| Long post, but proboly a similar situation for a lot of us. I need advice on this one guys, badly!!!
Most of you know me on here....havent posted lately but been around a long time. I consider myself a MPUA, having pulled 5 for 5 on a few occasions. I can pretty much do a pull for a SNL just about any night I want to. But at this point its like, been there done that. Great....now on to my situation.
Although I do very well on the pickup, im in a situation with a HB10 where im actually confused on how to handle it, so im looking for some advice from people outside the situation. Here goes....
I met HB10, who is a bartender, about 3 months back, she works at a place i go to a lot. After seeing her several times a week at her job, i eventually # closed. She had a BF so i wasnt really working it hard. Didnt know her too well either, she is a HB10 but didnt know what else she had to offer.
Two weeks ago she broke up with BF, and moved out - into her own apartment. So last sunday I invited her to come jet skiing, i told her she should bring a friend since it requires 3 to use the tube behind the ski. Sunday morning came and the friend was sleeping so me and her got in my car and headed out. Nice long 1.5 hour ride there was great for chating. We found a lot of stuf we had in common, it went well. That was until she said "Hey, "jim" just txt me....he is near where we are going jet skiing - he might meet up with us.". Now, i knew we needed 3 to tube, and figured that was why he was meeting us. And i didnt want to be like "no, he cant come!" She also said "u got to give me your opinion, he is kinda clingie....i think he likes me".
Well , we all met up and i realised "jim" is a guy i know from the bar she works at. He also met her just like i met her, at her job, and almost the exact same time we met. I also found out that he has basicly kissed her ass since she and her boyfriend broke up. Helping her move, putting together furniture, etc.
Jet skiing was fun, for all 3 of us.....we finished up, then left him (After she invited him to ride back to my car on the ski with us then we drive him to his car).
The next day i had dinner with HB10 and her rommmate. THen we went back to her place for a few mins. She met one of her girlfriends there, and they were talking about how tonight was girls night and they were going to this bar. I left her apartment then, realising i couldnt go to that same bar that they were going to girls night for.....stalkerish. But to make a long story short, a buddy called me, was going to that bar, and i wound up going. Txt her "hey a buddy is dragging me to xxx....is it good" she replyed then replyed again "u shoud come". When i got there i Didnt look for her. She found me, and i danced with her for 2 seconds....then I left her and walked around with my buddys to go get drinks. She then txt me 3 times in about 15 mins asking where at the bar, without me replying. Finally i replyed and told her where i was and imeadiatly she txt "on my way". This was an ioi. She is out on "girls night" and she txt me 3 times while she was ocupied with her girls wanting to come see more of me. At this point i knew i had some interest. This is undenieable.
So We hung for a bit at the bar then she invited me back to her place for beers with her and her friends. Went well, fun. The freinds all like me. Im in with the friends totally. Won them over.
A few days later i had an interview for a job at a bar, and actually got the job. They said they needed bartenders, so knowing HB10 was looking for another job, I talked her up to the boss and had her call for an interview. She got the job too. So basicly i got her a 2nd job, that she despritatly was looking for.
THe next night was tonight. We were sopose to go have a nice long dinner, but she got held up at work (confirmed). So we then changed dinner to a quick place by her house. No big deal. Then, as we get to the place to eat she tells me "jim" is coming to meet up with us. DAMIT! He gets there and she basicly spends about 65% of the time talking to him. Aparently they hang out a lot and had lunch at this place the other day. I was so pissed off, I didnt order food. I stayed about 15 mins then said i had to run to meet friends. Didnt show i was pissed off to them of cource.
So when i leave I go to this bar to meet my freinds. HB10's BFF happens to work at this bar and now that i know her, we chat. She tells me she thinks "jim" is annoying and like follows HB10 around and just wont leave them alone. She said lasst night the girls all went out...left their bf's home and HB10 brought jim, on a girls night. He got so annoying that BFF girl said "Go away man u r freakin us out". Funny. Then comes the kicker. Right after i finish talking to HB10's BFF, "jim" walks in. funny! Guess she made him leave. Nice. Makes me feel a little better.
Now tommorow, i need to go to the bar where me and HB10 work, im not working but need to be there (Work required grand opening). HB10 is working and "jim" is planing on showing up.
Sorry for the long post guys, but wanted to get it all straight. I need advice on how to handle tommorow at the bar, and what to do with this girl. Do i try to smother her like "jim" or should i just totally back away? Maybe be a little smart ass like if she asks me to hang out i say "y dont u just hang out with jim?".
Proboly the first time in 2 years i didnt know how to handle a situation.
Thanks in advance guys...and no one telling me about one-itus or anything like that.
~kino
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