Angelina its nice to see you jumping right in both feet forward. Its good to see a females perspective on things, and it helps validate what some of the guys around here are helping with, when people can see both sides of the story.

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"The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one."

do you realize what you said? you went to help after she begged, you gave in, so now she feels she has control over you once again, all that hard work that had previously been done is now gone.

Now i would back off completely, show disinterest, become a busy man and not be around to help her. You may think this is wrong, but if your not around to help her, that means she has to think for herself and actually do the work, instead of you doing it.

take a step back, breathe and reorganize your priorities, she should not be one of them anymore.

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"The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one."

hello again,
well I called her today and told her that I was busy and I couldn't go to her place. she begun saying that she needs my help but I told her that with all the help I gave her everything should be perfect.
she then said that she'll call me tomorrow to inform me of the results...
I told her that I have to change my schedule next week and I'll be in another class and she said that she will change her schedule (again) to be in the same class with me (((
I believe that her professor will be more than happy with her hw tomorrow....
last time she went to her professor for evaluation of her hw I texted her a good luck message half an hour before their scheduled meeting... I wont do it tomorrow...
I decided to walk away and avoid initiating any comunication in the future

BTW she told me that my ex-girlfriend became her friend in facebook...

*sniff* *sniff* that smell, its familiar it smells like a stalker!

if you see her you dont have to be rude, you can still be friendly and say hello, just dont go out of your way to do so. If she comes up to you, dont act like anythings wrong, be your fun friendly self.

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"The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one."

thank you D.C.
but why would she stalk me???? I believe that she just wants to be around to be able to ask for favors and help....
she just called to let me know that she got a 9 for her last hw ("10 is for god" as her professor told her) and to thank me for my help....
I was cool and calm and tried to finish the phonecall fast BUT she said something that made me think of the worse : she said that she wants to speak with me about something after the Monday class.....
I have a slight idea what that might be. last night a friend of mine e-mailed me some of the things my ex (who as I told you has become her facebook friend) has posted on her facebook. she keeps insulting the boyfriend and the girl I'm helping, and she posts things like "he (that's me) can't fall in love for such a loser and ugly girl, after all we can all she that she has no taste since she loves the gollum"
I have no contact with my ex for the last 6 months but she keeps asking mutual friends about me and someone must have mentioned something and it seems that she's still jealous (((
what am I going to do if she'll bring up the things that my ex posted ?????
I had a great life a month ago and now I'm feeling like I'm swimming in sh*t

thank you D.C.
but why would she stalk me???? I believe that she just wants to be around to be able to ask for favors and help....
she just called to let me know that she got a 9 for her last hw ("10 is for god" as her professor told her) and to thank me for my help....
I was cool and calm and tried to finish the phonecall fast BUT she said something that made me think of the worse : she said that she wants to speak with me about something after the Monday class.....
I have a slight idea what that might be. last night a friend of mine e-mailed me some of the things my ex (who as I told you has become her facebook friend) has posted on her facebook. she keeps insulting the boyfriend and the girl I'm helping, and she posts things like "he (that's me) can't fall in love for such a loser and ugly girl, after all we can all she that she has no taste since she loves the gollum"
I have no contact with my ex for the last 6 months but she keeps asking mutual friends about me and someone must have mentioned something and it seems that she's still jealous (((
what am I going to do if she'll bring up the things that my ex posted ?????
I had a great life a month ago and now I'm feeling like I'm swimming in sh*t

Haha... Hope things do better because this is a hard situation but yes D.C and Sinn are both correct. Good advice.

well, here I am again...
just finished our class...
when she came (a couple of minutes before the class) I was sitting a few feet away from the others "playing" with my phone. she said hello and then the other girls called her to ask her about her hw. she said to them "it went OK" and came back to me asking about my weekend (it was a bit of a crazy weekend) and she begun telling me about her hw and how gratefull she is for my help and that her 9 was ours and not hers alone.
during the class (I was sitting away from her) and she was always laughing with my jokes and I saw her looking at me almost every time I turned my head to look at her....
during the cigarette break the rest of our class was outside but I stayed in the hallway to send a message to a friend....
when she saw me she left the others and came inside and begun talking (I can't remember exactly what she was saying)... anyway she told me that she will need me again because she has another hw for the 30th of May....
I told her that she will have to remind it to me again because I have a pretty busy schedule....
she told me that she wants to speak to me about something but she had to go to her mother after the class (she said "after all we will see eachother soon")...
I told her that she could e-mail me but she said that it's something that she wants to talk about in person....
after the class she asked me to stay for a cigarette and I told her "OK, but just one"... she mentioned (again) the weekend and I reminded her that on the 14th I'm going for a trip... she asked me if i'll go alone but I avoided answering by telling her "you see what you'll miss? you lost your chance when you weren't sure if you should come or not" and she said that she's not a good company in trips....

sorry for the big post....
BTW... although I was cool around her, right now I'm feeling a bit down... but not as much as before.... I guess I'm one step closer in overcoming my one-itis... but seeing her again and again is making things difficult... maybe I should ask her to return to her original class.....

