I think in the spirit of trying to get over my issues I would generally be willing to walk into any situation solo now. Not that the first time has cured me, far from it.

But I would say that not having the distraction of exhibits and aquariums would probably be more nerve wracking, in that, it would probably force you to talk to someone so you didn't just stand around looking scared or lost.

I am going to be trying it this weekend actually. Apparently there is this area in the Marina District of SF called the triangle where a bunch of marina girls and jocks hang out in bars. I am told it's quite the spectacle but none of my friends want to venture that way because of age and culture disparity ( White mid to late 20 somethings in the Marina, Vs. Early 20s latin and asian hip hop friends; I'm 26), So I will be forced to go that one alone. Wish me luck, I'll be compeltely a fish out of water!

Lol, you know ever since that night i have been wanting to push myself more and more out of my comfort zone...I really want to get over the fear.

I didn't expect this post to get so big

Aaaaaaah, my allergy! Leaving a lame lifestyle behind is another good thing about PU...

Getting out of your comfort zone is pretty key if you want to learn social dynamics and become accustomed to group interaction with strangers.

Be willing to try anything at least once right? Good luck this weekend.

I went on holiday on my own once, had a week in the Canary Islands.

None of my mates or my brothers could come with me, either cos of lack of cash or other commitments, so I just said eff it and booked a week in Gran Canaria.

Well it ended up being one of the best holidays of my life! I went on bar crawls alone, went out pulling alone, and eventually ended up hooking up with a guy who was also from London, out there just with his mum lol. He was hilarious, a good wing man, and we had some legendary nights out.

He was actually after a girl who was staying in the apartment below me. When I met her and her mates she was holidaying with, I got the shock of my life - they were old school friends I hadn't seen in years! Small world indeed!

I would go for it if you're thinking of doing anything alone, it's a real buzz. I plan to travel the States coast to coast on my own sometime soon.

Oh and another overlooked advantage to being on the pull alone, is that if you have no luck, and end up having to 'go ugly' at the end of the night, none of your friends see the heffer you ended up taking home hahaha!

No one can rib you for having to scrape the bottom of the barrel!

That is just sad. Why would you be:

1. So desperate that you seduce a girl you dont feel attracted to.

or

2. Ashamed that you find a girl attractive even though your friends dont.

My, my, my... It is not that important to just get some. And if you feel like it, and find someone of acceptable "non uglyness" screw anyone telling you that you made a mistake, you had fun, isnt that what matters?

Respect yourself.

Ezo

Yeah I have to agree with Ezo on that one. Have some standards.

in any event I am going out again tonight. This time my buddy is joining me. He is going to Peru soon so he wants to go out before he leaves.

you know that night last night was a really pivotal point in my growing process. Pushing through that wall really made me realize how fragile my self limiting beliefs really are, and if I just have the balls enough to push through them and do what I really desire.. well things have just been opening up in me lately.

I have been getting back to my design work, my photography work, been getting back to being motivated. i could say that it has to do with multiple realizations I have had in the last week, but the physical act of pushing myself out has really helped me a lot.

I still have my hang ups. I still have the anxiety but It's getting less or a deterrent.

It's that first step that's the hardest.

Hey chef,

good on ya for going solo. that is good for ya. it is a hard spot to be in. but it really can lead some cool stuff. making new friends, building a whole new social circle. etc etc. I started 6 months ago.

Since then, I have made a load of friends, my social circle has grown and grown and now I am starting to see real improvement and more confidence with the ladies. Tomorrow have a day two....