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I met this girl online, first wrote to her she sent me her phone number. A few days later I called her she texted me so I called her, she called back. I asked her about meeting that night. She said how about tommorrow morning, I agreed. I met her at starbucks that morning a few times she would use her foot to touch mine she was talking more which I liked. When she had to go she asked me aren't you going to waLK ME OUT? i SAID YEAH.We waked out, she told me that it's a good day to go to beach , I said yeah she had to take her mom's van baCK. She made an attempt to give me a hug as she did i but my hand on her lower back. As I did that i went for the kiss she leaned in, i kissed she kissed on lips she did not pull back she hestitated as we kissed a few seconds which I thought was good.After that she told me to make plans with her soon. I said ok, She left I left. On fri i called her around 2:30PM SAYING IT'S MICHAEL gIVE me a call and said my number like 30 minutes later i texted her what's up? she said she was studying homework for her school in library how have you been? she said its quiet in here. I told her lets have dinner tonight at outback steAK house then go to lamirage nightclub, she texted me back saying her gf invited her to a all night christian deal. I texted back telling her lets go to dinner then after marguertia jones club. she texted me back saying im going to a little family party, we'll see. I texted her back telling her lets go tommorrow night to salsa club watch lessons eat then stay for the club,as i write these texts no response from her.i previously tried to flatter her about how great her kiss was and told her her lios beautiful again no response, all these were all within a 2hour time frame friday 4-24-09 . i was thinking this monday if no response call her at 9pm let phone ring three times if missed call she will respond if no respond i will text her hi karen it's michael. how have you been? lets hang out in awhile.
if no response dont call or text her till sunday. is this good or bad? seems like she intrested, but now look , i think i blew it on same day by not wanting to get sexual with her, don't know. what is next step really thought i had a conection with this girl. seemed like she did also. what is my next step?

please help mixed up guy here

Hello,

my immediate reaction is that you are REALLY into this girl and possibly have one-itis. one itis causes negative reactions and women pick up on it. Treat the whole deal as if it were no big deal. Maybe you are telegraphing too much interest early on.

she possibly senses that you are chasing big time and it is like chasing your shadow. the more you chase you harder it gets to catch.

so...

dont sweat it dude!!! Women love to think that you are at home driving yourself nuts about what to say or what time to call. Take it easy. Just play it cool. Call if you want but leave the ball in her court but try to include some kind of time limit for her to call back. this way, lets say she doesn't take your call and you leave her a message, you say, hey i am going .... wherever, it is at, 8.00 let me know if you are coming. that way, you can find out what the score is and then if it is on then great!!!! and if not then move on.