Hey Rhythmathic,

This question was asked a few posts ago so I'm going to copy/paste what I wrote there:

When you go out don't necessarily think about going out to pick up but meet people and socialize. When you do meet girls think about closing them as friends instead of as someone to want to nail or date. In essence, you LJBF them.

Make friends with them and then use those girls as entry ways to hotter girls. Get them to introduce you to other girls by asking to meet their friends! Tell them that you are looking for a good girl to date and that you need their help. Girls love that kind of stuff and are always willing to help.

Use the group of girls that you have friended as your pre-selection into the hotter group of girls. Remember, pre-selection is the highest trigger of attraction.


If you're doing it consistently, and by that I mean 2-3 times a week, you should have abundance within 2 weeks. But that's a bit slow, I've done it and seen it be done in 1 night.

Adam

Hey Cellarman,

If a girl is isolated back to your place and rubbing and stroking your thighs then the only thing to do is pull the trigger! Go for a make-out and make it happen! If she is drunk and throwing up then that is a different story, but there are no tips to give you except to do it.

It is OK to be anxious and a bit nervous, everyone feels like that when they're starting out, especially if its your first time. If a girl goes home with you or brings you to her place and you're alone... It's on. Be a man and make it happen!

Good luck bud!

Adam

Hey Sangoma3,

Mate, the only thing that I am getting from this is that you got MASSIVELY invested into this chick and the situation and worked way too hard to make it perfect. You can plan as hard as you want and you can try to make your game “perfect” but that is impractical and impossible to try to achieve.

Right now it seems as if you're trying to make your game a modular and structured thing like building blocks. Instead of thinking of it as building blocks think of it as water. Its more flow-y and can change and the change is a good thing. If one piece doesn't fit then it all won't come crumbling it just means it's flowing a different way.


She might have actually had to work. Her having to work isn't a shit test, it's a priority. The issue here isn't this specific girl or what you should have said to make it fool proof, its about not becoming as invested as you are without receiving a return on that investment and not tripping out when everything doesn't go as you want it to go. Make sure you can adapt your technique and your attitude and be flexible.


Probably not the answer you wanted to hear but this is the stuff that will help you in the long run.


Hope this helps mate,


Adam

Hey Angelz,

The one thing I think is most important in a relationship is that once you have a girlfriend and have both decided to be in a committed and exclusive relationship, game is off. Too many people are still so stuck in their “game” ways that they try to game the girlfriend. Being in a relationship is about having trust, being committed and having mutual respect. Trying to game her, use subtle manipulation or do things like “maintain a frame” does not equal to having trust and respect.

Being in a relationship (and I'm talking a real relationship, not an open one or having multiples) means learning about each other and being willing to be a bit vulnerable. If you really like her and you guys are going to do this then you shouldn't worry about being too needy or her not being attached. If you think her feelings might have changed then bring it up and see how she is feeling.

Relationships are a lot of work, especially trying to figure them out and having this be your first one. Good luck mate!

Adam

Hey Andrew/Mr_Foley,

First, let me promise you that you are NOT alone! The reason why this community exists is because guys out there feel like they're not reaching their potential when it comes to women. If others didn't feel like you did then this entire pick up and seduction community wouldn't be here.

Now in terms of getting your mojo back.... There is no magic pill you can take or secret steps you can do to fix it. This is all up to you and whether or not you are willing to practice and make it happen. You said that before you would wait for girls to approach you and that you have even passed up on a few opportunities. That needs to change. You need to grab life by the balls and start approaching. You need to not let any slip by and you need to take command of this.

You said you're good looking, not fat, not an asshole and not a bum. Those are all GREAT qualities! Which means that you're probably already 10 steps ahead of most other guys. Use all of that to your advantage. Get out there and do it, mate. Make it happen!
Hope this helps,

Adam

Hey Caillou,

It's AWESOME that you can open and, by the sound of it, you can hook a set pretty well. The only way to get past it is to actually force yourself to go through it. Stay in set and DON'T EJECT. One of the biggest mistakes guys make is by ejecting too early (premature eject-ulation I call it... many men suffer from it!) when they don't need to.

Stay in set and plow. Force yourself to talk. Make awkward conversation if you need to but get used to the feeling of staying in and not allowing yourself to leave. If the girls are interested then they will be adding to the conversation and it will flow.

Adam

Hey Fiftyone,

Wow, this is a broad one. I actually did a 45 minute video that was recorded with an NLP and it is posted under the VIP area on my site. This is not something that can be jotted down on a forum post really quick since it would take forever to do and will go really in depth.

