I've been through this recently: took her out, kiss-closed but she didn't reciprocate much of the kino, then she did not initiate any communicate and even ignored a voice message I left inviting her to hang out.
Here's how I fixed it:
I IM'ed her randomly a few days later about something cool that I found online (if you want examples, do a Delicious search for the tag 'cool').
To my surprise, she replied that she got a voice message but couldn't hear it because of the noise (true, I left it while driving).
The lesson is: don't assume she's not interested, unless she keeps ignoring you repeatedly. To paraphrase Brad P:
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Women like men to pursue them. If she says "no", stop, but *don't beat yourself up about it*. Continue hanging out, keep having fun, then try again later. Women don't really mean "no" most of the time; it's just that they have an internal clock as to how you are supposed to advance, and often it lags behind reality. But women respect men to take the initiative. So if she ignores you, ask her out. Women enjoy the pursuit, the chase, the drama, the romance, the sexual tension.
Women don't find it disrespectful if you make a move. They find it exciting to have a chance to tell you no, or to slow down etc. Example: guy who kept getting back at it after she said "no". She told him: "You know what I like about you? That when I tell you "no", you're not bothered by it. Other guys act just like big babies. I like that you're not a big baby".
Women know that they need to put their foot down. It's very natural for men to pull forward, and for women to stall them. It's the dance of dating. You try to move forward, she tries to move you back.
CHAT
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