Wow It has been a long journey and still more to come. Growing up I had been probably the shyest , most awkward kid you would ever meet. I never had a girl or a kiss. I was a clown but with no confidence. Low self esteem, and I was depressed. Almost every day I used to think about ending my life because it just sucked. I couldn't even hold a eye contact to talk to somebody. I used to get bullied on , nobody ever believed in me...Teachers called me a failure and etc. I went to Military school my junior in highschool and thought it would help... not really. I still couldn't keep my head up to talk to people I was still depressed , shy, low self esteem. Senior in highschool I made good friends with one of the popular kids that noticed I had potential but was just shy and low self esteem. He always tried to help me and give me advice and got me in to the scene and known kind of. I still had some problems though. By the end of senior year I was such a fuck up that I had to graduate in the summer over half a credit. I also got fired from quizno's within two months and still a virgin. I told my self fuck the world, and fuck everything... I went to college made straight A's and got bigger and became super charismatic. Girls liked me , they crushed on me. I was so confident in my self , I was always calling out answers in class, I was talkative, I was intelligent and good looking. Also this was one of the first times I set a goal I thought would be impossible for me to accomplish and I did it. Everything came together. I made straight A's at a local college then I transferred to one of the best schools in the States. Now I started Muay Thai and boxing, I work out, I'm a Volunteer firefighter. I have the biggest balls when I go to the club or bar or anywhere. Every body loves me because I accomplish my goals. I faced my fears and I just gained confidence. Oh yeah I lost my virginity to a pretty cute girl I met in Canada the end of the summer right before I transferred to the current college I'm going to.. It has been 2 years and still learning and going strong

getting into relationships and maintaining them requires game. pure and simple. bettering yourself and no longer making excuses is what brought me into the fold of the community. I've met more amazing women and been able to lengthen those interactions as a result of putting into practice the information i've internalized.

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some of these stories would make good movies.

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Hey man, I’ve heard that improving your life will lead to women .

I've come pretty damn far as well. Up until 11th grade I chilled with the punk/rebel/skateboarder type of group. All we did was get high and drunk every day. First time I got drunk was in 8th grade and I got caught. When I told my friends the next day they all just laughed at me and then made fun of me and my parents.

Some friends.

But I just surpressed my feelings of anger, sadness, and depression and made it look like I was unaffected by their teasing. I wore black everyday and made fun of everyone that wasnt like me. I mean everyone. Jocks, geeks, popular girls, and everything inbetween. I was a douche. Hell I even picked on girls that I had a crush on. But it seemed like everyone wanted to be our friends. I have no clue why.

That's basically how I was up through 10th grade. But then my social circle began to change a little and after we kicked some kids out of the group (we beat one up and made him switch schools, convinced the school that one kid was gay, and convinced a football player to kick our former "group leader"'s ass). We started being nicer to people and befriending hotter girls and jocks. The jocks wanted to be our friends because they all wanted to start smoking weed and we were the ones who had it.

So we were friends with everybody and all my friends started getting more action from the girls. Except me. I had no luck with the ladies. Hell I never really tried. But then I went to NYC for a wedding and while waiting in the airport for our plane I went and browsed a bookstore. In the bookstore I saw a copy of The Game. I had remembered seeing something about how it can help you get with beautiful women, I bought it. Of course I stuffed it in my backpack so my parents wouldnt see it.

Once I got home I read the entire book cover to cover. Changed my life. Then I found the forum, but for the first few months I was a keyboard jockey.. I think thats what it's called? I didnt really have the balls to go approach. But then I started applying some of the tactics I learned on here and from The Game to girls in school and I found myself invited to more parties and to hangout with girls one on one.

Then I sent an opener through myspace to one of the hottest girls in my class. Seriously, top 5. She replied and we hit it off and I ended up asking her to prom and she said yes. My game still sucked so prom also sucked. But then once my junior year ended I started doing approaches during the summer and came back a whole different person.

But, I was so happy with my new found "magic bullet" with women that I actually gamed my best friend's ex, who he dated for a year and a half. Bad decision. We made out then my best friend stopped talking to me. We havent talked since and I stopped hanging out with that group of friends. Now I just hangout with guys from my gym. My social value has dropped in school but I dont really give two shits. I graduate in a week then it's off to college.

But at least I'm better with women! Ha didnt really expect to give my life story but, eh. Whatever.

