| There is an hb 9 I hooked up with on and off for 2 or 3 years, and the girl is the biggest player ever. I learned a lot from her, even though in the end I blew it by showing her that I was too into her, being too nice and generous with her etc: being too available. Even so, she drops a line once in a while, calling me baby, etc. because she wants to keep me on the back burner. That's fine, I'd still like to have sex with her down the line, and at this point that's all I will ever give her again, even though she is so damn beautiful and funny and smart and awesome. That's why I blew it, her game being stronger than mine made her more interesting than other girls.
She did not care when I hooked up with other girls at all, that made her like me more, made her feel the challenge was bigger - I even told her the truth about sleeping with a different girl earlier the same day, and she still wanted to have sex, trying to win me, taking it as a dhv.
"Players only love you when they're playing." You can give a player ioi's but mix every ioi with an indication that you will never be all hers; that she can never really have you. You know the cat string theory - that a cat loses interest in the string you dangle in front of it as soon as it drops to the floor and stops being pulled away from them? Players never move past this - they will keep trying to get that string for years, but the second you drop it they are over it.
I think it is a mistake to call them your "favorite". At least that was the beginning of the end for me with the chick I mentioned. She knew she wasn't the only one, but I said she was my favorite, and I know it clicked in her brain like "Finally, I GOT this fool!" That's already giving them a piece of the string - so what you add "brat"? that doesn't really mean anything - it makes you sound frustrated that she is "being a brat" by having too much game - I promise!!
She may like hearing shes the favorite, but it will also make her lose attraction. I think its better to say " how's my LEAST favorite Angel?" She knows you know she's no angel, she knows she is not your least favorite, but a cat also knows its just a string - its still fun to play with though. Least favorite lets her know a challenge exists, that other girls have your attention to, that she must compete to win. Let her be aware you are into / hooking up with other chicks, but don't be obvious about it, make her think she only caught on because she is wise to the game. Challenge her ego this way: a real player pretends not to be one, pretends to be into someone more than they really are, says the same stuff to multiple people as if its an original feeling. Do the same, beat her at her own game - make her almost believe that you are totally into her, but then let her discover somehow that you were just gaming her. Just keep pulling the string away as soon as she thinks she has caught it, and she will never leave - even if she does, there's a huge chance she will be back.
This is very hard to explain, this is really where I think the ART of pickup lies - its like one of those mating dances animals do on the discovery channel, where a subtle difference in performance seals it or ruins it - when two people who know the game get in the mix (if she doesnt have game, its more liek a bear killing a salmon, haha) And I'm no pro, but I'm quite sure what I said is more or less true. Good luck, if there's anything you want me to clarify ask and I will try!
peace, DanO
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...I'm curious as to how you guys who've been in these situations deal with that and them!