SFL you keep thinking that and you wont get very far in your life let alone your game.

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Hey getalife Firstly bro good on you for getting out there! I have tried going solo myself a few times and know how incredibly hard it is.

This may not be the best advice but If you are really as socially awkward as you say you are maybe take things in small steps?

Like for example, go out for a few weeks - not too long or you'll get into a comfort zone - and say to yourself, I'm going out to have a good time BY MYSELF - me and my mate call it going into "observing mode" put focus on what is going on around you and not how you are feeling. Grab a drink find a table, sit relax chill and people watch but not too creepy. Smile. Act like you are having a good time. Get comfortable with being in the social situation first before you try sarging. you don't need to force yourself to talk to anyone unless you want to. do this for a few weeks and gradually build up confidence to approach.. if you are comfortable with the environment then you can focus on getting comfortable with the people

Hope that helps dude pick a bar that is busy and you can blend back into it a dance floor where you can watch chicks - chicks like being watched dancing aslong as you smile and don't have a creepy look on your face

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Yea definitely think you should find people to go with, shouldn't be that hard for you. Clubbing is an accessory after you getalife first.

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Dear brother,

I can count the number of times I sarged alone and guess what they are ZERO nill.

However I can count the times I went out alone , see the difference. When I mean by going out I mean going out for a reason other than to open a set or try out your "PUA" skills. I mean by going out for the purpose of having fun or enjoying what your doing. When I go out alone its usually for the music that I love the genre itself , first thing I do when I go inside is hit the dancefloor and start dancing by myself , do I give a fuck what people think ? no because im there for me.

Now it so happens that I see an interesting girl or something and I go and introducde myself (in other words open the set) and find out whats her story.

the basic problem with going alone is that its becomin such a limited beleif for people that they need to be seen with other people , tell you what fuck what others think and do what you enjoy.

The reason your having an anxiety is because your going out there to get laid or to get women , tell you what why dont you go and do something you really enjoy and if there is something interesting there chat her up.

hell even dance with her and have some fun and be yourself as if your home, when your going to your room you dont think of what do other people think because its your realm and your kingdom the same should be laid out when your going out by yourself to a certain event.

the positives are:

1- If your on high positive state you will stick to it
2- You dont have other friends who drag you down if they are not feeling it
3- When people see you having a good time by yourself they feel it and respect you for it (not that I care)
4- Most importantly is you know how to have a good time by yourself thus your acquirin leadership skills ,imagine getting to know people and they find out that you have the skill of having fun by yourself
5- You have to approve that not all days your friends are always going to be there , specially with different taste of music genre etc.

its truely a beauty to have fun by yourself and respect yourself for it what others say is simply a limitin beleif dont let that touch you.

Your brother in arms ,
AVK

Thakns AVK! thats exactly the attitude I'm going to go out with!

Don't be afraid to go to a club alone. There is no such thing as sarging solo because you should always be engaged in a set and meeting people. Don't think of it as your going in there alone because once you get in there everyone around you is a potential friend.

all you have to do is meet one other person and then you are not solo anymore

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