I'm not sure where to go next with this sitation. I k-closed a girl on two different occasions. Then I received a text from this girls saying and I quote "I really like you but I just got out of a bad relationship...I mean really bad...and this guy is still giving me crap so i just feel like i'm not ready for anything right now. What are your feelings on that?"

I told her that more or less nothing changed for me and that i just want to hang with her...no commitments.

She continues to text me like normal. Should I just keep acting like i have been or try to push things in a more sexual direction??? Any advice would help...thanks

depends.

what do you want?

sex and/or relationship: sexual

friends: non sexual

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The "No commitment" part was a mistake. Basically, she was asking you, "Obviously, I like you because I stuck my tongue down your throat but I'm not into any silly games. So are you REALLY into me or not? Will you take me away to the land of romance or not?"

So you played it cool . . . which is good. But no need to over do it.

As Kristal asked . . . do you want a relationship with her?

i think I eventually do but I'm not in a rush. I just want to make sure I don't come off as overbearing and chase her away. I'm fine with playing it cool for now and if I could F-close it would be an added perk.

This one is fucked. But if you want to try go ahead. Personally, it sounds like a really nice blow off after you did something wrong. But lets assume she's telling the truth and you want to play it cool...


Just play it cool!

Invite her things you are doing. Make the occasional inappropriate sexual comment, and just allow yourself to have fun with her.

Girls like this are not looking for ANYTHING remotely serious. You kind of just have to hangout and play the waiting game till she is either ready or horny. As long as you let her know that you are interested in her by occasionally hitting on her, plus hang with her in a non-pressure filled way... she'll come around.

I highly advise against being rebound guy though. Most people use and abuse the next person they are with after a shitty relationship because they need to validate their egos and take back some sort of control. That's why she said what she said... because women are submissive and men are dominate. She's looking to take back control in her life. Control that would not allow you to be the man and her to be the woman. Control that would basically switch roles in the male/female dynamic - which is kind of mood killer for everyone involved.


S

I forsee this girl going out with her girlfriends, getting plastered and having a hand full of one night stands.


S

THIS ONE IS A CLASSIC

How many times havent we heard this guys?

As sinn said, shes not into anything serious, and shes letting you know that shes looking for some fun.

She mentioned her last relationship sucked, but at the same time she wants to know your opinion on this...

so... "not into anything serious" + "got out of bad break up" + "k close twice" + "want to know how you feel about it" =........... "do you want to be my rebound guy?, i just want some fun no strings attached, and im not ready for anything right now but sex, since IM A HORNY ASS GAL WHO MADE OUT WITH YOU twice, i just want that for now, what do you think??"...

and theres also THIS.... That last question i believe is the main indicator, showing that shes trying to make you make a desicion on the course of action and the way you want your relationship with her to be. meaning that she wants you to determine what are you going to do next about your relationship.

Play it cool. youll eventually find out if shes been turning down those ONS because she was really depressed, or if shes been sleeping on a different bed each night.

Peace !

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