site Smile

HB lmaooo ahhh reet i go on msn or facebook ...or listen to music Smile
you ?
xoxo

ME well im a bit mor active than ya,
usually im out riding my bmx with my m8s, going out shoppin, basically havin loads of laughs with the guys
SPAM im at college tryin to get through a levels
u go school???

HB i thought you ment what you do on the comp lmao ... yeah i go out with friends ive just finished school ... i applyed for college and an nhs cadet course which you work in a hospital for three days a qweek then college the other two day and i got intothat .

ME you must be a very considerate person??

HB lol you got msn ?
xx


This conversation then went onto msn messenger



(14:13) ME: hey
(14:14) HB: hiii:)
(14:14) ME: found ya Razz
(14:14) HB: Razz
Woop
(14:15) ME: so y familychelsi
Razz
(14:15) HB: i dunno i made it when i was 12
:L
or 11 cant remeber
(14:15) ME: ok we'll leave it at that
lol
(14:15) HB: lmao :L so dont be put off lmao :L:L
(14:16) ME: hehe
(14:16) HB: Smile
(14:16) ME: so wts u bin doin whilst ive been aWAY
(14:16) HB: erm nothing much working Sad
(14:17) ME: thats kool
(14:17) HB: lol :W
(14:17) ME: is work hard or borin
(14:17) ME: or both
(14:17) HB: both haaaa
(14:17) ME: get pay???
(14:1Cool HB: i get paid monthly which is even shitter lmao
(14:1Cool ME: lol
id prefer that actually
(14:1Cool ME: means i dnt spend it all
every week
(14:1Cool HB: yeah
lol
(14:19) HB: were bouts you live?
(14:19) ME: luton blad
Razz
(14:19) ME: how bout u
(14:19) HB: preston :W
(14:20) ME: fun?
(14:20) HB: no l ol
(14:21) ME: it got ne good shoppin centres
(14:21) HB: ermm yeah there okay .....
do you liive near bluewater?
(14:21) ME: not too far
bout 1 hrs drive
(14:22) HB: .i LOVEEEE bluewater
(14:22) ME: init man
its awesome
(14:22) HB: lool
(14:22) ME: used to go to cinema there shoppin
(14:22) HB: :W :* Wink
(14:23) ME: im goin out soon btw
(14:23) HB: okay Sad
(14:23) ME: it's ok dnt cry Razz~
(14:25) ME: u gt ur hols yet
(14:25) HB: yeahh :
Smile
(14:25) ME: wt u plannin on doin
(14:26) HB: i dunno i like im staying in london at somepoint
well kent
(14:26) ME: used to live in kent
(14:26) HB: Razz
(14:26) ME: it's an ok
place
(14:26) HB: yeah
(14:26) ME: stay in london it's awesome
(14:27) HB: most of my famly live there and in gRavesend
(14:27) ME: used to pass through ther on the train
(14:2Cool HB: Smile
(14:2Cool HB: asif you live soo far away
(14:29) ME: huh wts that
(14:29) HB: you live so far away lol
(14:29) ME: nah m8
(14:29) HB: huh
(14:30) ME: my family is colse to there
stoke
(14:30) HB: near to preston ?
(14:30) ME: think so
(14:30) HB: hehe ;)ayy
(14:30) ME: im goin there next wek
(14:31) HB: ohhhh Razz
(14:32) ME: gt many friends
(14:32) HB: huh? :L
(14:32) ME: do u hav alot of freinds or r u an unsocial bastard Razz
(14:33) HB: i have quite alot Razz
(14:33) ME: lol
(14:33) HB: :L
(14:33) ME: lie
(14:33) HB: :-O
(14:33) ME: jkin dnt cry
(14:33) HB: :L
(14:34) ME: do u stay fit?
me likes random questions
(14:35) HB: haaaha hmmm.... yeah i go on my tredmill :L
(14:35) ME: wt like once a year or is that too much Razz
(14:36) HB: haha :L nah i go on it about only 3 times a week because i work quite alot
(14:36) ME: koolio
yh i jus go bmxin
(14:36) HB: cool (Y)
(14:36) ME: i dnt work enuf
(14:37) ME: so dats wt im doin most of the time
(14:37) HB: hehe were do you work
?
(14:37) ME: i wash lorrys (Y) ^o)
(14:37) ME: for my m8s dad's company
(14:3Cool HB: cool ... haard work ? there massivee !
(14:3Cool ME: hehe
not hard work
(14:3Cool HB: :L
(14:3Cool ME: once u gt the mind set it's easy
^o)
(14:39) ME: where do u work btw
(14:39) HB: you know midland hotel have you got one were you live?
(14:40) ME: hmmm no
(14:40) HB: ohhh yeah i work there ... it well hard ..
(14:41) ME: wt u do
(14:41) HB: work functions weddings and stuff like that but its 4 or 5 star hotel so we have to be really good and the shifts are all like 14 hours
im like :S
but its £6.50 so im not that fussed
(14:42) ME: fair enuf
(14:42) HB: Razz
(14:42) ME: it sounds so fun
(14:42) HB: ...no lol
(14:42) ME: lol
(14:43) ME: my works way mor fun than urs
(14:43) HB: im only working there because its 6.50 an hour lmao
lol i bet it is
(14:43) ME: it's sposed to b stressful
(14:43) HB: lmaoo
(14:46) HB: byeeeee talk to you later Wink xoxoxooxox
(14:46) ME: bye
(14:46) HB: Smile
(14:46) HB is now Offline
Session Start: 11 July 2009


