I'm not satisfied with this post, because I think I overdid the advice.
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The simple answer (the what)
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It all depends on the person. Your best bet is to go in assuming rapport, and remaining attractive. Then adjust your game accordingly.
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The complex answer (the why)
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This may be long winded, but I want to give you and indepth understanding of how attraction works, beyond creating it.
Attraction isn't some switch that turns on or off. Its more of an energy. Thus it follows the basic laws of energy.
- - If there is nothing to keep that energy going, it will slowly decrease in power (the attraction will die).
- The energy can change states and direction depending on the influences surrounding it. Thus attraction can turn into hate, or become attached to someone else.
Aside from the actions that create attraction, this energy is dependant on 5 things to survive: memory, amount, the person, events, and association to survive.
Lets look at these deeper.
Memory
Lets say you created massive amounts of attraction in someone, but they have a terrible memory. The attraction will die as soon as they forget about you.
Attraction depends on Memory.
Memory depends on the individual.
Increase someones memory, the longer the attraction will stay.
By the way, the most memorable things are those with intense emotions, and which stick out from our day to day lives.
Amount
Attraction is an emotional response. Thus the more you have, the higher the emotional response. If you look at the above model, the higher your attraction, the longer you can wait before having to add more attraction.
The person
Each person has a certain "attraction threshold." This means what you did to create sufficent attraction with one person, may not be enough for another person. In reference to your question, lets assign some arbitrary attributes to this threshold.
1 will be no interest, 10 will be obsession, and her threshold for wanting to be with you is 6.
Say you create just enough attraction to get over that threshold (7), and she wants you. Now over time, if theres not much attraction building going on, your going to drop back below the threshold, because of the previous reasons. Does this mean that all is lost? No, you just have to get back to at least that 7.
Now lets say the attraction dropped to a 4 or five. She wont want you, and you most likely will get stuck in the "friend zone." But she will still be willing to be around you. does that mean all is lost? No. rememeber attraction works like energy, so you can increase it, and push past her threshold.
In a nutshell, its best to always increase attraction.
The higher you are in that scale, and the farther away you are from her threshold, the more "crap" she will be willing to take from you, and the more she will think about you.
Association
People are associative creatures. This means that all your attractive qualities, can be changed to unnatractive just on a few actions that remind them of bad times/relationships.
Ever met a chick that avoided people jsut based on their name? Thats extreme association. Whoever had that name (whether one person or many) were so terrible in her mind, that she associated the name with being unattractive.
The threshold raises for people who bring up negative thoughts, and lowers for people who are associted with positive ones.
Events
Lets say you have her at a 10, and you you disapear. Then some guy comes up, and starts gaming her. Its very possible for him to take the attraction you created, and start directing it towards himself.
Or lets say you do something she finds very unnatractive. Something that surpasses or equals the attraction you created. She may change it to another emotion (anger, depression, escapism etc.). Thus it will seem in both cases the attraction just "disapeared", when its still there.
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