Guys,

So I need to get advice on what to do after the hookup or initial meetings with a girl. I was set up by a mutual friend to go out with this girl at my school and we hit it off. We both have pretty different interests (she loves music and is kind of a hipster) and I'm more of your meat and potatos football watching sort. Either way the banter was good and I got her number and kiss closed. We ended up hooking up the next night but we were both a little buzzed. Anyways we hung out after this but it ended up being little awkward. We didn't really talk about hooking up and instead just talked about boring things and I felt myself asking a lot of dumb questions as opposed to being the life force of the conversation.

So my question is...where the hell do I go from here? I'm trying not to have any expectations and instead just live in the moment but at the same time this girl is really cute and I think if we could just get past this awkward phase that we could really have some fun together. The last time we hung out I ended up just walking her home and kissing her but there wasn't much heat or passion...it was a step back from our hookup. I need to be the man but I don't know how to go about it. Do I now call her? Do I wait to hear back from her? Should I arrange a more formal date? If I sound a little lost its because I am. I basically need to figure out a way from getting to the "get to know you" stage to the "I can't stop thinking about this dude" phase for her. Help!

-C

Just to start off, you should know that everyone is afraid of something.
And the best way for you to be in control is to hide it or overcome it.
You said after the sex/hookup it was "buzzed" off and you started asking questions that you thought were stupid.
My advice to you would be to break the ice or the awkward situation.
By taking this step, it actually gives you control, or at least she will think that you are in control and are comfortable around her.
The best line would be to ask her: "On an awkwardness scale between 1-10, how would you rate this moment?"
This line will immediately break the ice and let you guys confront the awkwardness or uncomfortable zone. And again, communication is key.

Another thing that I should add. She doesn't seem to be that big into texting - a few friends had suggested that a good ice breaker for the next time I see her is to try and have some playful text conversations but the texts that I've sent usually have a short response from her. So I think I need to scrap that plan.

Take today for instance. The last time we hung out was last night and I dropped her off and we kissed but just briefly. Neither of us really made definite plans to hang out but I think its implied that we will. Should I contact her today? Or does that seem too needy. I'm the one who has so far made the calls and arranged things. Maybe I should lay off for a little and have her come to me. I don't really know...that's why I'm asking.