Socializing on the internet I find pretty much useless in regards to developing natural people skills. Because the whole spectrum of human interaction is 92% nonverbal, with text all you're doing is exchanging information with people. The percieved emotional context of your words and others responses can be very ambiguous without the body language and nonverbal context to go with it.
The internets and texting is good for easily keeping in touch with people you interact with IRL, cus they already sense your personality and can have a feel for what youre saying. Also for meeting friends of friends via profile posts and joining internet groups that get together IRL, like facebook events and on meetup.com.
Online sarging tho doesn't appeal to me. I'm a developing natural and renaissance man in progress; I want to meet friends and fwbs throughout life as it happens. In the streets of Santa Monica, at the beach, at parties, at fitness classes, at school, on hiking trails, at grocery stores and furniture galleries... anywhere. And this happens by getting my ass off the internet more. The internets are a great source of info, I can use the information overload to improve my life in every way but I can also get sucked into it. Even when I keep the drapes open so I don't fap, the internets can still be an addicting refuge for procrastinating on anything. Learning theory without practice. A half hour less online anyday could be a half hour more going out and exposing myself to real life social oppurtunity.
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I think your motivations in the right place dude, but when Im reading what you write, you sound almost like a robot. I dont say this to criticize, but if you want to be friends with somebody becuase it "adds social value" then you are going about life the wrong way.
As forementioned, text carries much abiguity with it. The direct technical way I write is purposely to be objective and present ideas clearly and understandably through text. Although I do have the ablility to talk this way as well, like when Im talking to someone I really dont wanna talk to, or trying to communicate information with co-workers in order to carry out a task. Its not good for socializing.
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First, try to make some friends who you seriously enjoy spending time around. Never stop meeting new people, but don't do it to satisfy some invisible "social network" that may make some girl think you are "more worthy". Its all BS anyways.
Remember that this community is about achieving our higher self and living the lifestyle not just pickup alone. The two are inseperable I think.
Reason I want to learn social skills and build social circles is because its more FUN going out with your people than going out alone. You meet someone and their group of friends while you are offering them your group of friends as well. When going for a pickup alone, but coming from a life of social abundance my inner game will be more solid than coming from social lacking. Being a long time loner I give myself infinite social value and sense of fun. Nevertheless I feel like an extrovert living the life of and introvert, and progressing on the switch.
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I think your goals are good, but things should be natural and fun. Stay motivated, but seriously not everything is just about having higher "social value" to meet more women. IF thats the case, then I think there are other areas of your life that need work first; such as being able to enjoy yourself with a group of friends.
I had a few days to think before posting back, and actually found one major sticking point to address, one which can actually be the gateway into building a social life. It occured to me that I cant remember the last time I had an actual conversation with anyone. I talk to ppl quite normally aven acheiving rapport for a bit but just don't havent had any conversations. Its just like saying stuff to each other and only lasts a minute or 2.
This is now where my focus is upon as Im about to get on 3 buses and go to work now. Have converstaions with people! On the bus, customers, employees, etc. Initiate conversation with ppl I enjoy being around and just enjoy myself around them... Sounds like a plan.
Interesting. I think most people find online far more liberating and easier to be cock funny sarcastic or whatever.
I think you should still persist with online as *part* of your strategy. I would use stuff like Meetup which aims just to get people together in real life. The main problems with the net are people just playing around and it's a bit of fun stringing people along (they have a boyfriend, they're married, they are not even female etc etc) You have to do a lot of filtering as there are so many girls wanting "online only" stuff and to be frank you're better off spending that time outside meeting real people. i have met a few girls from using the net but to be honest I question it's effectiveness.
Regarding facial expression and tonality. It maybe worth getting into some sort of theatre or acting group. I had and to some extent still do have that problem. When I was much younger one relationship crashed simply because the girl kept asking me if I was interested in different things and I was quite expressionless
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do not anger the great crazy1320 by only doing online socialising