OK....
it's been a week since my last visit here....
many things happened:
1. I'm now with a girl (let's call her HB9). she stays in my house for the last 5 days.
2. I'm still not over my one-itis (let's call her HB8)
3. HB9 created for me a page in facebook where she stated (and in her page) that we are in a relationship together
4. HB9 is friends with my ex !!!!
5. HB8 is also friends with my ex !!!!
6. I'm also friends with my ex !!!!!
7. I haven't told HB8 that I'm on facebook
8. today during the cigarette break HB8 came to me and asked me how was my trip (I had taken HB9 with me) and if I brought any photos with me (in fact the day before I went on the trip she asked me to e-mail her when I get back - which I never did). She tried to keep me in conversation for the whole break and even asked me what my plans are for the rest of the classes.
9. this week I have my birthday and she asked me what my plans are. I joked about having a party at the graveyard and (surprise - surprise) she asked if she can come !!!!!!! I never answered
10. On the 30th she has another hw.... I guess that's why she is so friendly again...

another week has passed....
I'm happy with my girlfriend BUT I'm still under the spell of my one-itis....
here are the news: (forgive me for keep telling you what's happening, but since I can't talk about it with my friends you're the only people I can speak to and let it out of my chest)
1. last week it was my birthday and my one-itis (HB8) came to the class and gave me a gift (it was a very beautiful gift with a card saying that I'm special)
2. the next day I texted her saying thank you and that it's a very special gift from a very special person. she then called me to thank me for my kind words and told me that she wanted to do more than just give me a gift...
3. unfortunately she got sick and she wasn't able to come to class for the next couple of days... during that time she found out (from friends) that I occasionally write poems and she e-mailed me asking if she could read them....
4. on Friday she has another hw and so yesterday she asked (again) for my help...
5. so today I went to her house.... at some point she remembered the poems. I had a couple of them with me and let her read them. at my surprise when she read the last one she stood up grabbed my hand and hold it on her heart that was beating like crazy!!! she then hugged me and told me that they were very beautiful !!!!!!!!! of course my luck ended there because the phone rang!!!!!
6. the rest of the time we were laughing and having a great time, while we were preparing her hw.
7. unfortunately we weren't able to finish it and therefore I have to go to her place again on Thursday....

OK.... now as you can understand I still have feelings for her....
the BIG question:
I've bought a gift to thank her BUT I don't know if I should give it to her or not and when!!!! I was thinking of giving it to her on Thursday along with a poem about her (not a love poem, but one saying that I will not forget the great times we had, as a goodbye). The reason I'm thinking of not giving it now is that we will be in the same class for the next couple of weeks, and therefore I'm thinking of giving it to her after the classes are over.....
any ideas???????

Hey,

feel free to talk about it all you like, hopefully that in itself, regardless of whether you get any useful advice will be quite therapeatic.

If you are under the spell of one itis I would back off as far as possible.
One itis is just a rough ride from start to finish so start to ignore the babes that you want but can't have.(it drives em crazy )

You say you are happy with your girlfriend so that is great!

it is only normal that you are going to be thinking about this hottie at school but give it time.
I got one itis so bad once that it turned into an obsession and my mind couldn't think about anything else, literally. It just fried my fucking brains.

so have fun with your girlfriend, enjoy yourselves , live your life and move on. you will come through it and find that there comes a time when you just stop thinking about her. Obviously the sooner that you can stop physically seeing her the better.

let us know how you do. Good luck

Right im new to this aswell, but in my opinion it looks like she is getting a lot out of you HW wise. What you need to do is totally move away from the HW help to see if she wants to hang out with you without her getting anything from it.

She sounds very comfortable with you holding hands and all the kino. You should have gone for a kiss at this point so she knows your intentions loud and clear before she puts you into the LJBF zone.

An I hope you handled finding out about her bf on facebook without showing any major reactions. This is a big thing as I have failed here many times, it shows way too much that you want to be with her and be her bf and do all the nice things. An look at it this way, if he current bf is doing all the nice stuff for her then why is she just gonna switch him for you, he does the other stuff and you help her with her HW. She has a win win situation.

But you do seem in a good situation, just need to change the association from HW to hanging out and having fun together.


Ignore this, I just realised there was another two pages to read through!

OK some more news:

1. last weekend my one-itis knew that I was going on a trip... So when she came to the class on Monday (and in front of the whole class) she came to me and kissed me (friendly kisses on cheeks), although we had agreed (when I begun helping her) that we shouldn't let the rest of them know that we know eachother.... during the class we were looking and smiling and wave at each other all the time.
2. during the cigarette break she came and sat next to me asking about my trip. when I was away on the trip she had texted me asking if I was having a good time and in my reply I told her that a girl I met there (let's call her B) was saying "Hi"... So during the break she asked me who the girl I was with on the trip was. I misunderstood her question and I thought she was reffering to my girlfriend and so I begun talking about her.... She seemed annoyed and she said "No who's B????". I explained that she's a girl who tought me how to read the lines of the hand (!!!) and she said that I must read her hand as soon as possible during coffee. BTW she then begun asking me about my girlfriend, if she is nice etc. (????) Finally when the class finished she had to run home because her mother was expecting her.
3. Today (and out of the blue) she e-mailed me (a few minutes ago) asking how I am and if I'm looking forward for tommorow to meet her in the class..... I didn't e-mailed back (and I'm not going to)
4. On the 13th she has another hw (the last one)!!!!! therefore I'm beginning to believe that she's being nice because she's going to ask for my help again.

People I have a very important question
today my one-itis asked me to add her in facebook
on my status it says that I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend
should I change my status to single on not?????

please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WTF am I psychic or what????
she (my one-itis) just e-mailed me saying how sorry she is that next week is the last week for our seminars because we won't be seeing eachother so often. she then says that we must keep meeting even after our seminar is over...
BUT in the end she asks (exactly as I expected her) if I could help her with her last hw by going to her house twice next week )))))