Hey everybody,

I'm 24 years old, living in Southern California, and am completely new to the game (all I've done so far is read Neil Strauss' book). I've spent my entire life drifting into the "friends zone" when it comes to women, possibly because I'm not aggressive enough to take the initiative in order to spark sexual interest. I'm a very social guy when it comes to group dynamics and have no problem talking with new people, but my main problem is making my intentions clear and getting the girl to see me in a different light. I think I have an advantage in the sense that I'm a pretty smart and funny guy, but it's pretty hard for me to translate that into a sensual or seductive manner of behavior. I guess some of my other weaknesses would include a reluctance to approach strange attractive women due to self-esteem and confidence issues, as well as awkward silences when I run out of things to say. It would also help if I could learn some methods to cure one-itis.

My goal isn't really to become a master pick-up artist or even to sleep with a ton of women (although I wouldn't mind that at all), but rather to have the ability to stay out of the friends zone and at least exploit the opportunity of having a romantic relationship with a person of interest.

Right now I think it's best if I go through a learning phase and absorb as much material as I can, but when I feel comfortable enough with the basic concepts and ideals of the community, I'll be sure to ask a lot of questions and fine-tune my abilities under the excellent tutelage found here at these forums.

Thanks in advance!

Welcome to the forum =)

quicksearch is your friend... especially when it comes to oneitis... quicksearch it and you will find more info than you can shake a stick at.

just remember that reading and learning are good... experiance is the best teacher...
not to mention sticking points are usually not found until you "find" them. =)

Lucky

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150 people are killed every year by Falling Coconuts.... 10 by Shark Attack.

I couldn't find any stats on death from approaching a woman.

Hi Mirage,

Jordan here. I dont know a lot about what your specific situation is, but as a general rule, try this on.

If you want to stay out of the friend zone, dont be a friend to begin with. Keep yourself in the acquaintance (however you spell the damn thing) zone. Be around, but dont let any of your targets get too close. If the targets seem to be getting too comfortable with you, bounce them for a while. Project the image of a player. Keep the target at arms length only letting them close enough occasionally to see that they want more of you, then become unavailable agian.

Stop acting like a friend.

There is a lot more to this technique than I can cover here (because I am at work) but if you wanna email me I can share more.

Dealing with people close to you (close enough to become friends anyhow) is different from Sarging randoms by night.

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