here's my situation:

This really cute girl has been sending me facebook messages from her college about how she wants to hang out when she graduates. I responded and we kept in touch until she graduated and now she's home for good.

Finally, this past friday she came out to the bar with me and my friend and she brought her best friend. We ended up dancing and making out a lot, her best friend told me that she's had a crush on me for 7 years! So for the rest of the weekend we played phone tag until sunday when she asked me if I wanted her to call me after she finished dinner with her family.

The call never came.

So today (tuesday) at 4 I sent her a text saying "hey loser, call me"

I got no response.

How the hell did I mess this up?? I definitely didn't come off as too aggressive. The girl's supposedly has had a crush on me for 7 years but now she's MIA. I don't understand it...

any advice?

You honestly can't see where you fucked it up?

Really?

Maybe, just.......maybe its because you called her a loser >_>

Calling her loser sounds like a neg to me.

It could go either way. That's why it's always important to add a "" or " " at the end of your text negs so they know it's not an insult, but a playful joke.

~Antithesis

I don't think calling her a "loser" would have killed it at all. Maybe she is the very sensitive/self-conscious type and it did, but I doubt it. I would assume that you have joked with her before to some extent so a message like that should be fine. Plus, why would she take it seriously if it's followed by "call me"? Sure a smiley face would have lightened it, but it wasn't needed. I think focus should be taken off that.

Anyways, you have tried to contact her, now it's her turn to put some effort forth. I would sit back for a few days and see if she hits you up. She knows you are trying to get a hold of her so if she doesn't in a few days, then we'll work on it.

yes i've joked with her before and she know's me well enough to know that I'm not actually calling her a loser.

OK, so yea, I'll wait a few days and see if she gets back to me.. I'll keep you guys updated.

If she's LSE the loser comment might have just shut her down.

But I think its the phone tag that kills interest cus it can get bland and frustrating quickly. Id suggest maybe an email or sms after she calls u back the first time. This way you both reply when you get around to it, and you can get the plan of the next meeting out of the way before she calls u/u call her next.

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Sounds like she is busy to me.
Calm down and give it time.
Sounds like getting to clingy to her.
Just cause she has been into you for a while don't mean that she always will be.
Make sure you keep her interested.
You should have not text her and let her do her thing.
Then when she finaly got ahold of you be like wtf I thought you wherer gonna call me but joking.
After 3rd day of no call I woulda said it was time to call her.

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