Right, well basically i have been in the game for around 18 months. When I am at uni I have a situation where i can game easily so enjoy the successes but when i get home i go back to being lonely and miserable. I am now on my summer and the only option due to money and other reasons is day game. But in the day i cannot, repeat, cannot! approach. I have been trying for 18 months and it cant be done and i cant afford counciling. Has anyone got any advice please or any ideas? 'Manning up' is also not an option.

Silly_bollocks987,

There is a lot of information on the forum about Approach Anxiety. Whether this is for Day Game or Night Game there are exercises listed to help you warm up to approaching. These may range from asking random people a simple question such as the time, to carrying on a more generic conversation with people, to finally approaching people you are interested in.

Try searching for some of these posts and I am sure you will find some answers that will benefit you and get you past this mental barrier.

Jon

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I have looked up everything and tried everything to do with AA. I was hoping for other suggestions

Why not? Are you a woman? . . . Manning up is the only option but there are many ways to achieve it.

Can you ask a gas station guy for directions? Can you order an omelet from a waitress? Can you ask the shoe guy at the mall to bring you a pair of size 9 1/2? If so, you can game chicks ANY TIME YOU WANT.

The only difference between asking for a pair of shoes and "gaming a chick" is that you're not thinking about sticking your tongue down the shoe guy's throat + you won't suspect that he'll reply, "What? Get you a size 9 1/2?? In your dreams!!"

If everybody had 100 different thoughts while asking for shoes . . . nobody would be able to do it. What's on your mind while you ask for shoes? Think about it . . . NOTHING is the answer. There is NOTHING in your mind . . . All you do is just ask for shoes. You want shoes . . . you ask for them . . . and you've done this 1,000's of times before so you don't need to prepare at all.

Gaming girls in the day time is just that: Preparation + Focusing only on the delivery. You should have several openers ready for you to use at all times. Sit down on a bench in the mall with a pad and pen and just watch girls go by and write down exactly how you'd open a particular girl . . . how you'd routine her . . . how you'd close her. Do this a 100 times and you'll see that there really aren't a million different options. You'll come up with less than 10.

Then you just go out and open, open, open . . . open some more. Hell, open and then run away like a little girl in fear if you want to but just get through the open. Then work the routines . . . then work the closes. It takes some time, effort, and planning . . . but then again . . . this is what a MAN does when he wants something isn't it? Manning up IS THE ONLY OPTION.

Haha that's great.

There really is no excuse for lack of day game. If you have done it enough (in some good ways) you would be seeing results and you wouldn't be posting this topic, hands down. Try to reset your thinking on what differences there really are between day and night pickup. Try going out for some cd's/movies/clothes or whatever if you need to so you feel like your out for a purpose, and open a bunch of girls. Just make sure you actually talk to girls and don't just spend a bunch of money.

The stories you can tell of 'girls you hit on' are better than the 'girls you didn't'...

I am just wondering if you are Asian? I have noticed that many of my Asian friends have this same problem. Why not game in the morning?

IF YOU APPROACH HER AND GET REJECTED, YOUR IN THE SAME BOAT AS IF YOU HAD NOT APPROACHED HER AT ALL. EXCEPT NOW YOU HAVE INCREASED YOUR CONFIDENCE AND HOPEFULLY LEARNED SOMTHING.

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