Ok so tonight is prom and after tonight, I am breaking up with my gf I've been dating for 3 1/2 months. I started textin other girls again but none of them seem to interested. Hell no one thinks I'm interesting anymore ever since i started dating. Idk what I've changed or what but honestly...how do I rebound from this? Do I just start textin again and not talk too much or what? I used to text about 25 girls at a time but now its like 1 or 2 maybe even text back. Examples of how girls are responding.

1 rarely texts back
1 is really hot and seems interested but has a BF. (Any ideas?)
1 is flaky
1 texts back when it is her convenience
1 i talk to on facebook but she never texts me
1 will text me when she's not around her bf because she is scared of him getting mad. she's really hot though.

Help!

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My attitude towards talking to woman. When I approach a HB one phrase is going in my mind.
"What are they gonna do? Not be my friend?"

If you are really offended that women aren't texting you, then that within itself will lead to problems down the road. If a woman ever gets the impression that your happiness depends on whether or not she will validate you, she'll be completely turned off.

What you have to do is set a new mindset for yourself, Notify. First of all, don't take it personal when women don't text back or don't pay attention to you. It's their loss, which they'll soon regret.

Secondly, realize that people's perceptions of you can change over time. It doesn't take a summer break from school for people to notice a change in you. It can happen right now as you read this. It can start the next time you go to school.

From what I read, it seems like you're one guy chasing 25 girls. It should be 25 girls chasing one guy. Be the prize that women chase. Be it in your mindset and in your actions.

Treat every girl like she is obsessed with you. How would you act differently if you knew she was obsessed with you? You'd probably be a bit turned off, and you DEFINATELY wouldn't be upset because she didn't text you.

Notify, texting is mearly a method of communication. I rarely do it, because 1: Phone conversations mean more to me. 2: I'm honostly too busy to be texting women, and when I do, it's usually just to arrange actual meetings with them.

Learn the game, practice, and you'll be gold.

Roy Hobbs

Don't get hung up on what you had in the past. You are the prize, not the girls.

Are you getting out to meet other girls?
Where are you friends at? Doing anything exciting with them?

Do you have conversations with these girls regularly where you would have them join you on some outing?

What did you do before that had you talking to 25 girls?

Sounds like your in a rut, if you keep this mindset, you will remain here!

Get out, get a new hobby like dance class or play an instrument. What's going on in your city?

For me, a friend got me into Salsa classes which I thought was the dumbest idea ever with my 2 left stumps! (I got feet, it's a joke).

I mention it to girls and I have yet to have a girl NOT say, I wish my BF or Ex-BF was into that, that's sooo cool. I ask them to join and WHA-LAA not to mention, some of the girls there are HOT and single at the class, some are NOT single but because there MAN is too much of one to not be there, that's where you come in!

wait wait wait...when did texting become so important?


maybe they aren't texting back because you guys have talked too much.

keep texting to a minimum, so that there is ALWAYS something to say

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Every Saint has a Past, Every Sinner has a Future

I'm not exactly sure how do make myself the prize..I've always been chasing the prize never really stepped back to be the prize. Whats the best route I should take?

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My attitude towards talking to woman. When I approach a HB one phrase is going in my mind.
"What are they gonna do? Not be my friend?"

You should read or listen to Swinggcat's "Guide to Real World Seduction". It explains in great detail how you can become the "prize".

where can i listen to it?

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My attitude towards talking to woman. When I approach a HB one phrase is going in my mind.
"What are they gonna do? Not be my friend?"

Google it


Also who cares man if you don't get txts. Seriously life is way to short to be worried about those little things. If I have to approach ten women just to get one number, I will do it. Of course you get a little AA, but as time progresses that will be a thing of the past. This helps your life all around. You can use these new social skills to become a better communicator, and build new social networks in your area.

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Giovanni

The most immediate change you can make is to stop chasing women. That sounds rather hypocritical considering how you can't also have women lead you. You have to be actively disinterested. It's like bait. Bait doesn't catch food by chasing it, it catches it by luring it.

Tease women. It shows that you're of higher value. Being the "prize" means that you also have a set standard. I have personally turned away far more pussy than I've nailed. Men with standards screen women. When it comes down to it, you should want to know that the woman is of value and has things going for herself. To know that, ask questions that make women qualify themselves as potential mates.

Learn push/pull. This is what will ultimately drive women crazy for you. For every time you validate her, you should withdraw validation and leave her begging for more attention and approval. A rather generic example would be: "You're pretty cool, but *something she does that's not cool*".

A prize is something people must earn, and want to earn. There's enough material on these forums to help you out, but it will ultimately come down to you learning it through experience.

Good luck.

Roy Hobbs