So theres a girl at my Uni, she has a bf but she negs me alot. In the past I've remained cool about it because i didn't really want anything to come by it, but now i see shes still doing it, I can see definite IOI's.

Her neg she just sent on facebook said "why do i talk to you just having you as a friend in facebook is embarrassing" which is ironic because this is a style of negging I do alot, but havent actually to her.

I want to play fire with fire something that will really make me be remembered the next time i walk into Uni.

any suggestions on a response to that line?

thanks guys

adventures.

great example of the whole cat-string theory idea, girls are similar to cats in that they tend to want or give higher value to things that are scarce to them or they see as a challenge ... by showing little interest in her up to this point you've generated a certain amount of interest from her so you have to maintain that interest as well as that feeling in her that you are somewhat hard to obtain and you'll be fine

i'd do this by yes throwing negs back at her occasionally but not every single time the neg in and of itself can sometimes be an IOI in my opinion and it sounds like this girl uses them herself as IOI's so you neging too much back might indicate to you her that your interested/noticed her and you don't want her to think that ALL the time just enough so that she doesn't give up hope for obtaining you, keep it fun and playful obviously as though you have no real intention of sleeping with her right away so as to break down her walls/bitch shield/ guard/ whatever you wanna call it and before you know it she'll be giving much more non-suttle, obvious IOI's and then i would progress the relationship along, escalate kino, generate interesting conversation, and eventually return her IOI's after she's comfortable enough around you

just some ideas from my point of view im relatively new to al this too and i dont know this girl personally like you so you should obviously trust your instinct in terms of what to say and when to say it, just relax and have fun with it that will attract her just as much as any neg would

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thanks for the help bud.

Something I have found recently is if you neg back you are entering her game. Instead take things to your level, remain unaffected by the negging and realize there is a sweet nice girl behind it all. Get to this in conversation and you will get to laugh at the other 5 guys that are still playing her game.

defintelly neg her back. the point is to lower her self-asteem to the point where you and her are mutual. Then u can start running game. get her off auto-pilot and to wear you can get her interested

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If you believe she is of higher value and you need to "cut her down to size" (your size) to get her you have already failed. Why get into a bitching match lets look at this logically, she has shown interest in you, you spend a lot of time in uni (presumably) near/with her in lectures, then the only factor in the way is the pesky bf but keep things subtle and work (in person) when he is not around and you should be fine without wasting time playing games. I will get slated again for this but how about just talking to her, with the true belief that she is of equal value to you and go from there.

Negging will not make her think "wow what a cool guy he rips me lets dump my bf so he can rip me some more", you will need rapport and the healthiest mindset to enter into it is forgetting Mysterys value theories (you are not a weird guy on the sunset strip trying to pick up women, you are a guy in uni hitting on a girl who is probably not a model).