(00:33) ME: hey
(00:33) HB: hiii
(00:33) ME: jus get back from work???
(00:33) HB: nah i finished at 7 today Smile
(00:34) ME: kool
y u up so l8 then??
(00:34) HB: i cnt get to sleep Sad
(00:34) ME: is sum1 still havin nitemares
(00:35) HB: hehe no but you can come over if you like then i wont have them
(00:35) ME: so wts ur address Razz
(00:35) HB: Wink
(00:35) ME: dw i'll keep u safe
(00:36) HB: Smile woop hehe
(00:37) ME: we'll jus pretend im there
(00:37) HB: loool Smile
(00:37) ME: but dnt hav an orgasm on me
please
(00:37) HB: :L:L:L dont worry i wont lmao
(00:3Cool ME: so wt uber cool things did u do today
(00:39) HB: erm work Sad ahhaa you do anything fun ?:L
(00:39) ME: alton towers....yhhhhh
(00:39) HB: :-O jelous much !!!!!
(00:39) ME: sorry forgot to invite ya
(00:39) HB: hmf
:L
(00:40) ME: Razz
(00:40) HB: :W
(00:40) ME: im sure it was much mor fun at work
im jelous
(00:40) HB: nahh it was shite
(00:40) ME: dont b so negative
(00:40) HB: lol
:L
(00:41) ME: hav u got a cam
(00:41) HB: yeah but i look eugggh
(00:41) ME: do u think i care
(00:41) HB: yh
(00:42) ME: im sure u'll b very good looking in any state
(00:42) ME: mayb even sexy Razz
(00:42) HB: hehe no honestly i look horrible lmao ill go on tomoz i promise Razz but oli if you have cam i only go on wen other people do
(00:43) ME: erm well showing my face would me not very mysterious
be *
(00:43) ME: but for you i may hav to
your very easy to talk to
(00:44) HB: am i Cool
:L
(00:45) ME: of coursealthough u seem to find everything i say funny
(00:45) HB: im sure putting that laughing face is a habbit
(00:45) ME: ok...course it is
(00:46) HB: ... yup
(00:46) ME: if i wasnt funny y r u still talking to me...hmmm
(00:47) ME: hmm
(00:47) HB: Razz
(00:49) ME: hmm im tryin to figure out wt colour eyes u hav
(00:49) ME | - is now Offline
(00:49) ME | - is now Online
(00:49) ME: sorry my internet is poo
(00:50) HB: tha might help you
(00:50) ME: huh
(00:50) HB is now Offline
(00:50) HB is now Online
(00:51) HB: lol sorry bout that
(00:51) ME: better b Razz
(00:51) HB: :L
soooooo...
(00:51) ME: its blu on my screen
(00:51) HB: yeah i ahve blue eyes
(00:52) ME: thats cool i do prefer green thou
(00:52) HB: cool
(00:52) ME: Razz
(00:53) ME: hav u been alton towers b4
(00:53) HB: nope
(00:53) ME: lame
i'll take ya 1 day
(00:53) ME: although i hav no car
(00:54) HB: haahaa hm.. yeah when you have a car Smile come and get me Smile
(00:55) ME: will u b expectig a sports car or a limo
(00:55) HB: any;P
(00:55) ME: okie dokie
(00:55) HB: Razz
(01:00) ME: brb
(01:00) HB: oakii
(01:05) ME: bck
(01:05) ME: hav u fallen asleep yet
(01:05) HB: nopee
(01:06) ME: so wat was soo shite about work today
(01:07) HB: erm we had an afternoon tea its were they have tea and coffee and food like scones and then they had a tour around the hotel but that ended really quick so then we had to sset up for a wedding tomoz and i had to polish cutlery
(01:0Cool ME: that doent sound too bad
(01:09) HB: lool
(01:09) ME: do u not like scones or somethin
(01:09) HB: we dont get to eat them Sad lol
(01:09) HB: sooo im spending tomoz night cleaning up glasses woop
(01:10) ME: yay...sounds awesome
(01:12) ME: so wt u doin tomorrow
(01:13) HB: ermmm im gonna go into toen with friends then at night working Sad you ?
town *
(01:14) ME: going to try and avoid helping the parents clear out the loft, and then go out
ooo wt u buyin???
(01:15) HB: i dunno yet
(01:16) ME: well go and treat urslef
(01:17) ME: i wont always b there to treat ya Razz
(01:1Cool HB: ayyy Wink
(01:19) ME: well neway i gta go
(01:20) HB: okay byeeee xoooxx
(01:20) ME: bye
luv ya Razz
(01:20) ME: o and get to bed
(01:20) ME | - is now Offline

