Hey guys I'm badly in need of some advice.

I started talking to this chick ( lets call her jane for the sake of a name - not her real name - ) on a dating website 3 weeks ago, we chatted online over msn for a couple of weeks. I was keeping it real low key and not "pushing" to meet - I had the mindset of "Im having so much fun flirting with you on msn, that i don't care if we meet or not" after a week of this she was hinting to meet up and after two weeks SHE ASKED ME to meet up! lol after teasing her a bit more about not being sure we should meet up etc, i met her... JUST before i met her for the first time she told me that she had just started seeing this guy that she met on the internet about a month before she was talking to me so she just wanted to meet for a drink and wasn't after sex... I reasured her that I wasn't after sex either and I didn't see anything wrong with just meeting up for a drink.

So we met for a drink.. I started out feeling flat as was the end of a crap week at work for me and I wasn't feeling too confident in myself, plus I have never had much luck with internet meetings in the past... my head was running with negitive thoughts. Fortunately I managed to block them out a bit which was made eaiser with the alcohol and the fact that jane had a bubbly, friendly disposition... I relaxed a bit and started some NLP techniques that i have been learning more specifically imitating body posture and position to build Rapport then i moved on to "intentional unintentional" touching... kino as its often called.

Now Jane is a massage therapist and is used to being touched and touching which obviously was a fact that I played on after two hours and a couple of bars later she was asking to come back to my house ... we had sex and she stayed the night.

The next night we met again she came around to my house and watched some youtube videos and listened to some music. She told me that she likes me.. and that she had told her boyfriend about sleeping with me. *** Now this is the weird part *** her boyfriend instead of dumping her asked Jane to keep seeing her. Jane admited to me that she doesn't really like her boyfriend but he treats her well... he sounds like a push over to me... Jane keeps txting me and I have seen Jane a few more times but we agreed no sex (to be honest i think i could probably have sex with Jane if i tried - but choose not to as she has a boyfriend ) also I have Jane on my Facebook and she has alot of male friends... hmm

*** I am coming to the realisation that Jane is a female PUA!! lol ***

I want to keep my emotions distant from her, but it is fun to keep seeing her. I would never let myself form a relationship with Jane for risk that she would cheat on me like she has done to her boyfriend -with me- and whoever the fuck else!!! I went out with her another time and i left her a couple of times to go to the toilet and both times she had different guys hitting on her -buying her drinks- or -dancing with her!- and she was flirting back no regard to the fact i was with her.

She is fun to be around though, and i can practice my game with her... I found myself thinking of her this morning.. no no no not good..

How should I handle a female PUA?

More than likely she is NOT a female PUA. She is probably just an attractive social girl.

I wouldn't treat her any differently than any other girl. However, you have to present yourself as a challenge...she obviosely can dish it out so you also have to able to. Also, show preselection and that you have other options besides her.

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"To Give anything less than your best is to sacrifice the gift" -Prefontaine

Not a PUA just a girl offering my opinions/advice

Read a bit of this and as I see it so hat if she is trying to pick you up if she didn't like you she wouldn't. roll with it

I know a girl who is a female PUA. She used to be my fuck buddy.

Killians hit the nail right on the head.

Keep her IL high by presenting yourself as a challenge, someone with choices. Don't make her the center of your universe, find other girls to game but keep this one 'hooked'.

If she wants to flirt with other guys at bars while you are around, who cares...find yourself a hottie (or 2) to chat up. She needs to know that her behavior will not make you jealous or upset. Girls hate when they can't get a reaction from a man.

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

Yep, Killians is right. She is NOT a FPUA!

If she was then it would solve itself, players should date players...

A basic rule for me concerning FPUAs is bros before hoes... That means that I primarily see them as bros and secondarily as hoes (or any other kind of girl I wanna bang).

Another general guideline for relations is, keep on doing whatever makes the 2 of you happy and feel good, as soon as it doesnt, cut it...

Ezo