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"The society that separates scholars from its warriors will have its thinking done by cowards and its fighting done by fools." - Thucydides

Seize the day with love

Sometimes you succeed, and sometimes you learn.

kvee and bedrock you guys have some pretty insparational stories
i myself want to change my life this summer, i have the time just dont have the commitment

I had this review posted a couple of days ago, but for the sake of the collection of stories I'll throw mine in anyway.

It has been exactly a year now since I got to know the community and it did change my life a bit thusfar but there still is more to come, propably...

I have always been quite bad with women. I look alright but I'm kind of a shy guy and I always got in the friends zone and always have been bummed out by it. But then it al started when I had nothing to do, sitting behind the computer at my parents house, surfing on youtube and just checking out some random music videos, some science videos (nerd alert!) and some funny videos and stuff.

But then on the so-called Related Bar (what a way to start in this community...) I saw 'David DeAngelo - Approaching Women'. My mind was triggered, eager to see what this mysterious DeAngelo bloke had in store for me about Approaching Women.

It happened to be a small section of the same titled seminar he used to give and I didn't really get what he was talking about really, since the vid started in the middle of a topic, but I got introduced to it and I was convince this David DeAngelo was THE guy when it comes to this topic (I was naive, I know Wink) and I downloaded the Approaching Women seminar.

4 DVD's, 2 hours each, worth of material downloaded over the course of the next 3/4 days (don't get me started on how crappy my internet is) and I was soaking up that material about cocky/funny and sexual tension, things I had never thought about before and surely never thought it could be taught to somebody. While viewing I was beginning to imagine what my life would be like when I finished all of these DVD's (naive again to think that program covered everything of pick-up) and what my life would have been like now if I knew about this longer!

But then at the end, when I saw all of this new material I didn't really have a structured plan about what to do and not a lot of success followed. I was kinda bummed out, I watched 8 hours of stuff and I still couldn't do it. But determined that there is a way to get women, I started out to look for more information, always more information. Then I stumbled into this forum and I must say this has helped me a lot in the first few months of my development (Thanks guys!!). Tips about which material to study, how to clear my sticking points and just funny and interesting stories were really inspiring that this is something I can do aswell.

After reading a bit more about structure of game and inner game (Mystery Method, The Game, Vin DiCarlo) it was time to start putting this ocean of information to the test in the real world. Still taking care of my AA I did need the help of alcohol to come through, but I found out it worked, and it worked well.

So here's a couple of things I have learned thanks to the community over the last year:

- I started making more and more eye contact with people, which didn't only help me with the relationships I had with women, but also strengthened the friendships I had with both males and females.

- I changed my body language and the way I interact with people, women in particular. Being more cocky/funny, teasing around a lot more than I used to amped up my game tremendously

- I got more active on a social level, starting with meeting more friends of my own friends to meeting new people by myself at university and eventually in clubs and bars. My confidence is way better than it was before, and still rising with every small step I take in the positive direction.

- I went from my mom and dads house to an apartment in the city of my university (at 20 years old) and that made me more of a responsible guy with more knowledge about the world.

- I've gone from approximately 3-4 k-closes a year to about 12-15 a year. Still not a shockingly huge amount, I know, but steady progress is progress!

- I k-closed with several girls more than one night, something I haven't done before so that's all going steadily towards the positive end.

- Lastly, I have girls trying to get my attention, calling and texting me, instead of the other way around, like it was before.

Some sticking points still remain, and my goals for the coming year are that these are dealt with (or at least tried to) when I start writing my next annual report.

Firstly I'm still having difficulties with Kino, when is it appropriate where and I just set my mind to it, which is a bad thing. I want that to flow naturally and that would help me amp up my game a lot.

Secondly I'm still a virgin, the only thing I have done more than kissing is a bit of feeling up, down and around, but nothing more. That still needs working, but with the steady progress I have made the past year I think I'll just need to be patient.

Lastly I still have quite a bit of Approach Anxiety, or at least difficulty initiating the conversation with HB's. Still I depend quite a lot on alcohol for being spontaneous and I hope that won't be necessary in the future.

My closing comments would be thanks to you all for advice, reads and support, I'm wishing you guys best of luck. May the force be with us!
You'll be hearing from me, no doubt
Peace, by Feist

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Girl: 'Aww you're playing me'
Feist: 'If I got a nickle for everytime I heard that...'