Hey TopHat,

I'm going to be completely honest with you and say that I did not read that. I have way too much ADD and too busy of a schedule to read entire conversations that span over 6 pages of text. If you have a specific question or a sticking point then I can help you out!

Try asking about a certain aspect of game and I would be more than happy to help!

Adam


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PostPosted: Wed Aug 12, 2009 5:18 am 
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Joined: Wed Aug 06, 2008 3:04 pm
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Hello Adam
My name is steve i live in NYC I am new to this game but find the whole concept of pickup is very intriguing (for reason that go beyond simply bedding lots of women).I never though Id ever want to take a BC but ive seem your videos and you seem different from most of the other guys and now you BC is a serious consideration. Im 19 and Though I have some disposable income $1,000 is still alot. Now im in no way trying to compain since I know your BC is much less than most others out there. Ive read the few reviews ive seen online and my only concern which seems to plague most bootcamps of MPUAs from what I read is am I going to be taught by you specificlly or am i goign to hear you talk for an hour or two then get an instructer for the rest of the time? I realize that you have 13 other students but are we all goign to et one on one time or are yougoing to be mor elike a colleg professor who has the TAs deal with the stuents (which from what Ive read is what lots of guys in the buisness are doing today).Even though your answer may be byast from what I have read your a good guy whos not out there just to make money liek some of the other MPUAs in the game so I figure youd give me a pretty honest answer. I know you have a GF and for that reason you no longer do live pickups (understandable). I liek your style of Game and you seem to be a person I could introduce to my friends without a wierd "why the fuck are you friends with that guy" look whihc is exactly the type of PUA I would liek to be. (sry extreme peacokcing is just not for me). Also your NYC BC is on the same day Im supposed to go back to school so id have to drive 3 hours there then 3 hous back then another 3 hours there agian and miss my fraternitys firts party of the semester and considering Im the guy in charge of runnign our parties that could be no bueno. I remember you saying your in a fraternity in one of your videos so you undrstand fraternity politics. Anyway what i mean is will you be having another NYC BC whihc I may attend any time soon or is this the last one in the near future?

Hey SAF12,

Thanks for your interest in a bootcamp! I have a team of instructors who are also on the courses to make sure that everyone gets personalized attention throughout the whole weekend, but I actually do teach on my own bootcamps. Drop an email to my partner and she will be able to fill you in on an all of the bootcamp questions you might have. Feel free to just copy and paste your questions from this thread if you need to. Reach her at torres@attractionexplained.com

Adam


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