The Principles of Observation, Interpretation and Adaptation

Okay, ever since I hit early, mid teens I've always been the type to observe and interpret what's around me.

This is pivotal.

Something I notice nowadays is that people have a habit of not really thinking about what they see around them. They just take it for granted, as something that can't be changed, can't be influenced. This is absurd.

Every single thing that occurs in the world has a driving force, has intention, has movement, action, execution. You must learn to take note of this.

The next time you see two people interact, listen to them. Listen to them.

Now, think.

Everything that comes out of their mouth, think about WHY they have chosen to impart it. Sometimes it's not an entirely consicous decision, sometimes it's just an emotion or a whim, or whatever. You should look out for this yourself; you must learn to think before you speak, in all situations. Everything you say will have an impact on the people who hear it. They will all process what they hear in unique ways, as they have all learned to associate everything around them with unique connotations. This is where adaptation comes in, but more on that later.

So, observation in itself is a pivotal tool in all our interactions, as well as non social persuits. The key to learning efficiently lies in being able to interpret and adapt our observations. Just seeing something happen and taking it in isn't enough. It will serve no purpose unless it's broken down and interpreted, analysed.

Let's take an example. A classic online game example which makes a lot of people freak out.

'Lol ok'.

Fuck, right? Cold.

The observed is that she's given you a short, closed response. Where to go from there?

Now interpret. WHY has she given you a closed response?
Is it a lack of interest?
Is she just that kind of girl?
Is she shy?
Is she busy?
Is she just testing you to see if you can keep the conversation afloat?
Is she testing to see if you're interested enough to keep the conversation afloat?

Interpret. Now, at this point, 'Lol ok' will not be your only clue as to the true feelings of your interactive partner. You will have engaged with her with other words, of course. You MUST take into account these other interactions when interpreting a person or event. Nothing is black or white in the world; everything is a shade of grey. 'Lol ok' does not mean 'I do not want to talk to you anymore'. Accept this in it's totality and apply it to all aspects of your life; nothing is black and white! Everything is grey.

Finally, let's talk about adaptation. This could get a little deep, so take a breath.

Every human being on this world has been exposed to different circumstance throughout their lives. Every human being has been taught different things, seen, heard and felt different things. Their observations are unique, their experiences are unique. Therefore, their interpretations are unique.

Every human being alive will percieve the world different.

When you see something, anything, in the world, it will hold a different connotation to you than it does ANYBODY ELSE.

This is YOUR WORLD. You are the only one who sees it like this.

Therefore, you must learn to adapt.

You cannot expect anybody else to interpret an event in the same way you do. Similar, perhaps; but never the same. Your interpretations are unique. Learn to adapt to other's interpretations of the world and behave appropriately and you will find the world is yours for the taking. It's a skill that can be described as empathy and anyone who is anybody will understand.

Adapt to the world around you, it's how we survive. Our society feeds us a lot of bullshit about staying true to ourselves, blah blah blah, which is often misinterpreted as 'pay no attention to the world around you and do entirely your own thing'.

Sure, do your own thing. This is your world, after all. But, learn to adapt to others, in all respects.

That girl, who's saying 'lol ok'? Adapt to her. Observe her and interpret her, try to understand the way SHE interprets you, the world, the interaction, then adapt. Behave in a way that makes her understand.

I'm not going to give you lines, I'm not going to give you game to spit.

Use your brain, start learning from the world, instead of blindly shooting your mouth off and hoping it works.

It's all yours.

Sky

Since this thread didn't address a technical issue, I moved it to the Lounge. Please post in the appropriate sections from now on.

Your boy,
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No offense but you're not very qualified to be giving advice to anybody here.

One of the most important aspects of game is opening and approaching. Before you start telling a story or giving advice you absolutely must have the attention or interest of the target. If you were to just walk up to a stranger and start giving them advice, do you think they would give a piss?

Your posts demonstrate that you are unaware of this. You write without credibility and without establishing any relevance for why your audience should care about what you have to say. Your words exemplify your ignorance.

Game is not about canned lines. Many would argue it is about understanding our evolutionary selves, and giving ourselves the opportunity to demonstrate our best selves in a social setting.

So I beg YOU to use your brain and to understand the topic on which you so enthusiastically give advice upon. This is a great community and many women are fantastic contributors to it.

I hope you can be one of them someday.

CPT

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I couldn't bear to read all that mumbo jumbo shit. One thing that caught my eye is this bullshit:

Think before you speak? Are you encouraging men to pre-plan what they say in every interaction? This is wrong on many levels. Nothing should be thought out before said. Otherwise it will not be congruent to your core and who you are as a masculine man.

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Online game? I hope you're not serious.

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I know what you're trying to say, but I can also say it's irrelevant to getting women.

What you're trying to say is:

You should try and find out the "Map of the World" of the girl you want, and try and get to her core as a person. Her "Map of the World" is built off all her experiences, and you should analyze and figure this out. That is why she is who she is.

Calibrate to who she is.


I understand where you are coming from by trying to say what I said in 4 lines, but
it is pretty shitty advice. You will not need this when it comes to one night stands, club game, or even day game. Have fun, be fun, and show your intent. That is all you need.

You can save all the shit you said for guys looking for girlfriends.

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*smirks*

So you kids know, these three articles are my articles.

I asked Sticky to post them for me because my laptop is on the blink.

I would appreciate you withholding your petty judgements from my pivot, especially about things she didn't write.

Sky
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I for one will say that I found that advice very useful. Not all of us is looking for one-night stands. Geting into a long-tern healthy relationship needs people to understand him, and this post gave soem good advice on how to do that. I thik we should appreacite what everyone has to contribute rather than just complain about it.

I also thot it was very valuable information