To give you an idea of one aspect, my main belief is that all people are the same. No matter how hott, attractive, successful or rich they are so no one needs to be treated any different just because of their looks. I am also a firm believer that you should leave everyone better than you found them. It is all about adding value.


Hope this helps a bit, mate! And def hope on meeting you on a future bootcamp!


Adam

AFCAdam

Thank you for the reply for my previos quesiton, it makes sense now. But I have a new one. Is it normal for a girl to flirt around with other guy despite the fact she is your girlfriend and have a really strong relationship with you. Also how do you handle her doing such things?

I know you said that a strong relationship is all about trust and confidence but this is such a senstivie matter can easily be mistaken if brought up in a relationship. I am jus asking to make sure.

Thank you
Angelz

hi Adam
i started gaming online wot do u think of this conversation and how could i improve the conversation and where should i go from here
cheers in advance mate

ME hey wts up dude

HB heyyy nothing much really you ? xoxo

ME im jus chillin, surfin around tryin to chat to some cool ppl

HB i think we are pretty cool (Y)

ME i hope so Razz, as long as ur not a sick pervert we're all good

HB nah im not a sick pervert lmao
hehe Smile
sooo... Smile
xxx

ME are you a bum or do you do something when your not on here Smile ???

HB huuuh ? am i a bum ? lmaoo
x

ME lol, ur not good at reading r ya Razz
wt i ment was do u do nethin cool when ur not on this site Smile

HB lmaooo ahhh reet i go on msn or facebook ...or listen to music Smile
you ?
xoxo

ME well im a bit mor active than ya,
usually im out riding my bmx with my m8s, going out shoppin, basically havin loads of laughs with the guys
SPAM im at college tryin to get through a levels
u go school???

HB i thought you ment what you do on the comp lmao ... yeah i go out with friends ive just finished school ... i applyed for college and an nhs cadet course which you work in a hospital for three days a qweek then college the other two day and i got intothat .

ME you must be a very considerate person??

HB lol you got msn ?
xx


This conversation then went onto msn messenger



(14:13) ME: hey
(14:14) HB: hiii:)
(14:14) ME: found ya Razz
(14:14) HB: Razz
Woop
(14:15) ME: so y familychelsi
Razz
(14:15) HB: i dunno i made it when i was 12
:L
or 11 cant remeber
(14:15) ME: ok we'll leave it at that
lol
(14:15) HB: lmao :L so dont be put off lmao :L:L
(14:16) ME: hehe
(14:16) HB: Smile
(14:16) ME: so wts u bin doin whilst ive been aWAY
(14:16) HB: erm nothing much working Sad
(14:17) ME: thats kool
(14:17) HB: lol :W
(14:17) ME: is work hard or borin
(14:17) ME: or both
(14:17) HB: both haaaa
(14:17) ME: get pay???
(14:1Cool HB: i get paid monthly which is even shitter lmao
(14:1Cool ME: lol
id prefer that actually
(14:1Cool ME: means i dnt spend it all
every week
(14:1Cool HB: yeah
lol
(14:19) HB: were bouts you live?
(14:19) ME: luton blad
Razz
(14:19) ME: how bout u
(14:19) HB: preston :W
(14:20) ME: fun?
(14:20) HB: no l ol
(14:21) ME: it got ne good shoppin centres
(14:21) HB: ermm yeah there okay .....
do you liive near bluewater?
(14:21) ME: not too far
bout 1 hrs drive
(14:22) HB: .i LOVEEEE bluewater
(14:22) ME: init man
its awesome
(14:22) HB: lool
(14:22) ME: used to go to cinema there shoppin
(14:22) HB: :W :* Wink
(14:23) ME: im goin out soon btw
(14:23) HB: okay Sad
(14:23) ME: it's ok dnt cry Razz~
(14:25) ME: u gt ur hols yet
(14:25) HB: yeahh :
Smile
(14:25) ME: wt u plannin on doin
(14:26) HB: i dunno i like im staying in london at somepoint
well kent
(14:26) ME: used to live in kent
(14:26) HB: Razz
(14:26) ME: it's an ok
place
(14:26) HB: yeah
(14:26) ME: stay in london it's awesome
(14:27) HB: most of my famly live there and in gRavesend
(14:27) ME: used to pass through ther on the train
(14:2Cool HB: Smile
(14:2Cool HB: asif you live soo far away
(14:29) ME: huh wts that
(14:29) HB: you live so far away lol
(14:29) ME: nah m8
(14:29) HB: huh
(14:30) ME: my family is colse to there
stoke
(14:30) HB: near to preston ?
(14:30) ME: think so
(14:30) HB: hehe ;)ayy
(14:30) ME: im goin there next wek
(14:31) HB: ohhhh Razz
(14:32) ME: gt many friends
(14:32) HB: huh? :L
(14:32) ME: do u hav alot of freinds or r u an unsocial bastard Razz
(14:33) HB: i have quite alot Razz
(14:33) ME: lol
(14:33) HB: :L
(14:33) ME: lie
(14:33) HB: :-O
(14:33) ME: jkin dnt cry
(14:33) HB: :L
(14:34) ME: do u stay fit?
me likes random questions
(14:35) HB: haaaha hmmm.... yeah i go on my tredmill :L
(14:35) ME: wt like once a year or is that too much Razz
(14:36) HB: haha :L nah i go on it about only 3 times a week because i work quite alot
(14:36) ME: koolio
yh i jus go bmxin
(14:36) HB: cool (Y)
(14:36) ME: i dnt work enuf
(14:37) ME: so dats wt im doin most of the time
(14:37) HB: hehe were do you work
?
(14:37) ME: i wash lorrys (Y) ^o)
(14:37) ME: for my m8s dad's company
(14:3Cool HB: cool ... haard work ? there massivee !
(14:3Cool ME: hehe
not hard work
(14:3Cool HB: :L
(14:3Cool ME: once u gt the mind set it's easy
^o)
(14:39) ME: where do u work btw
(14:39) HB: you know midland hotel have you got one were you live?
(14:40) ME: hmmm no
(14:40) HB: ohhh yeah i work there ... it well hard ..
(14:41) ME: wt u do
(14:41) HB: work functions weddings and stuff like that but its 4 or 5 star hotel so we have to be really good and the shifts are all like 14 hours
im like :S
but its £6.50 so im not that fussed
(14:42) ME: fair enuf
(14:42) HB: Razz
(14:42) ME: it sounds so fun
(14:42) HB: ...no lol
(14:42) ME: lol
(14:43) ME: my works way mor fun than urs
(14:43) HB: im only working there because its 6.50 an hour lmao
lol i bet it is
(14:43) ME: it's sposed to b stressful
(14:43) HB: lmaoo
(14:46) HB: byeeeee talk to you later Wink xoxoxooxox
(14:46) ME: bye
(14:46) HB: Smile
(14:46) HB is now Offline
Session Start: 11 July 2009


