I met a girl at a local bar that was visiting with one of her girlfriends and lives 1 hour away. We hung out about 2 hours that night & things went excellent. I even won her girlfriend over as I busted them girlcoding me and asked what that was about & she was like it's girlcoding but it's good. Not good enough for her to ditch her girlfriend or to get both back to my house and for her to have to hear us hooking up though.

Two part question. Is there anything I could have done differently that night? I tried to hook the girlfriend up with a guy I knew & she even tried to hook herself up once but the guy choded out on her & I had to help get her back in a happy state after which was more work itself.

Anyway, what is the best plan now on how to handle semi long distances. Invite her back to my city to hang out on the weekend? Should I offer to let her crash at my place upfront? What are the ins and outs with the long distances? I have my idea's but curious on some input with guys that are more familar.

Nobody with a better looking vagina who lives closer?

Secondly, if you're already pussy whipped . . . don't invite her to sleep over. This is like telling her. "I only met you once but I'm pretty sure you're a slut." Also . . . SLUTS who like to meet dirty guys on line like to do this but normal girls don't go to another city to just "hang out" with a guy she just met. No . . . but she might go if there was something super fun to do there. (A weekend fair, some musical show, weekend event, etc . . .) Then you don't offer your bed to her like you're offering your cock to her. Instead, it's more like, "I'm pretty sure we'll be done in time for you to get back home . . . but I guess if we're too late, you can always call up your girl code buddy."

You'll have a blast and you'll get her sexual juiced flowing and oops . . . it's 1am? Holy crap, we totally got carried away! (It's ALWAYS this way . . . )

Lastly . . . how old are you? Even when 30 somethings who've been in long term relationships for years deal with distance, things can get F'd and it's boring. Not sure why you'd look for this before it even begins. Just do exactly what you did to this girl to 100 other girls who live within a 20 minute driving distance radius from you and you'll be much better off.

Oh and one more thing. Just because you figured out that you can probably score this one girl doesn't mean that you have to do it. If this was the case, Some members here would have fucked every chick and their grandmothers in their town/cities. But . . . it's your life and if you're really hooked . . . gotta do it.

Sure, & I will continue working them also, but why should I pass up an opportunity? I didn't approach her because she was ugly or talk with her for 2 hours because she was boring & I know she was into me as well. If it were already sexual with her an hour drive would be well worth it knowing I had a place to stay. I've heard of PUA's having girlfriends that flew across the country to see them every weekend. So this is kind of minior IMO. I'm guessing they are much, much better PUA's that go the F-close on the first day though & didn't run into this issue.


I'm not going to her city, at least not initially, & if she wasn't cool with coming back here where we met then we wouldn't see each other, but she has already said she would come back here and hang out with me. At this point the situation seems to be more about logistics & the best way just not to F-it up. That's the reason I'm asking advice because the only experience I have is the reverse where I met a chick in a city 1.5 hours away. She invited me up and offered me crashing at her place up front.

I'm not sure if in the reverse if it's worse to offer her my bed up front, or to not. Either way seems like it has potential negatives. If I don't I look like I'm demanding & expecting her staying out late then to drive back with out at least offering IMO. That's why I have taken this to the board.

My initial thought is just to ask if she wants to come up and hang out & not mention staying or anything. Carry on business as usual & if she wants to stay in the back of her mind she will knows she can, & I can just make an excuse to get her back to the crib after the date I expect she will go along with happily. I don't anticipate her not wanting to come to my city, but if she flinches I my plan is to then offer her crashing at my place. I'm not driving to see her 1st at all though. I think I'll lose power and a lot of attraction by being to needy plus it doesn't become worth it to me.

Sounds like you have everything under control.

You know and she knows that you two will fuck. . . But keeping her guessing (just a tiny bit) while demonstrating to her that she's more than just a weekend of fucking is always a nice move. Even girls who are open minded get tired of guys who constantly focus on the "sleeping arrangements" and "hanging out" (which basically means fucking). Young kids who are all hormones with no lives usually do this. Show her you're more than that. This is also a great way to show how confident you are that you will OBVIOUSLY be fucking . . . You don't even gave to talk about it.

And it seems the timing is good. Yeah, I suppose you could have been more aggressive and maybe split the two apart the first night but what's the point? It's not like you're going to be dead by next weekend.

If I know for sure that the first night is my only chance, I'll raise her sexual temperature without allowing her any way to release tension other than through my cock deep in her vagina. Actually asking her for sex and her denying it, giving her a full blown kiss, allowing her friends to see the amount of attention she's getting, giving her a "comedy routine", etc . . . are all ways that allow her sexual tensions to slowly leak. Just keep pouring it on until she's about to explode . . .

Polled some of my female friends last night. They said don't mention offering her a place to stay at all.

I'm taking 10 to 1 odds she shows up with a trimmed pussy.

spot on

don´t offer her anything. Why wouldn´t she ask alone if it was an issue for her?