Last night I think was a prime example of just how far I've come. I was at a bar probably 40 dudes, 10 chicks in the place. 5 of those were together seated at a table in the corner all HB8+ I came to learn “having a girls night out” trying different rounds of shots. I would see guys & their liquid courage meander over there & get blown out left and right before they even got in. I rolled in like I owned it & expected them to want to talk to me, plowed through probably a dozen shit test and them mainly wanting me to buy a round of shots for all 5 of them for the privilege of sitting with them (which I never did), & had them begging me to stay chill with them after 10 minutes & the hottest one rubbing on me the rest of the night smelling me etc. Could have never pulled that off in my chode days.

I saw dudes looking at me like how the fuck. Funny thing is they were all early 20's & married. Just out to get free shots and blow off dudes of to pump their ego up is my guess, so I know my game is progressing to a solid level be able to get in with them. They said I was the only “normal” guy in the bar & told me they like to go out on thursdays "girls night out" & chill with them at some point. Bad to say but the hottest married chick wanted my myspace, so I think it’s still on with her. With great power comes great responsibility the desicions we have to make.

I don't think I've changed significantly/noticeably,

but I have developed a level of understanding, this inturn has help me realise what exactly is happening, before I would have been confused

I like to divide my community life into two segments.

The first year and a half, I did everything word by word, from proclaimed "Gurus".

This in result only messed me up more. Sure I had sex, I had shit going on, but on the inside I was still the same chode, I just had a higher understanding of what to do, and when to do it.

The last 2 months, I gutted everything I learned out, after it hit me that something was very wrong with me.

It's been a painful progression, but I am starting to have things click in myself. I am finding out who I am, and I get glimpses of him. It's beautiful, and my success with women is only getting better.

Words of advice, keep going out, and keep pushing yourself. The rest you will learn naturally. And run from those that claim to know all.

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I'm addicted to facing my fears.

PUAdave that is an awesome example man, which methods did you start off with when you got into the game ?

Thanks man. I really have noticed my game taking a new level recently. Feels awesome & is already better than I ever honestly imagained.

Started with Mystery Method like most. I had a whole script I would recite early on but I can't even imagaine doing an opinion opener or the stuff I did now but that gave me the confidence start approaching, & you don't get blown out as bad so you can learn. I've studied anyone who is anyone in the community since. Picked up a lot of good pointers from all but it's really something you teach yourself out in the field at the end of the day &'s about developing confidence & a stronge inner belief system.

Funny thing was when they said I was the only "normal guy" they had met that night, I chuckled a bit in my head because it only has taken me 100's of hours devoted to studying this stuff & in the field. I can't even imagine how many hours looking at seminars & reading books I have devoted at this point. It's been the last 7 months of my life.

If I were suggesting favorite books/seminars looking back was Swingcatt's book. Prizing/ Push Pull theory are a lot of my game. Blueprint decoded more recently, & study anything on body language & Alpha male traits as well as looking into some NLP for reframing your belief system & inner game.

yeah im currently half way through reading Mysterie's method it does seem kind of outdated by now though. Yeah everyone sais that having inner game will change everything about your approach so im reading Anthony Robkins "Awaken the Giant Within" now aswell.. I do have a lot of information built up but i havent practiced going out yet, i just dont have the motivation

Stick with it bro. Like anything it's REALLY difficult in the beginning getting off the ground, but you got to practice. Reminds me a lot of playing guitar. Lot of pain & frustration at the start, but you get thick skin & toughen up & once it starts to click & you start getting it results you will get motivated QUICK & comes a lot quicker. You will probably even think this is easy, how did I not know how to do this before.

It's very important in the beginning to reframe everything as a positive. I got ZERO results the first 3 months but I reframed it in my mind as, hey I'm just proud of myself for trying , this is better than I was before, or little stuff like the chick smiled at me, or talked to me or even I met a cool dude etc. Just found little stuff to build on to stay positive & get to the point where now I can roll into about any bar the last month alone (7th month in the game) & pretty much own it, & met everyone around me. In the last month I have people buy me shots, girls compete over me for attention people inviting me out to roll with them etc.

It's crazy where I was in November of last year. Getting naked with chicks even got me motivated to lose 30lbs & work out & get muscles & healthy as well so it's a had a major impact on my life in other way. Much better & happy quality overall & as a person.

BTW I think you said you bought "The Rules of the Game" which is the one with the challenges in it you described. Go buy Styles 1st book. The Game if you really want a motivational book. It's an entertaining read about transformation as well as being very informative & inspirational. Breaks down most all of the different schools of pick up. Must read & considered the bible of pick up.