well been talking to this girl, i talk to her in class, she's kinda shy, i talk to her on facebook and we flirt a lot, she tells me she likes me and everything but everytime i ask her to go somewhere with me, she declines. I could choose to freez her out but i only have about a month before school is over. so how should i deal with this situation.?

Its called the oneitis. Your to obsessed over her. Try flirting with other women, and see if you still got the same feelings for her.

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no man. it's not like that. i just need to know how to respond if I ask her out or something and she says "no i can't,becasue of blah blah". I'm having trouble with that, and also she has a friends that she keeps hanging with, that other girl is such a cockblock haha because she doesn't want to leave her friend and go with me. lol so yea any other productive suggestions?

Then insist upon another date I guess? Ask her to hang out not on a weekend, but like a Monday or a Wednesday. Makes it seem less of a date that way, but your still hanging out.

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ok if she declines again. should i give here like a warning or something that says if she keeps declining she'll lose me??? lol

If you insist on a date, she considers you as always available guy, she just can have your attention whenever she wants. And whenever she doesn't want, she can ignore you. She has just an advantage over you. She is the one who rules. Sincerely, I'm not sure you can do anything. The best way to have attraction is acting like PUA from the very beginning. You may have dropped in "a friend" or "admirer" drawer.

Most women like there are guys who admire them, increase their self-esteem, compliment them, are eager to go on a date, but that is everything they expect from such guys. This is just comfortable for them.

But you have nothing to lose, anyway. Maybe try draw her attention by fooling around with other girls. In any case your worth in her eyes will increase.

Good luck buddy

Thats def what you DONT want to do. You are just going to make the situation awkward and uncomfortable for her. Just drop it.

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Great analysis but there are plenty things the OP can do.

She's treating you like her little brother. You go, "Big sis? Can you take me to the mall?" She goes, "Lil' bro, I'm hanging out with my friends. Next time." . . .and the next time, she knows you'll always be hanging out at home with your xbox so there's absolutely no need for her lose any of her precious time for you.

So . . . you have to treat her like YOUR LITTLE SISTER. Once you firmly keep this in mind, you will begin to do things a bit differently. What are all the things that a big brother says and does to her little sister?

You might call her a pet name, "Hey munchkin'."

And you'd be out and about in the World hanging out with all your "important" friends but once in a while, "Hey, munchkin, how about if I take you to the ______ for a soda pop."

Her: "Blah, blah, blah with Julie so blah, blah, blah . . "

You: Really? That's so cute. Well, tell Julie I said hi."

How many "big brothers" do you know that will constantly ask his little sister to hang out with him? But when they do take some time out for her, they put some thoughts into it and try to do things for her that is FUN FOR HER. So a few days later, try something like:

You: Hey, you're into that ice cream shop on ______ st. aren't you?

Her: Yeah . . they have the best Cappuccino Crunch ever . . .

You: Ha ha ha . . . I didn't even know that was a flavor. Alright, let's go try it out after school.

Her: Blah, blah, blah . . .

You: Alright munchkin, have fun with Julie. (And the whole time, you just smile and even give her a nudge on her shoulder as if to tell her "Hey kiddo, I'm really glad you have yourself a fun play date." . . . it's soooo cute . . .)

Keep this frame and interact this way with her a few times . . .

"Hey munchkin, you and Julie are like best friends for ever huh?"

Her: Yeah, we're best friends. We do everything together.

You: That's cool. . . Hey, a bunch of us are headed to ______, why don't you bring Julie along too?

She'll break sooner or later. And if you respond to her "no's" like the way I described above, you'll eventually hear her go, "So what are you going to do?" Well, you should have a lot of your own incredible life planned out anyways . . . just like any cool older brother would . . .

You: I guess I'll head over to ______, with ____, ______, and ______. We can try that sometime. . .

(You don't TELL her that she will lose you. You DEMONSTRATE to her that she's already missing out on a great time with you.)

she sounds like she is super shy. so just act like your done with her and she will come running back. I do it all the time to girls that waste my time. Just make it obvious that she isn't exciting so your leaving. Then she will start trying to get at you harder. I know thats broad and brief, but I don't feel like typing in detail. Thats just the overall idea.

Now thats the best advice given, take a hint the girl doesn't like you move on

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ahahah thankx guys a lot but GOT HER!!!! all i need now is some money for some condoms. lmao

haha owned!

That's awesome! What advice did you use?

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