Bantering is an extremely important step in any stage between A2 and S1. You can create large amounts of Kino as well as build massive amounts of comfort. And one of the best ways I have noticed to do so is with Roleplaying. And I am not talking about getting her to dress up in a Nurses outfit (Although if you can get her to do that, don't stop whatever your doing.). I am talking about getting her to assume a role that you have helped create for her in your life. You use what she CAN do to help you and then she is already doing this For you even if nothing is actually being done.
I decided to make this post because I noticed a wonderful woman on here by the name of Red1975 and I started to Banter/Roleplay. It had nothing to do with me trying to pick her up NOR on her hitting on me But we both started doing it (I, because it is in my standard routine that is becoming VERY natural for me, and Her because Women LOVE IT! All of them. They all love assuming roles and having fun!) So, I asked her if I could post the series of posts and she graciously agreed. Those posts are as follows and they illustrate the point MUCH better than I could have ever explained them.
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I think I heard a joke about that one time Red... hmm.
And I am glad I could help, just don't get all sappy on me and start telling me your problems so that I end up becoming your intellectual whore. (
www.intellectualwhores.com) Lol.
Actually, you could totally become my handywoman if it is INdeed true that you can change this lightbulb that you so confidently talk about. I have literally dozens of lightbulbs in my house that have never been changed and may well one day Need changing. lol
In this you notice where I am offering her the role of Handywoman to help me change all those pesky lightbulbs that I come across in my daily life. Then she replied with:
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Cheeky git! lol
I am not going to be asking for advice from you and using you as my support system! lol
'Sappy' indeed! As if! I do wear my heart on my sleeve but it will be wearing a bullet proof vest in here lol
As much as I think most of you sound very nice to chat to, I am not needy...I have many friends and am capable enough to deal with my own issues and problems lmao
However...fixtures and fittings I can help with..I can change bulbs (although can barely reach the one that needs changing in my living room, even on a ladder!), and I can get webcams to work, plug in my scart plugs, put up shelves and all that!
Just call me Supergirl lol (not sure my X-ray vision is what it used to be though....)
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She is kind enough to do some minor qualifying to me (With the "not needy" statement as well as with what else she can fix. Such a wonderful girl
) and then Accepts my offer of a role and expands it to Superhero like status. She has begun to play and we are both having fun and becoming more comfortable with each other.
I then replied with the following:
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First of J/K means Just kidding
And so you can do shelving, webcams, and fittings and fixtures? Would you be willing to wear the Super suit underneath your normal clothes and when I needed such things fixed you would tear off your "Clark Kent" attire and fly to my rescue? I could be all like "Woe is me... My cabinet handle has broken! Who shall I call? Wait! I know! HANDYWOMAN Please save the day!" lmao. You could come soaring it and repair it in a flash of a lightbulb.
Heheh. That would be freakin awesome! What color would your "SuperSuit" be?
lol
I just started to focus in on the whole roleplaying thing a bit more and she responded:
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Well I find I look good in black, so reckon a black outfit would be best with a big gold letter across my chest for my name...my real name lol.
Or it could say 'Red' across it...Red to the rescue...that would work (although feel like I sound like a guy now lmao).
I see what you're doing, I'm too suspicious lmao...you're teasing me to get a reaction, oh yes...I know the score lol
I'm off out soon so need to go iron my Black suit for the rescuing of men in distress that no doubt will occur tonight...what can I say...a girl's life is a busy life lol
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She is having fun and playing along and everything is going great.
The point is guys, everything here is fun and exciting AND IMHO the absolute best part of all this is the fact that any time in the future I can refer to her as "My superhero" or as "Handywoman" and it will bring her right back to this scenario where she was having fun just messing around.
Remember what I said earlier guys, this is a woman's natural reaction. She is very immaginative and just loves to do this in general. To her, this has nothing to do with Flirting or Picking-up (or being Picked up). This is a tool to help get them comfortable with you while they see themselves in your life.
Now, when she goes to tell her friends about it, they will look at her like "What?" and she will most commonly reply with "Nevermind, you just had to be there, it was really funny"
Anyway, when RED gets back she can see this and reply to it to see if I was even right. And YES, I did ask her if it was okay to post this.
She said yes, because it was a learning tool and she happends to be here to help people as well as learn so she doesn't get hurt. Just like us.
So, I hope I helped somewhat and if you have any questions I will be more than happy to answer them as best I can.
And everyone thank Red1975 for being nice enough to allow me to post this.
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