It's almost worse than that... not just thinking highly of my self, although by and large I'm happy with who I am (which doesn't mean I'm not constantly striving to be even better), more that I think badly of people or get angry at things. See, there I was, scowling while I was typing again. I'm gonna be very good at smiling while typing in these forums soon, Pavlov run amok lol

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Michael Jordan said if there was one thing he could say to the world, it would be: Be optimistic!

When I played basketball, i would get beaten soooo badly (how many time can I beat you 7-0, in a row?) and I would challenge my friend again "i bet you can't beat me 6 times in a row". I was being optimistic and taking failure as simply getting better and better at alarming speeds!. he didn't see how i could take defeat with a smile, because most athletes are very competitive, but being optimistic instead of pessimistic payed off, as it does in the game. learing from experiences instead of taking it as defeat, knowing you're the best not just saying it in your head, and all that (no need to repeat beschatten, he already put it down!)

But the advice here really helped me, inner game is the best thing you can get! A must for anyone!

The only problem with this is that its faking happiness. This isnt the end soloution (as bes said he was depressed)
I was read something pretty much the same as this what don juan wrote, And the old confidence comes from happiness.
Its ok doing this in the mean time, but you cant keep it up forever. You have to truely find happiness in your life, coming from all different places. Then you truely have happiness and wont have to fake it. It will really show & will have women wanting to stick around longer.

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To effectively communicate, we must realise that we are all different in the way we percieve the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.

You ever seen team america? There's a scene where they talk about dicks, assholes and pussies. Better to be a dick than a pussy.

I know what you mean about thinking you're better than everyone else. When i was in Washington I was so upset all the time because I felt like the people around me were constantly letting me down. I looked around and saw that all people do is use each other and talk about values which they claim to profess but fail to live up to (or even try to live up to) in reality. It was just one big fucking joke I thought. (it may well be but that's not necessarily a bad thing anymore)

If you reframe your mind to truly make this reality YOUR reality, then you don't give a shit about things like that. Sounds like there's a "nice guy" on the inside which is turning into a bitter dude. Think about how awesome good things are and carry around a positive attitude with you wherever you go. Take the chance of being overconfident over the chance of hating it. Ignorance is bliss, remember?

Try saying in your head what you're thinking and try to say positive things in your head. Also pretend you own everything. When you're walking in the street pretend it's your street and observe the people walking on YOUR street. I find it helpful and it gives me a certain grace which strengthens confidence and improves mood greatly.

Just be the shit.

Great posts by the way - can't get enough of this stuff!

CPT

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"Wait, so let me get this straight. One really big meal a day then we go to sleep, no paper towels but a little bit of bread because we're not Nazis and as many popsicles as we want."

Haha, I like it - my street. I guess I see your point though, and to just not take shit too seriously. Because at the end of the day shit is just shit, and life goes on.

Man, I love this forum - sure, ostensibly it's all about pick up, but actually it's about being an awesome confident happy person, guy or girl, and making your life work for you. A consequence of that is pick up, but it's definitely not the most important one!

P, the evangelist

this is probably my biggest problem.

i dont really have AA. I can listen well, kino, all that shit. but i always tell myself that im not her type, or different from the guys on the dance floor, so I feel like im not myself if i try to do something. gotta rid myself of this shit. i want to become invincible out there.

Just stumbled on this a little while ago and thought I would try it before I posted. My verdict - Great.
A complete inner game has always been a falling point of mine, but this helps out, and I've noticed a big difference it has made in the cohession of the rest of my game. With a completely positive outlook I find other aspects of game melt into an almost 'natural' subset of socialising. The positivity regardless of outcome results in a stronger frame, little to no mental resistance (AA and social shyness) and the ability to cope with fuck ups with ease.
My game is at another level and my confidence is right where I want it to be. Beschatten and Chief, thanks.

Good post.

thanks Besch, great post! I just put a stickey note on my monitor that says "BE POSITIVE, banish negativity"

This is an excellent post man

How do you REFRAME your mindset? Especially if your not used to being positive?

this is "The Secret" basically it is positive thinking...neuro psychologists have monitored monks and how meditation actually effects the brain physically ...its crazy and exciting new stuff.. I suggest anyone to read up on this stuff

Absolutly love the post.

and it's the truth.

Reframing things as positive takes the power away from negative things.
Like rejection. I don't get rejected, I just discover if a woman has good taste.

Well I agree myself with this mentality but the problem is the more I reframe myself as a man who can do it the more I become cocky , honestly I dont want to become cocky it ruins my game.

thats why I came accross a realization which is , No game's game. thats it.

If you see two girls my mind automatically triggers the PUA routine book and goes with the conventional model.

But no I want to go with my personal feeling to the situation and turn off every bit of routines I know inside my head (trust me its not easy once your used to it)

Im going to follow these steps and see what is the difference between both. As for rejection its very easy a wiseman once told me the girl is attracted to you from the moment you open your mouth even sooner. thats why I dont bother myself with attraction mechanisms and so on if its there its there I just give the girl the oppurtunity to grab on to that one in a lifetime to talk to me.

Fair enough if this works for you, but how the hell can I apply it to my own life?

It's all very well and good people just saying to you - "be confident" or "be happy" without explaining it, but they don't actually explain anything.

You can replace negative thoughts all you want but at the end of the day, pretending to feel happy when your actually angry or miserable (e.g the MM bullshit methods - "fake it till you make it") will actually make you feel so much worse, im trying to use your methods now but to be honest, forcing myself to feel happy is fucking me up!