whats good everyone...new to the site...and new to the lingo and stuff...but yall got this shit DOWN...just skimming thru some posts...I was amazed and learned alot

anyways....maybe someone can help me with this....

i go out maybe....once a week....its whatever...i ocasionally have luck...picking up girls however when it comes to 10's...rarely everrrr....until this weekend

an honest 10 in my opinion came up to me out of no where and said '' hi''....we had like a 20 min convo...exchanged numbbers...said i was cute and wanted to hear my story...blabla...

so we talked once...via instant messager....

you kno basic get to kno u stuff...and im like 99% sure shes diggin me...when the relationship topic came up...she said she wants one...but doesnt wanna get hurt...and has stated that she thinks im cute...

so...as far as persuing this...

how do u guys think i should go about it....as far as getting her to go nuts...

what are some ideas for convos....first date ideas...ect. that will guarantee she sticks around.......

i was thninking taking her to the observatory or to bet on the horse races(yea i kno...cheesy but hey they have worked in tha past)...then out to eat....do i pay?..do i go for that first kiss at the end?

I mean flowers kinda goes against what is preached here....does it?...any suggestions.....thanks!!

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She seems to be sceptic about having a relationship with you because she doesn't wanna get "hurt". This means you have to build comfort with her. Talk about her life etc and be a little more "deep". What you must not forget is to kino escalate at the same time so you don't fall into the LJBF zone.

Zentrode...thanks for the response....anyone got any ideas on what kinda date...and how i should go about it??

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something sexual/romantic.

how old are you? if your younger (high school/college age) maybe something simple like a movie. that will get you close, make kino easier, and keep you out of the friends zone. hold her hand, pick a chair that the arm rest goes up, put your arm around her, ect. its easy to fall from 'your cute' into the ljbf. keep conveying sexuality and sexual spikes in your conversations, but dont go overboard and scare her away.

heres what im doing. that movie 'fighting' is coming out friday. definitely a guys movie. if you can have the right frame about the movie, inviting her to that particular movie wont convey too much sexuality, but get you in a perfect place to escalate.

(if youve seen 'never back down' which is my favorite movie, that will definitely help you. just preface this movie by saying it will be a sequel and you have GOT to see it)

possibly afterwards, given that she likes parties and isnt extremely shy, in order to help make your date seem natural invite her to a party afterward (since that seems to be how you met her) to show her your fun. the movie will build comfort, and the party will turn on the "this guy is great. he can watch a movie, and have fun at a party in the same night. hes interesting" switch. also although it is frowned on in the PUA community, drinking/the party SPAM works wonders for my game. a chick agreeing or suggesting to play beerpong (if you guys do that) or smoke a hookah, or flip cup, kings, ect is a definite IOI.

the trick will be to stay confident. most guys (including myself) often feel inferior to a HB10, like they are under her standards, get too nervous and blow it. just remember the famous quote "you are the prize"

are you serious? convo ideas?

be yourself!

the only thing i would stress in your situation is kino to make sure you dont fall in the friend zone!

remember when you tell stories, stress emotion and feeling rather then the end result

haha well u guys have ideas for everything...rules for this ...rules for that...thought u might have rules for convos...my bad....and yea we are early 20's.....

yo u guys gave me some great ideas....for real...u guys on this website got sargin down!

MADDDD PROPS!!

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let us know how it ends up going! good luck

dude, horse race sounds good. look up k-c routines too. good luck dude, you got this bro!!

I seem to have picked a lot of common threads to reply to, so I'll link to my explanation of how I deal with conversation topics again:

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That's just what I do, I'm sure there are other ways too.

Man if a 10 just came up to you and said hi you basically just need to be fun and enjoyable! It seems to me that if you are just fun and exciting you could probably skip over a lot of the more hardcore PUA stuff and go straight for rapport. I mean, she's a 10, and she opened YOU. There's obviously attraction. I would just be cool, be fun, and work towards building rapport and comfort.

As for the relationship thing, I always wonder why guys of all people bring this up. If you want a relationship with a girl then just progress through what you would normally do in a relationship without addressing it. If things are going well, and you're rounding the bases at a normal speed, and you guys are mutually digging each other, then a relationship will form without a single awkward word being brought up about it. At some point it will probably be awkward NOT to talk about it, that's what you should go for.

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