Mail motherfuckers, I read only the first original post.

I had similar situations ´bout 2months ago. She had broke up with her boyfriend, I closed her because she seemed interested, she pushed me away when I made my move.

REMEMBER THIS: TIMING, if you make your move too early, she will block you. If you wait too long, she will block you because she wont be interested anymore.

Imo, now is your movement to bring it on. And one more advice: Dont call it a date.[/u]

Sounds tricky...
OK, so you both get on very well, enjoy each others company, have good communication and trust each other but at the momment you are "friends" and she still has baggage from her last relationship. I wish I could say I haven't been there but I have...

If something is going to happen I think she has to feel that its her decission and that the timing is right. Otherwise there is the danger that she'll accusse you of going back on what you said you wanted especially now she's opened up to you too and is feeling vulnerable. You have her trust but if she thinks you've used that trust to serve your own hidden intentions she won't like it. You will lose that trust and it will be very hard to ever get it back. Remember she's allowed to change her mind whenever she feels like it because she's a girl. On the plus side girls are fickle and certainly do change their mind... even when they say that they have concrete views about something.

If you do want to foster her feelings for you, I'd suggest keep having fun with her but try being busy once in while and do interesting things without her. If she is into "you" and not just looking for someone to sponge attention off then by seeing you less often it will help her to realise it. She will think about you more and appreciate it more when you are free. It will also give you interesting things to talk about when you see her next. In addition it will help you to think about her less because you will realise you can have fun without her preventing one-itis from setting in. If you have fun with other girls it will raise your own confidence and perceived worth to her.

Important point one: If you do decide to pull away from her slightly it musn't seem like its an active decision or ploy. As she knows you very well she may see through this and spot its a reaction to the heart to heart you had.

Important point two:: She mustn't ever think that you are waiting for her or
that she can have you whenever she feels like it otherwise it will not happen. Be seen with other friends and women having fun too.

Important point three: Don't tell her about other girls to make her jealous. Girls spot this a mile off. Its better if you wait for her to ask you about your love life. If she does and seems more interested than she should be its an IOI. It may also give you opportunities to tease her.

Hope this helps even if you've already come to similar conclusions yourself. Good luck

Thanks Halcyon! I like your advice. As of now I'm not even planning to date her at all. I'm just kind of keeping an open mind. Just as a safety net, let's say she does want to start something. I don't want to jump in too soon. I would only want to date her if she is 100% over her ex. Is there a way to know? or at least a minimum time to wait?

Sounds good - Bide your time.

As for how long to wait it sometimes takes 12 months to get over an ex. I guess it depends on her general self esteem, how it ended, her experience, age, how much of his stuff she still has, her career etc.

When she finally is over him, and provided you know her well enough, you should start noticing changes. Maybe a change in her dress sense or hair style, a more positive and enthusiastic attitude. She may even start to mention other guys again but if she does this might be a delibrate signal to let you know she's availible again. Alternatively, as above, she might start taking a larger interest in you love life than before.

If she mentions his name that's a reasonably good sign that she isn't over him completely. If she starts taking to you about him again just listen as a friend would and be as neutral as possible but don't let her go on forever. For example, as she starts repeating her self you should change the subject to something more positive. Alternatively, tease her about repeating herself before changing the subject. She should respect that. If you instead let her go on to her hearts content it will not be healthy for her or fair on you. You don't want to end up as the friend she complains about her ex too. She may start to associate you with thinking about hiim so much so that when she over him she won't want to see you again.

Let us know how it goes.

Just stay how you are the now, you both get along well and are good friends, you don't wanna ruin that I imagine? If something is gonna happen, you both are comfortable enough to talk about it further down the line. So that should be reassuring for you

Don't get too caught up in it though just incase nothing happens. At least you'll still be friends with her, then you can meet plenty of her new friends

Hope everything works out for you mate

Haha, just read what Halycon said. Put it much better