I've been living the "lifestyle" for a while now but never before have I been in a situation like this.

Background information: Girl has a boyfriend of 5+ years. She meets me at school and we hit it off. I tell her bluntly that I like her as more than a friend. She acknowledges it and says that there's something between us. After a couple of months of knowing her (and going out with her a couple of times), she brokr up with her boyfriend. She always told me that she wasn't happy anymore with the relationship so I'm sure it wasn't all me that made her end it.

Anyway, what has happened since she broke up with her boyfriend? We've stopped talking as much as we used to (which was a couple of hours every day) and it seems like she's pushing me away. I was straight up with her when I told her how she was acting. She told me that she isn't ready to jump into another relationship right away with how long her previous one lasted. I told her that I understood (I do). It has been close to two months since she broke up with her ex.

I feel that I even have to initiate conversation with her nowadays while previously it was all her. I'm afraid that ever since I started showing emotion, things haven't gone like they were going before she broke up with her ex.

I spoke to her a few days ago and I told her that I wanted to meet her to sort things out (I haven't seen her since she broke up with her ex, before that I used to see her at least twice a week).

How should I play this?

TRS:

I sense a Friend Zone coming up. Play it aloof, make yourself the prize. Jeffries "friends don't put each other in boxes like that..."

Cut conversation short. Be more distant and show that your life has social proof with out her. Stop talking to her for hours every day and don't be her therapist.

Talk to her briefly and arrange fun day two, NOT a movie or dinner (or any other boring date that a bad boy friend of 5 years would do) It's summer so I take a girl (sailing, rock climbing, etc) have playful fun with her but escalate kino.

I'm pretty sure you already have comfort (from what you described), so treat it like a new possible relationship, make her qualify herself, etc.

BS If a girl REALLY likes you, she will break a rule like that.

Make yourself the prize.

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Red Hot

well you whern't in the game at all it sounds like....
she would have broken up with her b.f for you if you played it right...
Anyways just move on and learn the game...
take a month of 1nighters to learn the game
if you still want a girlfriend then you should be good enuff to get one and keep one.

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