You see I feel like most people in this community are happy with very little challenge... they happily play the numbers game, pulling there percentages high or low depending on their style, skill and experience. The element of 'clutch' performance or turning it up and getting your result right now, this time, I feel is kind of overlooked. Being able to rise to the occasion, to take control and get the result on this shot/pitch/sale/war/speech is what truly pushes our limits... Finding that other gear so to speak, another level of performance that until that moment you hadn't formerly been capable of.

It is this mindset that leads me to ponder on the concept of one-itis... now obviously its probably not wise to start first off going after your one-itis, because most of those cases are caused by guys who can't get it in gear at all... let alone find that "overdrive".

So do any of you guys pick a girl and decide that you will have her and then go and get her basically regardless of the stumbling blocks? How about ones with added difficulties... perhaps a girl who basically hates you... perhaps a one-itis... perhaps even that 1 girl who turned your life upside down... that first one... how about the first 1 who you havent talked to for half a decade and hates you

Challenges my friends, insted of backing down from them, we should embrace them as unprecidented opportunities for growth.

So lets here it, anyone else every do ridiculous things like this?

Lol fun topic, I'll give you my heads up:

I used to have a girl who I met at a party where I developed a huge huge crush for and we would text like everyday, go out and have fun, and I made poems for this girl and said all kinds of sweet things.
But (ofcourse) I got the 'Let's just be friends' speech eventually and it kinda fucked me up a bit since we had such a great connection.
That was about 5 years ago, and 1 year ago I found out about this community and I started to realise how bad I was fucking that situation up with that girl and I saw what I was doing wrong and how fucking irritating I used to be for her.
So one day I dialed her number and she picked up a bit confused, and I said to her:

'Hey girl, you know way back when I used to have that great crush on you and I wrote you all these poems and stuff?'
'Yeah I do, why?'
'Well I realise now how much I must have irritated you and I just wanted you to know that was never my intention, I should have done things very differently and I want you to know that I realise that now'

And she started laughing and we just talked on the phone for another 30 minutes about silly stuff I did back then and just had fun about it. And later that week we had some lunch and we started to connect again in the good way this time.

But she has a bf whom she is living together so at a given point it just died out again but still, it was a challenge I took!

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Girl: 'Aww you're playing me'
Feist: 'If I got a nickle for everytime I heard that...'

Trying to get laid whilst there were 3 other people lying in the same bed.



Challenges are great fun.

There is a girl who I first saw about a year ago I have tried hitting on her about 5 different times. I basically use her as a ruler to measure how my game is progressing.

She knows she can get any guy and admitted to me recently she leads guys on then when they think they have her she shoots them down (destroying how close I thought I got on the last attempts).

But I keep persevering and she tried to give me her number last time, I have sorted a game plan and when I see her again in a few months I will try again.

It is also worth noting that studying her game has helped me develop to where I am now, she is the girl I reverse engineered to find out how to take eye contact to the next level. One day she will be mine lol

I do

When I like a girl I can become tottaly fixated on meeting her. making her my friend/lover or just plain fooling around with her.

I believe doing that, is true sexual/romantic/social freedom. When you can make a concious choice about who you pursue.

yup this is what I was trying to get at in my number game post, lots of people approach 100s of women and one will bite even if they don't really like her.
I think ideally a person should make 1 or 2 approaches (after they have got used to being in the company with women) a night on women they like.

Ok heres a little story/request. When i was in high school, i had classes with this girl who i instanlty got an enourmous crush over. idk why, but there has always been something about her that hipnotized me. Funny thing is, is that i almost never spoke to her. That was back then however (2-4) years ago when i had no clue how to interact with women, or people in general for that matter. She was always in the popular crowd, and i was just normal. I dont know anything about her except for her name, and im pretty sure that if i ran into her, she wouldnt know my name. I was also immature back then and thought saying stupid things would impress and make girls laugh which was a BIG no no. Anyway, its probably been 3 years since iv spoken to her. So i was curious, does anyone think that there is any way to get in touch with her, (the only way i can think of is facebook), game her, meet up, get her interested, etc? And the most challenging part of it all is that she goes to Penn state and I go to Pitt so cant really meet up during the year. Does anyone have any clue how to do this? and also she hangs out with alot of people i went to middle and high school with and see on occasion at the gym or something but dont hang out with. But if anyone has any clue other than to let it go (which i bassically have), im willing to try it cuz it seems like i have nothing to loose