Hey guys.

My names Nik, im 19 from Luton, England. Id first heard about all this about a year ago but I suppose whats prompted me into some action is when I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 months (not too long i know) 2 weeks ago. For about a year now Ive suffered with anxiety, where as before that I was quite a confident lad and enjoyed going into clubs and felt pretty confident about myself around girls- even if I was unsuccessful a few times.

I somehow managed to pull this beautiful girl even with my problems and we had a fantastic time. When I was with her, my social anxiety and doubts about myself didnt matter. She dropped a bomb shell the other week when she said that she didnt want a relationship anymore despite telling me I was the best thing that ever happened to her, and even though we're good friends, im having a pretty tough time dealing with it. As upset as I am about loosing her, the main thing Im cut up about is that I now dont have the confidence or belief in myself to ever get someone again, never mind someone as hot as she was (i was punching above my weight admittedly).

It sounds crazy but it all started because I was very insecure about my mouth i.e wether I was spitting when talking to people etc and its got to the point where im constantly thinking about it, making it difficult to strike up conversation or converse freely without this constant mental block.

I suppose I was just wondering if anyone else has had such anxiety, and if anyone had any tips to overcome this.

Im just very worried I've lost my personality, the thing that made me able to get this girl in the first place. She could of had any guy, our age or older, yet she chose me, a lanky 19 year old with a baby face. I just want to feel confident again, and get back on the scene.

Thanks guys,

Nik