| i dont want to fuck her i want her to be my girlfriend.
i repeated that line because it is very important.
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we messaged a lot on Myspace before meeting up at a festival, where we kinda 'clicked' and hung out for like 8 hours and she kept missing calls from her friends(unsure if it was legit, i think it was, she is VERY honest). at the end of the night i asked her to have coffee with me next time she'd be in the city which was 2 days later.
when i saw her next, i purposely made sure i was sitting down when she came to me, just so i could stand up and then say "give me a hug!" im not sure where i found that trick but it is really, really awesome. it worked great.
coffee went really well, we went to 2 cafes, then to a museum, then on a ferry where we were both really cold(at the front of the ferry) and after talking a while i asked "do you like hugs?" and she said yes! and moved her arms open and turned towards me expecting a hug. i denied her slightly and told her she has only given me mediocre hugs and i am not someone to accept only mediocrity.. we hugged for like 10 seconds then i said how about you sit on me and she did and it was great. we did this on the ferry back(2 ferries).
then i took her hand and walked to my apartment. she squeezed my hand alot it was nice Smile
at my place i cant really remember what we did. she ended up staying over the night with the unsure if excuse of "im really tired there will be no trains(she lives 2 hours away)" etc.
we cuddled and kissed alot.
the next day we got up really late them held hands and got food. then we got photos from asian photos place.
we did this again another day. we met up again another day of the week and basically did the same thing, she slept over again.
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messaged alot on Myspace before
day1: finally met, 2 cafes with lunch, hung out for 8 hours
day2: 2 cafes, museum, ferry*she sat one me and we cuddled*, walked to my apartment *held hands*, *kissed/cuddled in apartment*, slept over, held hands more got food the next day, *got photos*
day 3(which is more like day 4 because day 3 was the morning after she slept over): basically the same and more as day 2, we held hands kissed cuddled kissed intimate
basically i told her "i like you", "i want to be with you more nights" then when i asked "are you ready?" [for a relationship, in our context it was clear what i meant] she said ummmmm then no.
so how do i get her to want to be my boyfriend? shes had 2 boyfriends before, shes months after coming out of a 2+ year relationship, none of her relationships seemed to have worked out.
and our relations so far have been PERFECT, with a couple minor mistakes like too much dwell on past relationships and stuff, but we have kissed and held hands for 3/4 whole days.
so. basically i dont want to see her again unless she commits to a relationship................... if she asks to meet up again, im thinking i will give her my "terms", i.e. i want a relationship. because, we've held hands for so long and been everything like a couple except for the verbalization of accepting we are a couple-her telling me she isnt ready.
is there anything i can do?
**im pretty sure i could get a fuck or more than a kiss, but it isnt what i want. i mean, i could meet up with her again, be much more sexually aggressive and get more of the physical, but i dont want ANY of that.. until we are in a relationship.
tldr i dont want a fuck i want a relationship. yeah..
im also completely fine with letting her go, but i really do like her as more than a f(fuck)riend. im guessing some people will call this one-itis, but she really is one of those beautiful women who-also-have-values(or was that just made up?) 10 fucks wont get me a relationship.
expert advise appreciated.
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