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 Post subject: Being happy with losing
PostPosted: Fri Jun 26, 2009 11:44 am 
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I have noticed that I am entirely satisfied with the level of my game. i am getting results but also still losing girls and the weird thing I am not sure I want to get better.

I think it would suck if I got to a level where everything was easy and the random factor was removed.

I realize even the best still lose girls and don't get women and maybe I am a masochist but I enjoy losing and if it happened less it would be a shame. I may have to start gaming stunners just so I can be improving but still failing.

Anyone thought anything similar?


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PostPosted: Fri Jun 26, 2009 12:01 pm 
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Yeha I understand wha tyou mean.

Neil Strauss in The Game becomes so good it becomes second nature to think and analyse every single thing a girl does, I'm not so sure I'd want to be able to do that. Whilst it would be a great skill, it would also be a great curse.

EG - People in my college who do Film Studies for a year, find they can't watch movies without analysing them out of habit and find that they can't just watch them.

I do like having knowledge and the skill level I do, but I also want to be better.


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PostPosted: Fri Jun 26, 2009 12:07 pm 
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Exactly I went out in some clothes I found on my floor and kept getting IOIs it was just straight annoying. Meh I dunno I think I need to move to somewhere that has hotter women so I can push myself miles out of my comfort zone again.


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But that would be going against what you already thought - that you 'don't know if you want to get better'. Moving out the comfort zone would inevitably force you to do that.


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yar but I would still be failing, I would get better with lower quality women but I dunno maybe it is just time to raise my standards a notch or two.

I'm sure moving back to the countryside will soon kick any hint of progress out of me and all will be fine.


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I can relate.


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You win some and you lose some. Me, I always try to improve but that doesnt mean that I am not already satisfied. I know exactly what you mean man!


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I have noticed that I am entirely satisfied with the level of my game. i am getting results but also still losing girls and the weird thing I am not sure I want to get better.

I think it would suck if I got to a level where everything was easy and the random factor was removed.

I realize even the best still lose girls and don't get women and maybe I am a masochist but I enjoy losing and if it happened less it would be a shame. I may have to start gaming stunners just so I can be improving but still failing.

Anyone thought anything similar?
i think everyone that gets good enough at pua eventually becomes outcome independent. perhaps you are there. i would advise you not to ever become complacent though. always strive for excellence in everything you do. being comfortable with your level of success is no reason to stop trying to improve yourself!


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Good points, yar spose I should keep trying to get better and better. Will need to be superman if I am serious about teaching x


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once you hit that 'in control level', which to me means its no longer anyone elses choice but your own who you close. If you want to you can with at least 95% success, the ones you decide not to close disqualified themselves somewhere along the line and no longer hold your interest in the same way.

To me I see this as the start of the journey. I mean no offense to the community in general but being that level of good with women isn't really that big of a deal, plenty of people who get/are that good without the community.

A fun next step is to apply this to the rest of your world.

But then again that also fits my personality... I'm a winner, I win, that's what I do. Not everyone identifies and or has such a strong need to be the best.


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another good point damn I love it when my musings bring forth all sorts of awesome.

So yar if I can game 8s Ill get 9s, if I got a good job I'll get a better one hehe muy bien I think this may be another one of the illusions/mirrors of pickup that has been smashed.


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the way i see it, is if you are content, stay there
A lot of people who are in the game for a while begin to ruin their lives.
No offense to the community, but some people shouldn't be in it as long as others.
I know that if i could make "every single girl" fall in love with me i'd be single and miserable the rest of my life

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good post...good comments

what makes you happy?

I recently discovered that the only thing that really makes me happy in my life is to learn new things. If I ever reach a point where I ¨know it all¨or ¨have it all¨ it will really suck.

I spend 3 years living on the beach and working 4 hours a day in my own company and let me tell you: As weird as it sounds, I never want to go back to that.

But i think I am quite far from this when it comes to being PUA :)


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PostPosted: Sun Jun 28, 2009 12:17 pm 
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Thats something I have been pondering lately and the truth is I love helping people and traveling thats about it.

So I have set out some goals for myself for 2 months 6 months and a year. Hopefully one day I can travel all around the world meeting different people and learning about different cultures and languages. I have to really focus on my game and learning to teach then try and set up a sort of give me food and shelter in return for coaching dealio.

Then I would just need a mode of transport (although if I stuck to Europe/Asia I could hitchhike) and a way of buying clothing (I am pretty sure it would get harder and harder to look good when walking around in my clothes 24/7). Internet I could steal from any Starbucks or McDonalds.

Man I love this idea more and more I think about it become the mother teresa of the Pickup Community lol


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