You know what i'm talking about!
I've been getting heavily into natural game lately. I find myself an already overall naturally confident young man. However, I still have a bit of the social conditioning twitches that many have, and these gets in the way.
An excellent (and long) inner/natural game post is by alex from RSD:
http://alexattitude.com/?p=35
(Now I know what people mean when they say "get your shit together!" I definitely feel mis-aligned when my apartment is dirty because I have my own standards I live up to. If I skip a day at the gym, I feel weird and this affects how I feel. This almost makes me want to get rid of my "friends" who are of the opposite. They have no standards for themselves, live in filth and clutter, eat 100% fast food, have social anxiety, etc)
I miss this feeling... A little story:
Okay so I'm a sophomore in college, and there's a girl in one of my classes who always caught my attention. She is of higher value, and is a member of one of those "elite" sororities on campus. One of those girls with a 7 face but 9 body. Anyway, I unsuccessfully gamed her in that she showed major IOI's, I got her phone number, but she always had an excuse when I wanted to hang out or go see a movie. Me not being in a fraternity doesn't help much.
Okay enough background. One day the whole class of ~40 students went on a walk about 5 or 6 blocks to the downtown area to sketch for an hour. It was about perfect outside. It was a little warm, about 80 degrees, sunny, with a breeze. I was feeling good, and being really goofy. For instance, a semi-truck was turning into all of us and I started to scream at the top of my lungs, making everyone laugh. I was feeling... euphoric, a natural high. I was definitely feeling my dopamines and "feel good" chemicals flow throughout my brain, it felt perpetual in that it was constant for the duration of this walk. It felt almost as though I took one of those tiny anti-anxiety drugs. Anyway, everyone started to find their own spots to sit and sketch at an intersection surrounded by old buildings of character.
I wanted to cross the street (kind of get away from everyone), so my guy friend and I started to cross. What do you know, that HB I had tried to game in the past darted a few feet ahead of us. I playfully said "hey! you're stealing MY idea of going to that corner!" and she'd laugh. I went and sat down on the sidewalk and she sat very close. Our knees would be touching very lightly, as my guy friend sat a few feet away from us. She is the one who sat close.
So we just 'bantered' for the 30 minutes we were sitting there. The whole time, my brain felt GOOD and I could tell I had certain chemicals flowing throughout my brain. My mood and what I was feeling was all positive, and I could tell that this was being felt by the girl. Keep in mind that she is very intelligent, yet, one of the most fun and giddy girls that i've talked to in my life. As we walked back to the classroom, I WAS STILL IN THAT STATE! I was not thinking about what I was saying or going to say. I found myself constantly smiling, and just having fun conversation with her. For example, we were talking about fake ID's and going to bars, and she mentioned "yeah i'm not boring, I like to always have fun no matter where i'm at." I'd reply with "yeeeeah I know, you're like the total opposite of boring. In fact, you could be one of the most fun girls I know!", while smiling at her.
She was laughing every 30 seconds, and so was I. Also, 'coincidentally', as we walked down the sidewalk, both of our hands kept touching each other, and I could tell she liked it. Also at one point, she kind of meyandered into my direction and my hand grazed her ass and she just smiled. Looking back, I should have said something like "hey you did that on purpose"
When we were back in class, I was on the opposite side of the room as her. I noticed her talking to one of her girlfriends, and at the same time BOTH of them were looking at me. So I basically caught her saying something good about me, I was thinking something like "Wow he is kinda different" or "He was just making me laugh a lot"
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What do you do to get into "the state"? I've been trying this out the past few days, especially after reading a post on masf titled "Recreating drug states: how much can you take?" I do have the ability to naturally release dopamine and seritonin on demand, but I don't think that this is THE piece of the puzzle of being in state.
Even though I just started reading an into NLP book, I want to buy/read "The Power of Now: A guide to spiritual enlightenment" which is basically about "Ekhart Tolle's message is simple: living in the now is the truest path to happiness and enlightenment."
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