Call it 1-itis or call it me being a bitch, but I feel like this is a common occurance. Every PUA has that one girl that just seems to be too good to be true, and are to nervous to try and talk to them, or pick them up. I happen to be hanging out with mine tonight because she is a friend of a good friend and we are having a little party for the last night at school. I've talked to this girl on plenty of occasions but just not talking to pick up, just talking to befriend. I think that I already have a good thing going with her, just not on the sexual level, on the friend level.

I was hoping that you guys could help me out on this one. I'd like to hear about past examples of this same situation and just any tips in general on how to approach this situation tonight. Any help would be appritiated!

Take out the ax...time to chop this girl off her pedestal.

There have been times in my past when a girl was "perfect." It caused me to go a little too AFC and I was thinking way too much about her. However, if you take a step back, "see the forest from the trees" and see everything as they really are, you'll see she is not perfect. She could definitely be a great gal...just not perfect.

Earlier this school year, I met a girl in one of my classes who seemed to have it all - similar interests, personality, looks, head on her shoulders, etc. However, while I was in pursuit, it didn't take me long to realize this girl is not perfect. For starters, she was a closet attention wh*re. She wasn't blatant about it (as some girls are), but you could tell - just watch her when she's talking to other guys. Second, she was deathly scared of confrontation. She'd do anything to get out of a situation. She gave me a bs excuse about something once, I saw right through it, and I have never seen any girl leave so quickly. Finally, this goes along with the attention wh*re thing, she'd try playing all sorts of games. Instead of being herself, she'd sometimes start doing some strange things just to see what happens, and if any guys would cater to her or not.

In conclusion, there's a decent chance you're dealing with a great girl. Just realize she isn't perfect and you're probably just as good as her - if not better.

if you have something going on, why rush it? if you think she's the perfect girl then wait and get to know her better. and eventually you'll get in her pants. women appreciate guys who wait.

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I hope to god you are being sarcastic. Unfortunatley I don't belive you are... If she is at all interested she is probably wondering why you haven't tried to put a move on her by now and you may have missed your window. My best suggestion is when you are out together, get her away from the group...just say something like "Could I get you to help me with a problem I've been having?" put your hand out to her...she should take it if for no other reason than couriousity and lead her away. As soon as you can get to a quieter spot say something like "I've got this problem..." and then just kiss her. If she has been at all interested, she'll be like "finally!"...and if not, you make her interested by showing her you've got a pair (by kissing her...don't whip 'em out ...). If she's not interested because you are solidly in the LJBF, she'll shoot you down but gently. If that happens, chalk it up to a learning experience and realize it was your fault and pull the trigger faster next time.

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srsly, you are probably the one girl here who still totally doesn't understand herself at all.

At least the other girls, while still actualy knowing whats up, give informed female opinions, but you just give the straight fantasy nonsesne girls grow up to believe they want.

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I stumbled in here misreading the thread's title as the "Perfect GRILL".

This is an oxymoron.
Thus, this is an impossibility.
And this girl simply wrote what she believes like the rest. No big deal.

lol kasabi


well, its mostly a warning against her continuing to talk in absolutes about something she doesn't actually know anything about.

and i know that message sounded weird...as i wrote it it felt wrong but i couldn't think of how to fix it without making it shit-tons longer.

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Some girls appreciate guys who take it slow, and some are always on the fast & furious lane. You can't speak of girls as if they're one and the same. You'd be surprised with a New Yorker who never go bed-hopping and you'd be surprised from a Wisconsin lass who'd change guys like undies.

But uh, to hold true to being a PUA, then do it. Bet you're not an apprentice on these things. You gotta pick the right moment. When you're out hangin' about, enjoying a few drinks, just havin' a good time-- you can tell the perfect moment to strike!

If "appreciation" gets you laid, I would have become a municipal garbage man.
Of course not but I'm pretty certain that girls don't have balls.
I like your style. Just hagin' . . . loosey goosie. Relaxin' and havin' a good time . . . and then wait . . .wait . . . still havin' a good time . . . loosey goosie . . . wait . . . then STRIKE mutha fucka! Yeaaaaow!~~~ PUA KungFu! This is good.