Hi guys, Completely stumbled on this forum and so far i have spent a few good hours reading through FAQ and other helpful things on the forum. I first got the idea to search this after buying a Self help type guide how to get your girlfriend back. Yea sad i know. but if you dont know how they work, you got to learn how they work! The author of the ebook was also a PUA and seeing it from that point of view was inspiring. Im more then willing..

Long story short, we broke up mid feb of this year and had been together for 2 1/2 years. Totally in love and still is. We officially broke up after a break a month ago after she said it was for the best. Reason was my priorties got in the way. Ive tried the old ive changed my point of view routine but at the moment she is hurting bigtime and obviously doesnt want to get hurt again. i went to see her last week after i got a text message we need to talk about where we are going. So i did..

Basically she wants to be close friends (LJBF), but i dont. Its corny I know but she is the girl for me. The one so to speak. All the questions ive asked her we have agreed on, she is still allowing to touch her hands,face, arms legs no problems and we even shared passionate kisses when i kissed her neck like she loves. which is a good sign i thought. If she was bothered about me touching, i guess i would have known where i stood more.
I have wrote letters that she hasnt seen yet expressing my love, emotions and feelings for her. Even though i have already told her them. I havent shown her. But i do want to at some time. As i do put things down better then saying them i feel. One question i asked was "am i pushing you away with me doing this" her answer was yea alittle. So my plan is just be cool from now on.

She wont sleep with me i know that. She isnt that type of girl. she feels that would be wrong. but i can get to the point of kissing her and touching her quite easy.
She wont give me another chance at the moment because she see's the males in her life (her dad) have given her so many rough deals and he as messed with her head over so many times, she is having a hard time doing it with me. She said she still trusts me and loves me so much as do i. I guess from her post of view im being needy. And i can see that. i am only trying to show her my love. But from now on i have set myself a task to JLBF and work on that from there.

Ive done the normal things. Changed my hairstyle, clothes, aftershave etc and i even asked her if she still found me attractive as to which she answered yes. i believe in asking her straight out not these mind games.

Could anyone give me some pointers how i should be with her. Im guessing i should now just leave it as friends? and just be attractive as possible? Not show her the letters? I guess im in push pull territory at the moment and my pull was just to be a friend. then a push with the letters.. I havent contacted her since last tuesday when we spoke face to face. Im hoping she gets in contact with me as we have arranged to meet up again as friends at her house.

thank you for any advice anyone can give me

P.S i did post this in the relationships forums even though she WAS my girlfriend i guess its still a newbie question so i deleted it and re posted in this area instead

I think I'm going into a diabetic shock. This post is so sweet I want to puke. No offense bro, but everything you are doing is the exact opposite of what the PUA community preaches.

What you want to do is get her attention back, and professing your love for her isn't going to do that. Ignore her for about a month (if you can stand it), see if she reaches out to 'you', this will at least show you if there is any interest on her part.

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

Hey thanks for your input.

Ive actually already done the No contact route and i apologise for no mentioning it sooner in my first post.. First time we did that, she broke contact a week into that and i really didnt want to ignore her as that was something we never did and probably never will so i then kept minimal contact with her (once a week if that, sometimes longer) that i felt was a good sign as she made the first contact and has shown interest. I just feel she is very confused. not about her love just if its the right path she wants. The hurt isnt helping us both. i want to progress from LJBF and i feel from the material i have read so far here on the forums and also from the books etc the signs are there she is interested.

Anymore guys with some ideas, tips etc i could try?

She put down in the email she sent me when we broke up she thought i saw her as a convenience and thats not true. So thats installed in her mind..

okay, I am new but.... you really need to absolutely cut her off hardcore. ignore emails, phone calls, dont let her visit, dont visit her. it's the hardest thing ever, but you gotta do it, or you're gunna FAIL!

ive touched briefly on the situation at the moment but not in detail which is my fault, Sorry.
The way i left it was that if i didnt want to be friends with her i wouldnt contact her again. And she was happy with that as she knows how hard it would be for me to deal with. But your saying dont contact her at all? She wont be even tempted because she feels its not what i want, She will respect that regardless. That i know is 100% sure.

thanks for your input