Basically I'm in high school (going into senior year), I have moderate trouble with getting girls (I'm good looking but have inner game issues) and I plan on working on my inner game as well as my outer game all Summer. There's this girl I had a thing with sophmore year which didn't work out but we stayed acquaintance status. So basically she disespects me a lot and gets away with it (either because I let her because she's hot or her friends are there to back her up). Now I let it slide this year but I need some advice on how to get her to respect me pretty much. Any thoughts or ideas are welcome (recommending any pua products would be great too).

Like so much else in dating and seduction, getting respect has a very Zen quality to it. One thing I can tell you for sure is that if you go around looking for respect, you're probably not going to get very much.

If, on the other hand, you simply stop giving a fuck and live your own life, in your own world, regardless of the expectations or opinions of others, people will love you for it. And even if they don't, you won't give a fuck, which is really the point here In the words of Fight Club, "let that which does not matter, truly slide."

The bottom line is: you care way too much what this chick (and probably other people as well) thinks. Why let yourself be defined by other people's perceptions?

Whose life is it anyway?

Your boy,
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Is there any advice you (or anyone else) could give me for not caring what people think? Honestly I used to not even think about it, but over the years it started getting worse and worse and I started seeking validation from others......I just need to know how to end this cycle once and for all. I just want my senior year to be me at the top of my game; strong inner and outer game with a successful frame of mind.

It's all about your frame of mind. If you think other people's opinions of you are important-- they become important. If you think other people's opinions about you don't matter--- then they no longer matter. Maybe come up with a catchy mantra to run through your head when you're in social situations to keep yourself calm and collective.

~Antithesis

you just have to not care.

next time you find yourself caring, think "why is it that i care so much what X is saying?" or whatever and you'll realize there is no reason.


People occassionally try to knock my ego down when they're feelign insecure about themselves. So liek, when a guy says "nobody likes you" out of his own insecurity, I reply to him "I'm the only one that has to like me" laugh and turn away.

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First off, there is nothing wrong with wanting respect. Secondly, "not caring" isn't exactly spot on. You don't ace a test by "not caring". You don't make money by "not caring" for it. You don't EARN respect by "not caring" for it. I know what you guys are getting at, but it's simply a wrong strategy and definitely the wrong language.

To the OP, SIMPLIFY . . .

Emotional issues are difficult to solve through emotional means; ever try telling a sad friend, "get happy, get happy!!!"? - Doesn't always work . . . You don't go to a club repeating to yourself, "I want to get laid, I want to get laid." So why are you repeating to yourself, "I want respect, I want respect . . ."?

Keep it simple. "Respect" is your goal? Then, what's your strategy? Yeah, the "non-caring" route might work . . . but most likely will get you "indifference" in return. Think of all the people in life that others respect. What are their qualities? And how do they demonstrate those qualities? Work on improving your own qualities . . . and when go into social situations, simply focus on one thing at a time.

Purchase The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene. You want respect, you want power...this is the book to read.

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