(00:33) ME: hey
(00:33) HB: hiii
(00:33) ME: jus get back from work???
(00:33) HB: nah i finished at 7 today Smile
(00:34) ME: kool
y u up so l8 then??
(00:34) HB: i cnt get to sleep Sad
(00:34) ME: is sum1 still havin nitemares
(00:35) HB: hehe no but you can come over if you like then i wont have them
(00:35) ME: so wts ur address Razz
(00:35) HB: Wink
(00:35) ME: dw i'll keep u safe
(00:36) HB: Smile woop hehe
(00:37) ME: we'll jus pretend im there
(00:37) HB: loool Smile
(00:37) ME: but dnt hav an orgasm on me
please
(00:37) HB: :L:L:L dont worry i wont lmao
(00:3Cool ME: so wt uber cool things did u do today
(00:39) HB: erm work Sad ahhaa you do anything fun ?:L
(00:39) ME: alton towers....yhhhhh
(00:39) HB: :-O jelous much !!!!!
(00:39) ME: sorry forgot to invite ya
(00:39) HB: hmf
:L
(00:40) ME: Razz
(00:40) HB: :W
(00:40) ME: im sure it was much mor fun at work
im jelous
(00:40) HB: nahh it was shite
(00:40) ME: dont b so negative
(00:40) HB: lol
:L
(00:41) ME: hav u got a cam
(00:41) HB: yeah but i look eugggh
(00:41) ME: do u think i care
(00:41) HB: yh
(00:42) ME: im sure u'll b very good looking in any state
(00:42) ME: mayb even sexy Razz
(00:42) HB: hehe no honestly i look horrible lmao ill go on tomoz i promise Razz but oli if you have cam i only go on wen other people do
(00:43) ME: erm well showing my face would me not very mysterious
be *
(00:43) ME: but for you i may hav to
your very easy to talk to
(00:44) HB: am i Cool
:L
(00:45) ME: of coursealthough u seem to find everything i say funny
(00:45) HB: im sure putting that laughing face is a habbit
(00:45) ME: ok...course it is
(00:46) HB: ... yup
(00:46) ME: if i wasnt funny y r u still talking to me...hmmm
(00:47) ME: hmm
(00:47) HB: Razz
(00:49) ME: hmm im tryin to figure out wt colour eyes u hav
(00:49) ME | - is now Offline
(00:49) ME | - is now Online
(00:49) ME: sorry my internet is poo
(00:50) HB: tha might help you
(00:50) ME: huh
(00:50) HB is now Offline
(00:50) HB is now Online
(00:51) HB: lol sorry bout that
(00:51) ME: better b Razz
(00:51) HB: :L
soooooo...
(00:51) ME: its blu on my screen
(00:51) HB: yeah i ahve blue eyes
(00:52) ME: thats cool i do prefer green thou
(00:52) HB: cool
(00:52) ME: Razz
(00:53) ME: hav u been alton towers b4
(00:53) HB: nope
(00:53) ME: lame
i'll take ya 1 day
(00:53) ME: although i hav no car
(00:54) HB: haahaa hm.. yeah when you have a car Smile come and get me Smile
(00:55) ME: will u b expectig a sports car or a limo
(00:55) HB: any;P
(00:55) ME: okie dokie
(00:55) HB: Razz
(01:00) ME: brb
(01:00) HB: oakii
(01:05) ME: bck
(01:05) ME: hav u fallen asleep yet
(01:05) HB: nopee
(01:06) ME: so wat was soo shite about work today
(01:07) HB: erm we had an afternoon tea its were they have tea and coffee and food like scones and then they had a tour around the hotel but that ended really quick so then we had to sset up for a wedding tomoz and i had to polish cutlery
(01:0Cool ME: that doent sound too bad
(01:09) HB: lool
(01:09) ME: do u not like scones or somethin
(01:09) HB: we dont get to eat them Sad lol
(01:09) HB: sooo im spending tomoz night cleaning up glasses woop
(01:10) ME: yay...sounds awesome
(01:12) ME: so wt u doin tomorrow
(01:13) HB: ermmm im gonna go into toen with friends then at night working Sad you ?
town *
(01:14) ME: going to try and avoid helping the parents clear out the loft, and then go out
ooo wt u buyin???
(01:15) HB: i dunno yet
(01:16) ME: well go and treat urslef
(01:17) ME: i wont always b there to treat ya Razz
(01:1Cool HB: ayyy Wink
(01:19) ME: well neway i gta go
(01:20) HB: okay byeeee xoooxx
(01:20) ME: bye
luv ya Razz
(01:20) ME: o and get to bed
(01:20) ME | - is now Offline

