So I'll be going to this birthday party for a mutual friend (between me and my ex) this saturday. I havent talked to my ex in over a month till today due to the fact of how our relationship ended.

long story short for those who never read my other topic about it-
-i get back from travelling and staying with her the whole time im gone
-10 days after i'm back she says she wants to try being friends
-i say fuck that, im not gonna stick around being unhappy while you get with other people
-we end up fighting over all that, and i eventually find out shes seeing this guy i really dont like, so i tell her off once and for all and 2 days later they officially start dating.

im sure most of us have all been there, and yeah its a shitty feeling, and i was impressed with myself for doing a complete freeze out for more than a month after that to get her off my mind. and then she messages me today...

so anywho, shes gonna be at this get together of about 30 people (and god knows probably her new bf is gonna be there too). and for some reason im looking very forward to this. i know she was dying to be friends when we broke up, and still wants to get along with me, but honestly, i am still rather bitter about how everything played out.

i on the other hand, want to prove her wrong, spark some jealousy, and build some attraction again just for kicks (shes HB9). i dont care much whether i succeed or not, since my oneitis fizzled away kinda quick, but i wanna give it a shot just to see what happens. so since we have a pretty deep history, how do i play this card?

so far today between a few text's i keep my answers short, simple, witty and in a smart ass tone. should i keep this tone rolling at the party this saturday and ignore her for the most part and concentrate my attention on her friends? i just need some pointers on how to revive any sort of feeling out of her after this cluster-fuck we went through. any tips?

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Don't go there if you're planning on evoking feelings other than happyness.

That's not what pick-up is about.

Besides you live NOW, not in the fucking past. What's done is done.

hahah the way things ended man, the only direction things could ever go between me and my ex is up, i just wanna see how happy i can get is all

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LOL, some of yall crack me up ... if you ignore her she is just going to think your bitter about the situation and say why is he being such a MF baby ... I think you should do the opposite and show her your doing better and charm the shit out of everyone you see .... including her boyfriend (not in a homo matter) ... I would be the life of the party ... also, I think it you were fully over her you would not care what she thinks or even if she was going to be there cause you would be worried about getting other girls ...

thats what i mean...
charm the shit out of everyone else at the party, not totally freezing her out, but not giving her as much attention as everyone else and throwing the odd c/f her way rather being bitter and being like 'fuck you bitch' and ruin the party for everyone else. never said i was completely over her, said the oneitis was done with. i mean its kinda hard not to think about it here and there considering how long we were together and we didnt break up that long ago either. i couldnt care less if she walked in on me fucking one of her friends, we've broken up so just like her, i'm free to hook up with who ever i please. any girl is fair game now.

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Personally i wouldnt worry about her at all. Like some of the other posters mentioned i would just go and have a good time and be interesting and she might notice she might not. Besides these forums are about PUA not Oneities. Your probly looking for the sites that give relationship advice. Now if you wanted to go to the party and pick up a couple of HB's then i think more people here could help you. Plus getting revenge on her will not help anything. If you truly are over her then revenge wont even help your self esteem. I also wouldnt ignore her. I would even be friendly to her but i agree about not breng her friend because of the way she ended things. If she can screw you like that on a personal dating level i doubt she would be a good friend anyway.

Skankin

I completely know the feeling here. Almost the same thing happened to me two years ago and I can honestly say I wish I handled everything differently looking back on it all. I've most definitely done some growing up since then.

Back then, I would have said to go to the party and make her jealous. Right now, I wouldn't do that at all. If you have bitter feelings about it (who wouldn't feel a bit hurt), you associate her with a negative current situation. If you make her the focus of your night, it will also have a negative outcome. Negative intentions draw negative vibes, and there is no need for that. Instead, the focus of your night should be enjoying yourself and welcoming others into your fun.

If I were in your position, I would go to the party with the main intention being to have a great time, meet new people, and socialize. You may end up meeting a cool girl there that you really hit it off with. I don't know how your feelings are towards her right now (as in bitter or just don't care anymore), but don't go for the purpose of getting a reaction out of her. Go to the party for you and just vibe.

ah good to see someones got the exact perspective of where im coming from. turns out im not going to the party after all. one of my mates is throwing a giant rager the same night and i dont nickel and dime when it comes to partying. definately blowing this one off for the other for sure now.

it would have been interesting to see how things played out though. like i said, there were about 30 people going and i know all of them already. my ex does have a handful of cute friends who i still keep in touch with which i wouldnt mind digging in a little deeper just for kicks.

id be lying if i said i didnt want a reaction out of something i could do, but lets be honest. im only human right? anyone who can instantly kill a feeling towards someone is a liar or isnt human. its still been so long that i dont care much for what she does anymore (seeing is how we already hit rock bottom anyway), but i am a touch bitter to everything that happened, its pretty hard not to be right? ill kill the plan in general and take your advice to future parties and do my best just to enjoy myself as much as i can. thanks man for the insight man, very helpful

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