Hey,

I'm a new to the pua community. Got interested in it after reading the Art of Seduction, 48 Law of Power, and a bunch of body language books.

My question is...how does one strengthen their skills as a fpua? I'll be reading more books and what not but where are some good online resources or places to find a mentor/coach?

later.
~Spades

Welcome to the forum and the community. There are some great resources on this forum that you will find available to you.

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Been around the world twice, Talked to everyone once...

Hey there, welcome to the forum. I am a fellow girl here as well and we are starting to get a good number of women here, so it might help to talk to someone here. A lot of fpua revolves around being an attainable challenge. So I would say focus on material about push-pull, social proof, and preselection. I'd aslo suggest checking out info about getting the guy to invest and anchoring. Zip (the female moderator here) said she read The Rules and it was a good general overview for getting guys. But I haven't read it myself. But I think the most important thing for a fpua is the use of kino. Guys suck at reading signs but kino is one of the few they actually understand.

Welcome to the forum!

~B

Welcome!

I'm Zip, and I'm the female moderator at the forum. I'm also a positive lifestyle augmentation coach and writer living in NYC.

If you're looking for resources, I'd check out pickuptara.com (Tara from VH1's the Pickup Artist.) I'd also read "The Rules" and augment the strict set of rules to something a bit more flexible for your personality. Also, "The Art of Seduction" is an excellent resource and character study. Identifying what kind of seducer you are is pivotal for understanding and controlling your power to produce the utmost outcome.

Also, I'd pick up anything that Kim from the art of charm (www.theartofcharm.com) writes on the subject. She's absolutely brilliant.

There are a few resources on my personal blog (www.thedirtylaundryblog.com) that cover girl game. However, if you wait a few weeks... I have a new project in the works. It's called the FPUA Round Table Series which is a giant interview with all the top-tier female puas in the world. More info on that on the blog.

Female Game is all about making the guy think he's hunting you. Of course, it's also fun every once in a while to let a guy know you're hunting HIM (but those usually are only functional for a night or a few weeks.)

Anything you need, let me know.

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thanks for the tips.

I looked up info and read reviews for The Rules and its main points appear to stress autonomy/living your own life/etc. That already fits me like a glove so not gonna bother with it.

Hmm...maybe if I describe myself a little more it'll help point towards resource venues.

Read the Art of Seduction...twice
Think I relate best to the hot/coldness of the coquette and also with the personality of the dandy(without the weird clothes part). I have a nonchalant/cool/somewhat alpha demeanor of a guy but the looks of a 8-9 depending on my level of laziness.

Attracting guys comes comes easily and I'll continue reading more on it. Looking forward to your round table Zip. I've actually already been following Kim's stuff and your blog---very insightful.

What I don't know how to do though is be a good winggirl. The majority of times going out I'm with a group of guys. Some of them are ok with girls, others are a tad shy and would really benefit from me helping out. I want to be able to lead them into a group and help open or just bring a group over so they'll have people to talk to.

So my questions are these...
1. How do pick which groups to target and how to approach other girls as a female wing?
2. People to contact for more advanced 1 on 1 coaching through gchat or whatever other medium?

thanks for your time.