Hello Adam
My name is steve i live in NYC I am new to this game but find the whole concept of pickup is very intriguing (for reason that go beyond simply bedding lots of women).I never though Id ever want to take a BC but ive seem your videos and you seem different from most of the other guys and now you BC is a serious consideration. Im 19 and Though I have some disposable income $1,000 is still alot. Now im in no way trying to compain since I know your BC is much less than most others out there. Ive read the few reviews ive seen online and my only concern which seems to plague most bootcamps of MPUAs from what I read is am I going to be taught by you specificlly or am i goign to hear you talk for an hour or two then get an instructer for the rest of the time? I realize that you have 13 other students but are we all goign to et one on one time or are yougoing to be mor elike a colleg professor who has the TAs deal with the stuents (which from what Ive read is what lots of guys in the buisness are doing today).Even though your answer may be byast from what I have read your a good guy whos not out there just to make money liek some of the other MPUAs in the game so I figure youd give me a pretty honest answer. I know you have a GF and for that reason you no longer do live pickups (understandable). I liek your style of Game and you seem to be a person I could introduce to my friends without a wierd "why the fuck are you friends with that guy" look whihc is exactly the type of PUA I would liek to be. (sry extreme peacokcing is just not for me). Also your NYC BC is on the same day Im supposed to go back to school so id have to drive 3 hours there then 3 hous back then another 3 hours there agian and miss my fraternitys firts party of the semester and considering Im the guy in charge of runnign our parties that could be no bueno. I remember you saying your in a fraternity in one of your videos so you undrstand fraternity politics. Anyway what i mean is will you be having another NYC BC whihc I may attend any time soon or is this the last one in the near future?

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A woman's whole life is a history of the affections. ~Washington Irving

Hey there Adam! How ya doin brutha! Well, here's my issue:

So I get this girl who I initially approached maybe an hour after I re approach her on the dance floor with her friend( who was interested in my best friend, which worked out for me) and we get very sexual on the dancefloor. It would actually be worth mentioning that even before this encounter on the dancfloor, she approached me while some guys tried to dance with her, then left while saying "we'll be back". Didn't buy it. So when I saw them on the dancefloor again and re-engaged them, my best friend occupied her friend, and I got my target. Like I said, we dance very sexual, she let's my explore her body without resistance, I kiss her neck, turn her around and look at her as if i want to kiss her, but doesn't let me and looks up, so I go back to her neck again. She turns around and has her back to me still dancing as sexy as can be, then i do more exploring and kiss and bite her neck. I yet again, turn her around, look at her, go for the lips, lets me kiss, but looks up again and once again I go to the neck. This goes on for at least 15 minutes and then her and her friend say, "were gonna go upstairs, we'll be back!"

