Hi, I'm yet another AFC (26 y.o.) just entered the game. Basically my situation is that I have just broken up with my long term gf and I'm trying to adapt yet again to the world of singlehood. My memories of being single and trying to pick-up girls aren't all that nice. Typically, in bars, I used feel like I was banging my head against the wall and didn't really get what I was doing wrong. This time, I hope to approach my singlehood a bit more wisely.
(BTW, I'm not native english speaker so try not to mind any grammar mistakes I make.)
I have some things going for me. I'm not all that bad looking, I'm sporty, well-educated, somewhat deep, analytical and intuitive. I'm also pretty communicative and self-confident when I have some real issue to deal with. The main problem is that these traits don't tranfer easily to social situations. Smalltalk, flirtation and social games don't come naturally for me and I often find that I have to force myself to learn social stuff that other people "get" automatically. I'm not what you would call socially fluent and I don't really get that much out of normal social interaction.
Since I'm new to the game I haven't yet learned and tried out too much stuff. I'm currently half-way through the Strauss's The Game. I also ordered some NLP and body language book I'll go through next. I have also went couple of times to local restaurants to try out some stuff. I found out that if I just can overcome the AA I don't do all that bad. Opening the situation can be a bit hard, but once I get past that it's actually pretty easy to talk to girls. I don't like that much sets that are pre-written altough I have used some routines like the "true friend test" and stuff like that. Typically I just talk something that comes to my mind, throw open-ended questions, try to read their body language (to know if they approve or not, etc...) and tease them to get the situation forward. Anyway, it's a work in progress.
But that's about it this far. I look forward to participating discussions here.
CHAT
