When you tell a girl about how you feel-that you're falling for her, I believe you lose value or cool/control.

1. You fall to easily, a lot of girls like a challenge. And when you fall easily, you fall out easily too.
2. Girls are suppose to be the one falling and guys are the one who's suppose to be catching.
3. The thing is being a PUA requires you to be cool at all times.

So never fall in love with a girl-- only catch them, never show feelings towards a girl-- let her show her feelings and then reward her by telling her you feel the same way too if you really do.

Well, yeah there's a lot I agree with there however, this doesn't give you the excuse to be aloof all the time.

You need to mix it up. When I've acted like a prick, and she's submitted to me I reward her by being totally AFC and say sloppy stuff. To me it is all about calibration.

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I really don't like putting it into these terms, but you should be trading IOI's with the girl. It's okay to give away little bits of information to her as a reward for various good behaviour. Sharing an emotional connection is how one builds comfort. If she feels like you're cold, she might still be attracted to you, but she won't be comfortable with you.

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there is a point that you kind of should tell them, assuming you're really into them and its been a good deal of time

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There's a story behind this post. I met a girl online and game her so good that she started saying "I love you" in three or more different languages even though she already has a boyfriend--- before I started to really game her I told her I don't want to get involve or get to know her if she already has a boyfriend because I'm loveable and I don't want to steal her away (part of my game). Plus, I don't believe in stealing girls from their boyfriend even if they're not happy together. (If a girl is with guy and she isn't happy with him, she shouldn't be with him. I believe that's just being needy in her part). In the beginning, she was denying she had a boyfriend. So we went out together watched a movie, made her pay (haha I told her I will pay the next time we go watch a movie or next time we hangout. This is good way to go if you want a second date with somebody- make them pay and that you will pay next time around). Right before I was about to make a move, k-closed, I have a bad vibe. That I shouldn't go for the kiss. So I asked her again if she has a boyfriend, she denied a couple more times. Then she finally admit she has a boyfriend but their relationship is kind of rocky at the moment. I should've stopped gaming her when I found out but then she was saying all this good stuff about me. That she wanted me and that she loves me but the whole boyfriend part made me want to play around and not take her too seriously.

So I kept playing around with her and didn't really game other girls (which is bad in my part because usually if a guy who's single doesn't game other girls, you will get onevagina or something like that--- and I think there's where I am at the moment). The more I got talking to her, the more we have a lot of things in common. See, I didn't want to be in relationship, I just want to have fun and play around because of the PUA-- it's not that hard but it does take a lot of practice. But with this girl, she's like the almost the perfect girl for me after finding more about her and now I want to steal her away a few days ago. Maybe it's the onevagina thing kicking in, me not gaming other girls- making think she's the only girl.

Anyways, I told her that we should stop talking and that we needed to be on a break because I'm starting to fall/wanting her but she's with someone already and she's not the type to dump somebody because she found a better guy. I respect that. So I told her this is the last time (thursday 12-2am) talking to her and I said "I love you" at the end. Thinking about what I've done-- I realized that this was AFC mistake. I'm beginning going back to AFC mode and that's not where I want to be. AFC is an Average Frustrated Chump that what I think I was when I told her that. See being a PUA, you can't be needy/frustrated. Always got to keep your ground even if you don't like the ground you're in.