How can any of you guys sarge alone??!


if i sarge close to my home i feel worried someone will recognize me (after sarging them of course)

if i sarge far away (at like distant malls) i feel like im in an exotic place and don't feel comfortable.

ugh....

when im with my friend im like "hey were helping each other etc"

but hes not always available

You need to serious work on your inner game. As you are primary lacking confidence besides your lack of self security in your self.

For a year I went out alone and there is two things I did. (For clubs)

Wore goofy clothes or at least one item because if I did not start talking to people right away, I would seem super strange. But if I am talking to a lot of people, then I become a very interesting guy that other people see me talking to others

The second you walk in a club confidently walk up to the first group of guys you see, be like "Hey whats up, how is this place, you ever come here before?, ect" then be like "excuse me one second" and open the nearest set of girls. Get some convo going then politely eject and go back to the group of guys, now you are "proofed" with both sets and have people you can fall back on and chill with. Also the guys will think your cool for talking to chicks

as for day time, don't go out to pick up girls, have something to do with your days and just approach girls you find attractive during your daily routine.

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that's pretty vague...what should i be aiming for? (aka whats the best way to defeat this obstacle)

I wouldn't worry about being recognized.

Certainly no one is going to think "OMG - this guys out trying to sarge"

You'd be amazed at the reactions you get from people just by walking up to girls and talking to them. I've been blown out of sets in like two minutes while my friends watch from their barstool. When I get back to them they're like "whoa, man - how did you do that, it looked like you had her really interested, why did you come back to the bar?"

From a distance, any guy talking to a girl is going to be seen as a positive thing - this guy's smooth, he's got a pair of stones to go talk to a girl, he must be having a good time look at how he can talk to girls; this is true even if he is blown away. If the set starts going well then people watching really think you're amazing.

But, most of the time no one is watching you. No one is there to pass any kind of judgment on you. It's just you and the world you perceive through your eyes.

So yeah, go out, have a good time. You should really focus on doing things you like to do - the gym, running, cafes, bookstores, whatever. 2nd to having a good time, focus on meeting girls.

If you feel really uncomfortable about the idea of sarging alone then you probably should not go out alone. You will project the way you are feeling to your targets and it will sabotage your sets. Once you start to warm up to the idea of sarging alone ... er ... I don't like the word alone - Once you warm up to the idea of sarging solo, or sarging independently then go out and try it. You will find you can have a lot more fun going out solo compared to staying home alone.

Reminds me of a bit I heard on David DeAngelo's material. It went something like:

Nobody cares if you succeed of fail. The ones that love you (parants, close friends) will be supporting you regardless of if you are on welfare or if you become the most successfull guy in the world. All the other people coudn't care much one way or the other. So stop worrying on how people view you.