My question is: How do I get her to make out with me without resistance, and what's the proper way with handling the " we'll be back" B.S?

Thanks for everything Adam!

Victor (LA bootcamp)

Hey Adam,

CONGRATS on your marriage bro. Glad to hear you've found what you want.

And thank you for answering my question. Best of luck to you, my man.

Wow! man I gotta say your a true fucking legend and I really dig everything you have done for the community, so that's why I now seek your advice.

As of right now I'am in los angeles, paying my way through college, I live in a very tiny room in a backhouse shared by 3 other people, and I have an average entry-level job that supports me and leaves very little left at the end of the month.

So I was wondering if there is a way to build a female social circle, without inviting them to my place and also without having to cost me too much?

Also I was wondering if you have any specific techniques or guidelines that can be used with or without entourage game to game a super rediculously retarded hot girl that is a true HB 11 (think as if the girl is megan fox, with all the perks,confidence, and people trying to get with her)

PS I know it's an insane question, but I thank you in advance for trying to answer it , and I know I should not be outcome dependent, but my whole goal with pick up is to get to the point where I can get any girl I want 90% of the time, and again thank you

Hey Adam,

Thanks for all of your advices mate, thanks for answering my field reports, etc2. And congratulations on your marriage too! Have a happy and blessed new life.

So Adam, if you noticed my posts in your thread, for the last 8 months, it's revolving on the same one girl. I know, maybe yourself will be like "that's too long" or something, but I believe she was attracted to me. And thanks to your method, and your simple book "Principles of Attraction", she was the 1st girl ever that I've ever been on an instant date, she's the 1st girl that I attracted in a correct away, etc.

So Adam, it was all beautiful moments, if it's not because of the logistics (she can't drive, and her chauffeur is sick when she's able to meet me, and I can't pick her up, because I can't drive either!!) she would be fallen in to arms. So after that 1 failed attempt to hang out with her, I went out of the town for 3 weeks, and what I thought is I messed up in this "keep in touch before attempting another try to ask her out" period.

I was needy because I deeply fell in love with her ( we haven't got together yet, but I know she is attracted to me, judged from her compliance and investment in me), so I sent needy texts, implying that she' more commited than it is, etc. So until one day, I texted her "You know, it sucks that we have to say goodbye so soon, and it's really rare to find somebody who I actually want to hang out with, somebody who's actually interesting. I've met a lot of girls, (she knows that I have a lot of female friends) and there's just something unique about you. So that's why I invite you for a final hang out with us (me and my best friend Grace, we've been out once).
(she's moving to another city, so I told her it might be the last hangout). When are you free?"

And she was like "IDK, I feel so happy that we have to say goodbye so soon, haha kidding XD.. seems like you're busy eh? Talk to you later and I'm never free.. hehehe.... good bye!".

I thought "game over". It's not funny at all,and she reacted really differently now.


So Adam, I'll be seeing another girl, dating another, but maybe I won't find a girl of her quality (intelligence, dilligence, etc.). Maybe I will, but it would never be the same.

Is it still possible to recite her interest?? I know that this things happens, because girls are all about emotion. She'll be moving out of town, so is it possible? Long long before, I've managed to get a high value guy in her eyes, she complimented my honesty, understandings of women, etc, and she's even still interested after I told her that I'm a student of yours (I recommended your method to her too . Is it the same way as getting your ex back??

Thanks a million, mate!!

Best pal,
Steven

_________________
"Live every moment of your life as it is the best"

"Grief is the price we pay for love"

Hey kayakiuto,

Cheers for this one! It is totally cool to go for the intellectual girls. To be honest, it will be a bit difficult to get their number without speaking. You could go direct which is always hit-or-miss, but you're going to have to build some kind of rapport with them to actually build a connection where they will want to keep in touch. I am a believer that anything that was fun when you were 10 is still fun now. Maybe you can secretly pass notes like when you were in school. Talk about the speaker and the conference and then build it a bit from there.

Age might matter to some girls and it might not matter to others. The same way that you might like blondes over brunettes or tall chicks over shorter ones, it is just a personal preference that women will have. Some might love that you're young and some might not, its just up to them.

Cheers bro!

Adam